I first posted about the mess I'm in at the moment on here about a week ago, I've had that thread moved to OTBT if you want to go and read it. To summarise briefly, I'm 35 weeks pregnant with DD1, and when I was 21 weeks DH told me that he'd decided he didn't want to be a father anymore. I left him at 28 weeks after things became violent. I then bumped into MIL by chance just before Christmas, and it quickly became apparent that she had no idea DH and I were no longer together. She said she'd talk to DH and phone me later. She finally phoned me back last week at work and laid into me; telling me that it was outrageous for me to come off the pill without telling DH (we had been TTC for about 6 months ) and basically I had ruined his life, she, DH and family were having nothing to do with DD. There is more to this, but I don't really want to go into that on this thread. I have sought legal advice since then and we're just starting the divorce process.
So today MIL turned up at work and managed to find her way to my office. I was completely taken aback, wasn't expecting her at all, but managed to tell her that she shouldn't be here and she was going to have to leave. She said not to be so ungrateful, she'd only come to drop by a few baby things for me, so she dumped three plastic carrier bags on my desk and left. I've just been through them: 5 boxes of formula (MIL definitely knows I'm planning to breatfeed), stretch mark cream 
, and 2 bags worth of baby clothes. All boys clothes, though MIl definitely knows DD is a girl because she spent weeks vetoing our baby names. Now, I'm not saying DD has to be in pink girly stuff from head to toe all the time, but this stuff is just so masculine that it couldn't be unisex, you wouldn't put a girl in it IYSWIM. About half of the second bag is onsies etc with slogans like 'Daddy's little boy'. Despite 'Daddy' and MIL having told me several times that they will not be in DD's life.
I feel a bit odd about it all to be honest, given the history here it feels like another dig at me. But then I start to wonder if maybe she was just trying to help out a bit but got it really wrong. We always got on so well before this, I know she's been given a very different version of events by DH. So AIBU or am I right thinking MIL is completely insane and malicious?