Sick of neighbors sex sounds

[LucyGoose]

This is getting me riled up and I its affecting my sleep.
I live in a condo, and the walls seem to be rather thin.

The neighbor next door, a guy who barely looks at anyone and grunts his hellos, has split from his wife (I guess they split b/c she is never around anymore).
He has a new young asian gf and her squealing and noises WAKE me up. Yes, I am a light sleeper but I am sick of this shit. To get woken up by a woman's sex voice is disconcerting, and worse, its happens all the time.

Last night it woke me up at 12:30 - she was screaming stop it! and Owww! - she sounded on the verge of tears and I guess they have some serious torture play going on, but keep it down! I can hear him say "I love it when you beg" and that type of stuff.

I almost thumped the wall b/c I was so pissed off that they woke me up AGAIN!

I am not going to leave an anonymous note, but a few loud thumps would do the trick right?

And no, they can't hear us when we do it, b/c we are v v quiet! LOL

Seriously, my husband says it would be rude to bang on the connecting wall, but I thinks its better than a note.

What say you?

The thing is, after she said all this last night, I could hear her speak to him and they both laughed. I didn't get the sense it was abuse, and of course, the police would be called if I thought it was.
More likely it is some sex game, albeit a hardcore one.

Or am I the only one who has been to Torture Garden? I know the diff b/t sex games and domestic abuse.

Surely fabby if your neighbours bang on the wall because of your because of your sex noises you take a hint.

GoingforGoal -I am in US

No I tell them to go get their own.

So your point is?

Tell them you can hear the screams/yells/sexgames/play/torture.

And if you think she is getting a beating,call the cops.

OK - enough people here have said police should be called, I am rethinking this..... maybe I don't know enough about the dynamics of abuse.

Now I feel terrible, maybe she needs help

Next time you see him stop him and say something like "I'm sure you haven't realised it, but I think you must have increased the volume on your tv recently and we can hear it quite clearly through the walls late at night, would you mind turning it down". It's a variation on what they say in hotels when people complain about shagging noises.

I know the diff b/t sex games and domestic abuse.

Not through a wall you don't.

Do it back with your DH then when they can hear you, they may realise that they themselves can be heard!!

but i agree with a PP - cheer them on!! haha

I WOULD call the police next time.
How worried are you about the neighbour finding out who made the call?
I was going to suggest a leaflet of Women's Aid, posted through the letterbox. The US equivalent instead.

x-posted - pleased you're rethinking this. Do call the police if it happens again. If it is just fun and games then no harm done but you could be helping her out of a horrible situation.

Of course I am worried about the neighbor finding out. He's very intimidating and big, and we have had issues with him before. I can barely look at him now, if the cops got involved, he would know it was us (the condo on the other side is for sale).

Are you renting, OP?

Ditto what SGM said.

Hope she's ok. :(

No - we own, as does he. Can't move right now....

Yes, SGM seems to have the solution. Remain anon, maybe is his GF goes to work, you could say you are a colleague and have noticed bruising and a low mood? Or she had confided in you?

Good luck, I know from experience how this sort of thing can effect ones life :(

Not everyone bruises during assaults. :( I think it's part of the reason no one twigged about my ex. I only bruised once, and that was on my back, so I blamed it on a fall. You can only mention bruises if there ARE bruises, really...

No, not everyone bruises in serious assaults, i agree :)

Call me immensly dim ...... "oi, Dim!" ...try leaning on the door bell and telling them they are inconsiderate feckwits.

Call Trois - Agent for Action in your neighbourhood

Yes...

"Excuse me, love. You may be being assaulted in there, but can you keep the noise down a little?"

I doubt she is being abused.

Am shocked at the rush to call the police.

This is how some people have sex - lots of fake screaming, ooh big guy, you're so masterful and powerful, I'm just a helpless little woman - you're the boss in this bed, I'm here to give you what you want. Etc etc

Not my style, but a lot of men are turned on by this - you know they are - it's the language of porn.

He sounds like a nob but not sure it makes him a rapist.

"ooh big boy" etc is hardly "oww" or "stop it, you're hurting me..."

I'd rather bloody well check.

I know what it's like too be stuck in an abusive relationship, scream while you're being assaulted, KNOWING someone can hear you, and have nothing done.