Apparently I am being incredibly unreasonable and letting down all feminists everywhere, making Emily Pankhurst turn in her grave...
Background DP and I have been talking about moving out of his parents house because he's recently been given a good promotion in work and MIL and FIL have very graciously said that if we need any extra for a deposit on a mortgage then they will be happy to give us a loan. Bear in mind: this is a while off. At least a year, if not two.
I have a lot of body issues. I have suffered terribly from both anorexia and bulimia in the past, and I'm currently being treated for PND. Part of my depression is stemming from my body. I was a lovely size 10 before pregnancy but because I was carrying a lot of fluid and a baby that grew in bursts I am now riddled with stretchmarks and have to raise my belly folds up in order to clean beneath them in the shower. I'm on a diet and working out at the gym but nothing seems to be reducing my belly. It's affecting my sex life and my day-to-day stuff quite badly. DP thinks it's great - "more cushion for the pushin'" and so on. But I don't.
Anyway. Getting on with things.
DP turned to me today and said that he's been considering something for a while, that he will always find me beautiful regardless of how I look, and although it may not happen because there are too many variables involved, if we're able to save up 5K (for example, either through his wages or through the future mortgage) then he would be happy for me to use it as money for a tummy tuck.
I cried. I don't think I've ever loved him more.
To me, that says "I think you're beautiful just as you are but your happiness in yourself is far more important to me than my happiness in your body. It's your body and if you really feel strongly about it then we will find a solution that will make you a happier and more beautiful person, both inside and out. Because if you're happy and confident in yourself then it shines through and shows how you feel on the outside."
This conversation is, however, apparently the most sexist thing my "friend" has ever heard. He shouldn't be offering to change me, it's nothing to do with the way I look and I have to learn to accept the way that I am - good points and bad. And for him to openly suggest that I am anything other than perfect is just him being a wanker and wanting a Page 3 model for a wife. (Yes. She really did say that.)
I was absolutely gobsmacked! Am I really "letting the side down" by having my insecurities mended in an unconventional way?! Or is she being a complete tosser?