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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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to want this baby out now...?

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MakesCakesWhenStressed · 07/01/2012 04:14

39+ 2 and very uncomfortable, not helped by disturbed sleep for a multitude of late-pregnancy reasons. Every time I try and tell DH how much I want the baby out he gives me a slightly hurt look like I'm rejecting our child or something. On the whole he's a very supportive husband and father-to-be, but this is driving me nuts. I want to whinge about how uncomfortable I am, he's the obvious choice and he won't let me without somehow making me feel bad.

Part of the reason I want the baby out is impatience - I want to hold it and cuddle it and see if the name we picked fits and what their personality is like, but I also want to be able to get comfortable in some position, because there isn;t a single one left to me now. I want to sleep without acid reflux waking me up, or a numb leg, or backache. I want to cut my own toenails, get socks on without discomfort and grunting, wipe my backside adequately - noone tells you about that charming indignity, do they? Am I being totally unreasonable to think that at 39+2 the baby is probably pretty well cooked and it's time to get its lazy backside out of me?

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clarey2311 · 07/01/2012 06:08

Thanks :) And MakeCakes, are you ingesting EPO or, erm, massaging it in, IYSWIM (read about it somewhere), not that I could bloomin' well reach if I wanted to!

DP had enough of me tippy tapping on my phone in bed so have been relegated to downstairs, now trying to balance laptop on gym ball. GP told me on Weds baby gone back to back to trying to spin him round, not sure if feasible now head engaged, I can but try :D

skybluepearl · 07/01/2012 06:14

i always felt that way at about 7 months.

what you are saying really highlights that he has no idea how hard it is to be pregnant.

Midds · 07/01/2012 06:16

Am only 33+4 with my first and beginning to have had enough now :( Can't imagine how I'm going to feel at 40 wks. HATING the dependency on DH and feeling so bloody useless. This had better all be worth it...

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MakesCakesWhenStressed · 07/01/2012 06:20

Clarey - ingesting it - am I supposed to be massaging it in...? To the perineum I'm guessing... I didn't know that...

Oh FFS - a cold sore? Seriously? As if I wasn't miserable enough already

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clarey2311 · 07/01/2012 06:27

EPO...massaging it into the cervix apparently, like I can get up there www.pregnanthealth.com/evening-primrose-oil/ Might be best to confirm with midwife, even if it feels like we'll try anything toget this baby out

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MakesCakesWhenStressed · 07/01/2012 06:30

even with DH helping I don't know if we could reach the cervix... unless I apply it to his willy

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clarey2311 · 07/01/2012 06:42

Hehehe Cakes! Why not?! Can't get DP to go along with the idea of perineal massage, he just gags. But has at least agreed to do a 'trim' before I go into hospital. Right, I am going to see if I can waddle off to early birds at the pool as I'm craving weightlessness right now and left buttock/right leg on fire due to sciatica, it's usually a 5 min walk so hoping I can make it in 30!

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MakesCakesWhenStressed · 07/01/2012 06:46

Have fun at the pool. Hope it helps the sciatica.

I'm going back to the Gaviscon and then, hopefully, back to bed... I'm so tired.

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HappyHippyChick · 07/01/2012 07:02

I am 38+5 with dc4 and ds3 is only 15 months and still waking in the night so I am having to haul my giant, lumbering body out of bed to comfort him at least once a night - and he only wants his mummy - gah!!

I can't wait to be able to eat without acid pain

emmam25 · 07/01/2012 07:04

Speaking as someone who was in the same position as you a month ago YANBU to want them out ASAP!!!
BUT also must warn you that just because they are out doesn't mean you'll be anymore comfortable, painful stitches/sore nipples/ horrible constipation etc... You simply swap one set of discomforts for another new set! Oh the glamour of having a baby!

ATruthUniversallyAcknowledged · 07/01/2012 07:10

Also - is anyone else egtting the constant "make the most of being able to sleep whenever you want, you won't when the baby is here" crap?

Oh, i remember that so well. In fact, i think i posted similar about 6 months ago

Now, what I would give to go back to 40+12 so that six hours straight sleep was at least potentially possible...

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MakesCakesWhenStressed · 07/01/2012 07:14

6 hours? I wish.

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BalloonSlayer · 07/01/2012 07:14

I didn't go overdue with DC3 as I had a planned caesarean but I remember being so fed up with being unable to sleep . . . I LONGED for the day when although I would be in pain from the caesarean wound I would be able to get comfortable in bed and - baby permitting - sleep for longer than 40 minutes at a time.

People do keep telling you "it'll be worse when the baby's here" but no, actually it frequently isn't.

The terrible discomfort and longing for the baby to be out are nature's way of stopping you from being afraid of labour. Most first-timers are frightened of labour when they are newly pregnant. But - as long as they are lucky enough to go full term - most women end up greeting the first contraction with joy and excitement, something that 8 months ago they would not have imagined.

BalloonSlayer · 07/01/2012 07:15

contradictory x-post with atruthuniversallyacknowledged there!

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MakesCakesWhenStressed · 07/01/2012 07:20

Good thing about hypno - not at all scared of birthing. On the downside this means that the discomfort is of absolutely no use to me whatsoever, I've been kinda looking forward to the birth all along.

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ATruthUniversallyAcknowledged · 07/01/2012 07:23

I think we proved your point beautifully BalloonSlayer - it's different for everyone.

And OP, I wasn't trying to be cruel. I do remember being soooo annoyed when everyone told me to sleep while I could. Not being able to sleep, for whatever reason, sucks, and your LO will be here soon for you to snuggle up with in the middle of the night

SilentBoob · 07/01/2012 07:44

I was SO much less tired with a newborn than I was when heavily pregnant. Although I was waking every couple of hours to feed all night at least I was getting comfy sleep in between times.

That was only true of my 2nd born though. With my 1st I have never been so tired as when she was a week or so old.

3rd time pregnant now and having a very easy time of it. Sleeping beautifully at 33 weeks. Suspect I will miss the prego days when baby #3 arrives, though this doesn't stop me feeling a bit impatient to meet the little blighter who has been hoofing me in the ribs all these months.

GwendolineMaryLacey · 07/01/2012 08:34

Oh God, at 40+4 I absolutely totally agree with you. I am sick to death of being pregnant. I want this child out now, she's taking the piss!

pigletmania · 07/01/2012 09:03

I am 38+6 and its so painful when I bend over my bump as all your stomach and intestines are squashed upwards. Woke up a few days ago with incredible stinging and stabbing pain at the top, I had slept in an awkward position and the pain was horrid I was in tears. No contractions just the position I slept in. As I have a young child I am always bending over my bump when bending down thus causing it pain.

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