to think there is nothing like Facebook for making you feel your life is dull and boring?

[HexagonalQueenOfTheSummer]

Or perhaps it's just that I have a large number of people on my friends list that seem to live very glamorous lives?

So many lovely photos of weekends away, weekends abroad, posh weddings attended, fancy dress parties, new year's eve parties.

Anyone else have FB friends with fantastic social lives that are documented on there all the time?

I don't know anyone who lies on fb either, I have some exciting friends and some dull ones.

who wants to see dull moaney stuff on facebook? I hide anyone who does that and am just left with the nice stuff on my news feed (pics of pretty weddings and nice holidays etc).

I love a cutting dry moan, the only people who piss me off are those that post crap about I am celebrating Christmas rather than winterville to piss of my Muslim neighbours , who as I type are burning Christmas trees and wiping their arses with tinsel. I tend to delete them, although as I choose friends wisely that doesn't happen often.

have never moaned on fb, don't know anyone who uses it for that. Agree, it's not the approapriate forum. But nor is it appropriate in my eyes use it to -announce your pregnancy, announce your miscarriage, gush about how much you love all your friends.

Real sentiment or real news is delivered face to face/by phone or at least private message to your close friends not all 150 FB acquaintances. It's just crass, overly-sentimental and meaningless otherwise..and hateful to read in that way on someone's wall!

Gah! If you don't like Facebook don't log on!

I love a bit of gossip over the garden fence, sadly, I don't have anyone to do it with. Glam Pam next door thinks I'm after her DH Billy Bullshit.
I wouldn't have him if he was gold plated.

I must know a lot of boring people, because almost none of them ever post about anything exciting; in fact, they excel in posting incredibly boring stuff, only one or two steps above detailed bowel movement reviews. Rants about p+t parking at supermarket, "I'm so tired", "My boyfriend is sulking", "why can't I get a seat on the train", I mean honestly, it's even duller than MN!! And at least on MN it's permissible to openly disagree with their rants & opinions.

I don't think many people announce their pregnancy to those closest to them on FB.

Kellogg it happens. Deleted one woman who posted real time blow by blow account of her labour with photos.. as it was happening. And posted time of birth and weight at a time when there wouldn't have been much time for calls first.

You see scan pics uploaded with statuses saying "just leaving my scan.."

I'm on FB every day, mainly to see what my family and friends are up to thousands of miles away. Naturally, this always interests me.

But the status updates of "friends" closer to home are usually along the lines of "I don't like Mondays!!", "Wednesday - we're halfway there!!" and "Thank crunchy it's Friday!!".

Every. Single. Week.

Does my head in.

But just because you post scan pictures it does not mean that you have not told people .

I have been trying for a long time to get pregnant, when it happens I will post every minutiae on FB because it will be all I can think.

I am glad I do not have friends who will judge me for my utter joy.

"I am glad I do not have friends who will judge me for my utter joy."

Exactly. Such a load of selfish whingers on here. I personally love hearing about the happiness of my friends and family and seeing all the pictures they post. God forbid that people actually enjoy their lives

Surely all of us have friendships that work on different levels . I have friends I see most days and with whom i am very close. I also have friends I don't see as often but am very close to. I would share my pregnancy with them directly. Other friends are people I like, I see now and again and if I were to see them in person I would tell them directly or I may tell them on Facebook instead . They would not be offended, some have done the same with me. Other people I may see frequently and like but there is not a very close bond.

I also have some mumsnetters who I have known for years ( have been here for a decade now ) who have become online friends. I doubt they would feel offended my a pregnant Facebook update.

Surely all of our friendships work on this level.

A Facebook update does not take very long either, especially with mobile phones and iPads etc. Takes much more time to post on Mn in my opinion.

fair enough, Kellogg if that works for you and of course I understand you'd want to share your joy.

I guess I wouldn't choose to do it on FB but then it was hardly used here when I was PG..For me, something like this is just too personal (and too high stakes). I'd mention being PG in passing a few months down the line once the PG was properly established and pop a couple of baby photos on after the birth but that would be it. Unless friends asked for more, I wouldn't inflict it on them.

I was thinking of a particular person, scarcely a friend, who posted v early news of her pregnancy and then the other updates to everyone - you can, after all, group your friends and select who to tell rather than everyone. I truly think it is meaningless to just chuck in on your wall to everyone. There's nothing more lovely than a personal message from a close friend with such news, am delighted for them, truly but don't want all the gory details for so many to see on their homepage. Just my opinion.

The other thing I don't like is the out-and-out boasting - some people don't have marvellous lives for one so this rather rubs their faces in it. Many of us don't judge others by their latest i-pad/long-haul holiday/shopping trip/new kitchen..but get the sycophantic, inane responses to those comments! There's ways to tell things and so many choose to focus on the superficial and what they think will impress. It's like the school plaground writ large, who's ignored, who's got the most friends, who's most closely following the latest trend..I'm too old/sincere for all that!

I do love hearing from friends far away, what they're up to, photos, links, thoughts etc. I also love hearing from those who rarely post just to see how they're doing (also the occasional poster's postings tends to be much more interesting.

I still much prefer a phone call/email to FB or even MN for a good old rant!

I am starting to really hate fb, only because I feel so crap and lonely at the moment. EVERYONE on there (so it seems!) seems to have big family gatherings/new years parties/lovely xmas's, nights out, happy family days.

I have 4 lovely dc but I struggle with the eldest, I am a single parent, No family just my mum, no money and I feel utterly cheesed off.

I rarely go anywhere nowadays, take the kids to school, and town for shopping once a week.

That actually seems to sum up my life

I understand that, I would not mention a pregnancy in the early stages as we have been through countless miscarriages . We don't even tell closest friends and family any more .

I suspect that by the time it is appropriate to post something on FB most people would know already. Mainly because I would be huge .

Because we have been trying for do long I suspect my family would be as eager to talk about it as me. This will be the most anticipated baby since Jesus.

I admit to being a teeny, tiny bit envious of my friends who go out all the time mainly because I've moved far away from all of then and can't join in and also haven't made any friends here yet. Must make more effort really.

I don't have friends who post simply to boast tbh. If I did perhaps I would feel differently if I did.

I also don't think FB makes people sad, you make yourself sad. If your life feels dull do something about it.

Last night I was looking at someone's photos of a nice walk in the woods and thought to myself , I want a bit of that. So at 8 in the morning we donned our wellies and off we went.

Eek, not to diverge into another debate, but I just noticed something amusing... you know how kids have to lie about their birthdays to get FB accounts below the age of 13?
One of DS's mates, soon to turn 13, is down as turning 16 this week, lol (according to FB). Will he be stuck with 3 years older in perpetuity? Serves him right, eh?

You have to tell Facebook your DOB, but you can make it so that it is not visible to others, or so make it such that only the day and month are visible but not the year.

In fairness most people only post the interesting parts of their lives they are hardly going to post the dull boring stuff. So you obly see one side iyswim.

I have a friend though who posts status updates at least 4 times a day boasting about her baby, in actual fact what she is doing is making herself look bad because everything she posts about goes against guidelines and official advice, i used to think it's funny at the start, now it's actually getting a bit worrying.