To be upset by what has been said about my son

[Everyothercloud]

I am new here and would like as much advice as possible. My ds is now in yr 3, when he was in yr 1 I heard from a family friend that she had been contacted by a neighbour concerned that a mother at my ds school had been spoken to by a teacher to say ds had licked her son privates. As soon as I was told I phoned and demanded to speak to head, she said she would speak to teacher and get back to me. She did and said they had no record of anything related to my ds, she said there was an incident last year but nothing to do with my ds, she said she has spoken to parent involved and feels it just a bit of gossip and not to make an issue of it, which I didn't, but my ds 2 years later has no real friends, doesn't get invited anywhere and I am so snubbed I detest going up the school. Honest opinions please because I feel so angry or am I paranoid?

I gave the head teacher a copy of the 'conversation' she said she passed it on to the legal team and a few months later said she heard nothing back, I suppose that's why I feel bad because I didn't do enough at the time

Legal team?

What do you mean girly?

I'm not sure am I not believed or silly for worrying about it?

Who wants popcorn?

mole me..., but I dont think it will be very interesting.

let me know if you find one - I'm bored and always miss the good ones.

I'd ask for popcorn, but I think i've got a tooth abcess. I'll settle for Gordons.

So go on then what exactly did the email say ??

If this was in school I don't see how it could happen.

will do..

Er - KHMC - is that a bit unkind? I think OP has some (a lot of) issues that need sorting - one way or another.
OP - number one and this is SO important. Clarifying for yourself exactly what is going on. IF something that happened two years ago is still a big problem, get is sorted. Speak to the Head. If your DS is unhappy, well, whatever the reason (and it may have nothing to do with this history), get that dealt with. I can't understand your reasoning (an earlier post) about not changing schools. If he needs to, he needs to. Kids don't always take their problems with them - esp at that age.
But decide what's important, what's really happening now (if it's not about the past, don't revisit the past) and deal with it - now.

Thanks you've all been very helpful! I'm quite happy for 'hq' to get involved and the school exposed but always felt don't want my ds involved when he wasn't.

unkind... really?

Why are people so unkind. Why do you have to find a troll in every single thread.

Everyothercloud - I'm sorry you feel that your son is being unfairly treated but as you have spoken to the headteacher and they have said that there were no reports the only option left to you is to threaten the people passing unfounded rumours about your son with legal proceedings.

Wait - hold on - stop!
HQ? Do you mean county hall - that could mean the SS - be careful, there, unless it is totally necessary.
School exposed - for what? Your DS is there - don't make him feel more uncomfortable (he's so young) by causing a rupture with his school unless it is really necessary.
Get outside help/advice - go carefully with this one -

the only option left to you is to threaten the people passing unfounded rumours about your son with legal proceedings.

This was all more than 2years and a term ago, maybe longer! If it was an issue it should have been taken up at the time. Move on and help him with friendships.