To think that DH could go to work without waking me at 5AM?

[BigginsforPope]

So again, he starts work at 6am and leaves around 5:20 to get there on time and for some reason he needs lights on, cups of tea and always to talk to me.

I don't want to be awake at 5am. I need to sleeeepp. I have had a poorly dd (3) this week who has been awake every night more than once and I am tired.

But it's okay to wake me because why should I get to lie around in bed all day?

hahahahah with 3 dc hahahah.

So AIBU to think he could go to work without waking me?

So many replies while I've been out. Thank you.

Shushshessleeping I thought you were taking the p*ss at first with your name.

And this morning I did turn the big light off after he turned it on and then went in the bathroom. This led to the whispered argument discussion about me wanting a bit more sleep.

The alarm clock is complicated as on the two occasions dh has used it by himself he has been late because it has not gone off properly. His phone is a bit crappy and has to be on charge downstairs(only charges via the pc) so he can't use the alarm on it. We use my alarm clock as it has a vibrating pad as I am partially deaf and this doesn't wake the children just me.

Imogen I think it can be about power like you descibe but I think my dh is just being selfish here. He has many good and redeeming features so I am not ready to dispose of him yet but I fear there may be an argument brewing about these early mornings.

tbh I think he takes advantage of my nice nature and unwillingness to quarrel. I know it is hard getting up to go to work in the depths of winter but that's life. Better than no job and it is far from the worst job he has had.

eclair get off my thread with your swanky soft footed husband

It's bloody selfish, if not a tad controlling/unpleasant

If I'm going to work early, I leave my dh snoring while I tiptoe round and get ready. Because I'd expect exactly the same from him.

I start work at 7am, I get ready in the spare room and let my DH sleep. I do this because I love and respect him rather than treat him like a doormat.

YANBU at all. I'd never delibaretly wake up someone that is fast asleep, whatever the circumstances. It's just rude and inconsiderate. My DH wakes up at 6.15am, but leaves me sleeping till nearly 7am, just because I need to have a shower before he leaves as we have 2 small children. and then he gets them dressed/nappy changed while I have a shower.