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to sign up to NCT antenatal classes for a SECOND DC??

29 replies

ahhhhhpushit · 09/01/2012 20:52

We have just moved to a new area many many miles from where we previously lived so we don't know anyone really.

We did NCT classes with our first DC and they were great as we made lots of friends and DS had friends his age which was great.

AIBU to sign up again for this purpose??? Would the others in the class think it wierd that this wasn't our first (everyone in my previous NCT class was having their first).

Thoughts??

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cocoachannel · 09/01/2012 20:53

I think they run refresher classes, I imagine they are really for people who want to meet other parents, especially people to meet up with during mat leave!

spottydogpencilcase · 09/01/2012 20:54

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NearlyMrsCustardsHardHat · 09/01/2012 21:01

I'd either do that or go to the midwife led ones next time round.

Two reasons. New area and the age gap between my youngest and any new baby will be at least 8 years so it'll be nice to be reminded of the idealised bubble of pre-childbirth life :o

IneedAbetterNicknameIn2012 · 09/01/2012 21:02

I say go for it! My SIL went on and on about a woman at her NCT classes who was having DC 3, or maybe 4? and 'it's not like she doesn't know what to expect, what a waste of time'
Umm well maybe, but hey maybe she has time to waste? Maybe she forgot things from the 1st time if they didn't affect her birth (ie I remember practially nothing about pain relief other than gas and air as it's all I had). What I mean is, even if other people do think you are weird, sod em! Everyone has the right to go to NCT for whatever reason they see fit! And you may even be able to help the other Mums as you have been there before!

seventieschick · 09/01/2012 21:05

As you have moved to a new area I think it's a good idea, but be prepared for a lot of pfb ness. I met a second set of mums at a playgroup when I had dc2 and I was much more relaxed than them.

salvadory · 09/01/2012 21:12

my NCT group had 2 of the 8 parents on their 2nd child.
I never thought anything weird about it (they were new to the area like me). I am a week away from baby 2 and have just done the NHS classes this time just to make more mum friends simply because I don't have the time (with a toddler) to sit through all of the NCT twaddle again, plus as the NHS classes were during the day I got time off work, bonus :)

edwinbear · 09/01/2012 21:29

I would have been quite pleased to have had an experienced mum in our group when I did NCT, to give us all a bit of perspective from time to time. When I think back, every one of us could have used a dose of that at some point.

EverybodysSnowyEyed · 09/01/2012 21:36

My DSis did and was the only non-first timer

the course leader was talking about how births can be different to how you have expected and asked my sister to tell the class about her first. She was vague as didn't want to freak them out but just made the point that things never go exactly as planned so to be prepared for anything.

One of the others said "well you obviously didn't spend enough time preparing as that's why you failed"!

Given my sister had had terrible PND after her first this was not helpful.

I made my friends through the baby groups too. Baby massage etc. Advantage was the price!!

EverybodysSnowyEyed · 09/01/2012 21:41

BTW my midwife led unit did classes for non first timers.

That might give you the opportunity to meet baby mums but also parents with older children that your oldest can play with etc

UsedToBikeAndRunAndSki · 09/01/2012 21:42

NCT run coffee mornings, Bumps and Babies groups and that kind of thing too, if you want to meet people with babies locally, without doing the antenatal classes.

My second child is 11 weeks old and there is so much (very probably unintentional) PFBness amongst the first time mums I am meeting. Although I did NCT anatnatal classes, my best "Mummy friends" were made through Surestart.

Wolfiefan · 09/01/2012 21:44

I went to classe. (midwife led). There was a fairly big gap between my two. I did ante natal and new parent classes. The latter helped with knowing what services were available in the new area.

Wolfiefan · 09/01/2012 21:45

Classes. Bloody iPad!

4madboys · 09/01/2012 21:49

i went to nct classes with ds2, they do special 'refresher' ones for if you already have a child, so we were all on our 2nd or 3rd child etc, it was just a nice way of meeting some new people, i am still in touch with one mum 9yrs later :)

PicaK · 10/01/2012 08:57

Makes sense to me.

Scholes34 · 10/01/2012 09:08

I did midwife led ante-natal classes when I moved and was expecting DC3. They were refresher classes, and it was very interesting being able to swap experiences. I was also amazed at how much I'd forgotten, so aside from the possibility of meeting new people, some kind of ante-natal class I'm sure will be useful. However, the Bumps and Babies sessions sound good.

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spottyscarf · 10/01/2012 09:12

They do refresher classes too, and round here they do a yoga-type class called Relax, Refresh and Breathe (or something like that) which is just for 2nd time mums. I did it and we still keep in touch now- all our big ones are 3/4 and the littlies are 18 months.

The problem with doing a 1st timers class I imagine is while they are all sat cooing over their babies and drinking coffee you'll be the only one chasing after a toddler intent on trashing their non-baby proofed houses!

spottyscarf · 10/01/2012 09:12

They do refresher classes too, and round here they do a yoga-type class called Relax, Refresh and Breathe (or something like that) which is just for 2nd time mums. I did it and we still keep in touch now- all our big ones are 3/4 and the littlies are 18 months.

The problem with doing a 1st timers class I imagine is while they are all sat cooing over their babies and drinking coffee you'll be the only one chasing after a toddler intent on trashing their non-baby proofed houses!

IUseTooMuchKitchenRoll · 10/01/2012 09:12

I went to the NHS midwife run classes second time round, there is nothing at all odd about doing it, especially if you are in a new area. You will get information about the local hospital and stuff probably.

Plus you are paying for the service, you can do what you like!

Bramshott · 10/01/2012 09:14

I did an NCT post-natal course in order to meet new people after I'd had DD2 because we'd moved to a new area.

But if you think the classes will be interesting/useful, and the cost isn't a consideration, then go for it.

entropyglitter · 10/01/2012 10:16

Would have loved for there to be someone on their second in our NCT class....we would have pestered them stupid though....

def NU.

grubbalo · 10/01/2012 10:19

What area (roughly)! are you moving to? Someone here may be able to suggest other good things in the area too. Agree you're definitely NBU, but you're definitely going to be seen as a bit of an expert by the other parents in your class!!

catgirl1976 · 10/01/2012 10:21

i didn't do them for my first baby. they sound like hell on earth to me. i have no desire to make friends with people simply because they have managed to get pregnant at the same time as me. but i am grumpy like that. if you got something out of them before YANBU to go again. i just dont get them

SkiBumMum · 10/01/2012 10:23

I did a refresher purely to meet people as knew I had to have an ELCS. It was good.

Mishy1234 · 10/01/2012 10:26

I didn't do them first time around as we really didn't have the money. I did regret it a little and had planned to do the refresher the second time, but it didn't fit in time wise.

I would definitely look into the refresher course, especially as you're moving area.