Was my mum BU to my sister??

[Evilwater]

So my sister is exhausted after moving to a new flat, she needs curtains.
My sister was hoping to get patterned pair for around £40-£50. She has seen some she liked for over 100, I said several times that I could pay the price as a welcoming present.

I'm saving for a new car so I have the money. ( which I'm hoping to order next month)

My mum who has put alot of work in finding what she likes in the price range ( which has been very difficult) was told that my mums choices were ok. However my sister wanted the pair about 100, my mum got upset that my sister would not accept the help I could give.

Ok, who's in the wrong ????

Err no one is wrong. Up to sister surely. Nice of you to help out!

Who... What...

I would prefer sis to be honest as she has to live with the curtains and as they are something she has to look at every evening it would be better for her to have the ones she likes

They are both stubborn as mules!

And yes there was angry driving, and tears.

That actually makes not one jot of sense. Not even one.

Do you mean that your mother is upset because your sister does want to accept your offer? And so will not be choosing from your mum's selection in the £40-50 price range?

I don't understand

your sister is 'exhausted'? You mean financially?

You have money to buy the curtains she likes and are happy to do so as a housewarming present?

Your mum has been looking for curtains within your sister's budget of £40-£50?

Your mum was told that her choices were ok? By who? Your sister? But she wanted the £100 pair?

But she won't let you buy them for her?

Or she will? But your mum wants her to buy the ones for £40? Or your mum wants her to take your money? Or doesn't?

I'm really sorry. I just don't get what you're saying. I am sorry.

As usual, what Hecate said.

Yeah, that's about it sue.
I know it doesn't make sense, that's why I needed mumsnet. My head is spinning.

I don't understand who is upset and why. Your sister should make her own mind up but really I would say she is capable of searching for and buying her own curtains in her price range without needing help or input from others.

I'm not sure from your post what it was your Mum wanted but the abobe is my opinion on the simple act of choosing and buying curtains!

Oh. Your mum is upset that you are going to be giving your sister a housewarming gift?

Tell her to mind her own business. You want to give your sister a housewarming gift. It's got bog all to do with your mother.

So basically, Mum is in a huff because the sister has not chosen the curtains that Mum lovingly picked out, after much research. Sister has gone for the ones she likes, which OP is paying half towards (one curtain each?).

Mum and Sister fell out cos Mum felt rejected and unappreciated and Sister felt manipulated and guilty.

Leave 'em to it, sez I.

Exhausted in money, working all hours, just got a new job and desparte to impress the boss.

My sister asked my mum to help find curtains in budget, which she did.
My sister disliked them, and preferred the expensive ones. I offered to pay, and was turned down. My mum wanted my sister to accept my gift, and my sister said it was to much.

Any better? Sorry about the way it was written as I am confused as to what happened. I just need to find who was in the wrong, so I can talk to them.

Oh bloody hell, is your Mum upset with you too? I thought just with Sister.

Oh FFS. I thought I had it right from your earlier post saying 'that's basically it Sue'. Clearly not

I give up. Good luck with it all

Sue has got it in one!!!

Thanks sue, it's a tough time.

ah. I see.

well, it's up to your sister. She doesn't want your momey. She'll save up the extra £50 I'm sure.

How did you put it? I'd love to buy these for you as a housewarming gift or If you can't afford it, I'll pay the rest

How you put things can make a big difference.

Nobody was wrong. That's the thing.

You were kind to want to help. Your mum has her opinion and your sister has her feelings about it.

Nobody is wrong. And you can't try to make it right or wrong or try to force your view on them. All views are equally valid and you'll just have to respect that.

Curtains are a fucker to buy. Expensive and, in the main, ugly. Curtain retailers ABU.

HTH

Hecate, your right. I should lock them both in a room, and let them sort it out.

Vivu, yes curtain retails are very expensive

Have read this several times - I still have no idea why any one is upset at all

Who's in the wrong? - God alone knows, probably your mum. Or your sister.

Argument over curtains? - they need to pull themselves together.

sorry

Oh kurri. How could you?

roffle @ KurriKurri !

I was wondering how long before that cracker joke turned up