To just accept that having a hard to settle bf baby means I just won't get out at night for a while?

[Caz10]

Dd2 is 8mths, ebf and a nightmare to get to sleep...well not a nightmare but it takes a good few attempts and I am normally up and down to her at least 3-5 times from "bedtime" till about 11pm when she seems to settle in for a longer stretch of sleep. It's not great but it's not terrible, but obviously I haven't been out in the evening (without her anyway) since she was born. I'm starting to feel the pressure, friends being less understanding if I cant make a night out etc...tbh I'm ok with it for now, I'm pretty knackered to be thinking of nights out anyway... But am being made to feel that AIBU...what do you think?

Yanbu - my dd is 13 mo and I've not been out in the evening since she was very young. I do my socializing during the day, and frankly I'm ready for bed by about 9:30 anyway. I don't care, I prefer to spend my time with her than go out these days.

YANBU

bigbird80 mine are of the same opinion! And I think that is how dh's evening would be too. We should all gather round and have a virtual night out on here

YANBU at all. I'm planning my first evening out soon and ds is now 14 months.

Yes, people raise eyebrows, but I don't care. It's worked for us. At first my ds was a nightmare limpet baby, and co-sleeping and breast-feeding on demand were what worked for us. But gradually, gradually, as he grows older he changes. Day-to-day I don't see much difference but looking back - wow! he's a different baby.

DH can now put him down for naps and for the night just as easily as I can now, and we did nothing (!) at all to force that. We just waited for him to be ready and one day he was.

Virtual night out. Yay!

Virtual night out? When? Can I come?

The cocktails are on me!! As you can see Caz, I am sitting at home mnetting, watching tv with DP, drinking hot chocolate with a shot of baileys in it and popping upstairs to DS when he wakes up grumbling instead of dragging him out to a Pizza Express tonight. Thanks for those who said I should stay at home because I am having a lovely evening!!

I am very happy with my little family at the moment and these days where he literally needs me on tap won't be forever so I am relishing them.

I am also a bit chubby so I have managed to avoid the dreaded trying to squeeze into decent going out pre-pregnancy clothes drama for a little longer. Cheers everyone!

Aaah could have done with some of those cocktails last night! Was like a rerun of newborn cluster feeding, no sleep till around 1am and patchy after that! Hoping to see my friend the sofa t

Tonight!!

Tonight you say? But I haven't washed my hair, or found a special outfit.

You have enough energy to want to go out in the evenings? And you have an infant? Wow. More power to you. I didn't get out regularly until DS was just about done with nursing, at about 16 months. Before that point I really didn't care for anything at night apart from some peace and quiet in my own bed.

Hee hee sorry I missed the party! Yes you are right, I am too tired!! Actually if I thought I could nip out even say from 7-10pm, home and in pjs by 10:15, I'd be delighted! But that is Dds most unsettled period sadly. We are now adding the nightmare of teeth to the equation, things are dire!