to want this baby out now...?

[MakesCakesWhenStressed]

39+ 2 and very uncomfortable, not helped by disturbed sleep for a multitude of late-pregnancy reasons. Every time I try and tell DH how much I want the baby out he gives me a slightly hurt look like I'm rejecting our child or something. On the whole he's a very supportive husband and father-to-be, but this is driving me nuts. I want to whinge about how uncomfortable I am, he's the obvious choice and he won't let me without somehow making me feel bad.

Part of the reason I want the baby out is impatience - I want to hold it and cuddle it and see if the name we picked fits and what their personality is like, but I also want to be able to get comfortable in some position, because there isn;t a single one left to me now. I want to sleep without acid reflux waking me up, or a numb leg, or backache. I want to cut my own toenails, get socks on without discomfort and grunting, wipe my backside adequately - noone tells you about that charming indignity, do they? Am I being totally unreasonable to think that at 39+2 the baby is probably pretty well cooked and it's time to get its lazy backside out of me?

Well I feel like you and am at only 36 weeks so YANBU. Oh to be able to put on my own shoes without swearing...

YANBU I'm 39+2 too! Just want to get on with it now!

Oh God - and shoes - none of them fit! And I ripped the boots I got for Christmas (the only footwear I could still get on) because of my stupid swollen ankles and feet... and they were nice boots, a size larger than normal so I'd have something to wear. It's not like I can borrow DH's, either, I know my feet are swollen, but they haven't gone from a 5.5 to an 11.5...

YANBU poor you it's nearly time though, your baby will be here soon and you will be holding him/her. Meanwhile moan away, you have very right. Here let me massage your feet better?

Ladies - been there three times. OP - it will happen soon don't worry. No point in complaining to husband - he really does not (and could not) understand. Set the husband to work. Get him to make nice mint teas, read you a book - that is a surprisingly nice thing you know, get foot rubs, shoulder rubs. An orgasm or three help things along I am told and they feel AMAZING at your stage. God I remember it well - the acid, heavy legs, tired, hopeful, anxious, tearful. Nothing for it except accept it. You are almost at the finish line and what a treat you have coming! Would love to know how it goes for you! Good luck and am a teeny bit jealous if you can believe that!

A foot massage makes everything better, but better is a relative term. I am sooooooo tired, but can't lie down, it's like torture.

Also - is anyone else egtting the constant "make the most of being able to sleep whenever you want, you won't when the baby is here" crap?

a) yes thank you, I know babies are hard work, I'm not mentally deficient.
b) I'm not sleeping now
c) at least when I'm up in the middle of the night feeding a baby I will be awake for a good reason as opposed to no reason. Like right now.

Actually I've found the orgasms have declined in quality slightly, esp compared to the second trimester...

Thanks for the encouragement though. It's just so gloomy being awake at this time of day and alone... though I do have a cuddly cat pressed up against me, which helps.

I hate myself for saying this but I have to - why not make a cake!!!!! At this stage you can't even have a glass of wine cause the acid after is not worth it. Any films you could watch? Did you get the cleaning bug?

Unfortunately our flat is the kind that if I start doing anything more noisy than MN-ing I will wake DH up and, possibly, our awful awful neighbour... and we're trying to keep her on side for as long as possible, bearing in mind the screaming new addition to the family we are expecting very shortly

No real nesting instinct here, no, and no other signs at all either. No show, no real Braxton Hicks, even the baby's engagement seems to change on an hour by hour basis to the point where I've started to refer to it as YoYo Baby... hence the delightful acid now, when the GP said it was 3/5 engaged on Weds...

Must be cosy in there and obviously the little tike does not like wind. Soon, makesCakes, soon

I am here nodding at everything you say OP. Well, except the DP part as this is my dc3 and my DH is well attuned to my pg moaning now.

I can't sleep and I have backache - urggh! She is showing no signs of engaging, so totally with you on the heartburn from bell.

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Makescakes....this sleeplessness is really not practice for when baby comes....when my last one was born i remember feeling overjoyed that i could get more than one hour, in almost (think leaky boobs) any position i wanted...it was bliss. I took delivery of an old ladies bed electric bed four weeks ago and can now lie awake in a semi reclined position which is great for the midnight snacks, MNing and watching TV but im still not sleeping....and ive still got ages to go, THIS baby is going to do as its told and arrive on feb 29th (hope its listening)

You'll definitely meet your baby in the next 2.5 weeks, not kong to go now. I guarantee you'll miss your wriggly bump once it's gone though, despite the inconveniences that go with it..... It'd a v short time of your life in the grand scheme of things, try and focus on the positives if you can

I really enjoyed the pregnancy up until about 35 weeks, I'm running very low on PMA now...

YANBU.

At 40+10 today I feel your pain. Mine is still too high for a sweep, very few BH, no show but she is still incredibly active.

I did dispute the dating scan due date but that would make her due today and the thought of another two weeks of this is not my idea of fun

I can at least moan to DH though

I swear to God I have a bum in my ribs - this baby is never going to descend properly.

I don't even want to think about being 40+10 - you're making me feel silly for whingeing at my pitiful 39+2

Oh for a glass of wine! I had to give up the tiny red wine treats because of the ACID pain. Dammit.

I've had a great pregnancy compared to a lot of people so consider this to be my "bad" stage and so close to end (no one stays pregnant forever, right?) sort of makes it alright.

True, true, though I think some people have a 'bad' pregnancy due to their approach to it. I had a few rough patches, but managed to focus on the good stuff mostly. There's very little joy in the end stages, however! I do feel a bit justified in my complaints, though am trying to keep it off Facebook as I don't want to become that woman, yaknow?

Ah-ha, just the thread for me to gatecrash, so many of us in same boat. Already made bread rolls (bread machine cheat), cookies and a chilli since 2am... Am 38 + 4 and in 3rd month of incessant insomnia. MakeCakes I feel your shoe pain, especially since I am a size 11 to begin with, currently trudging around in horrible trainers and the same pair of old man baggy crotch jeans every day (am 6ft 2 so zilch choice there either). I just want my dignity back! Time to break open the evening primrose oil capsules and overdose on pineapple...do any of these old wives tales work?!

My last one was 40+18 before i caved in to induction...i was googling longest ever pregnancy with positive outcome...SHOCKING! I am hypnobirthing this time and preparing this baby for a slightly early birth, i have been told it can be done, we will see....so far i hjave had 40+1, 40+11, 40+16 and the 40+18....i CANNOT do that again without a breakdown.

I'm taking EPO and I did the hypno course... how can I use hypno to make baby come now? TELL MEEEEEEEEEEEEEE

And Clarey - threadjack all you want. It's reassuring to talk to others in the same boat.

The thought of 40+18 makes me want to cry!

The MWs yesterday suggested pineapple to get things moving....I've eaten so much pineapple that I asked if perhaps consuming it orally was in fact the wrong thing to do and if insertion might work better

Apparently you need an absurd number to have any effect... plus I heard the chemical in them that was effective at inducing is mostly present in the woody core - ie - the bit everyone throws away...

I head nipple tweaking is effective, but I get bored doing it on myself... wonder if I can persuade DH...? Not exactly at my most enticing, sexually, atm...