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AIBU - Lift Etiquette

40 replies

AlbertoFrog · 05/01/2012 23:20

Totally unimportant in the whole scheme of things but is it me?

Shopping today, with DM and DS(in buggy) in a large department store (why do they always put kids department upstairs?). Pressed button for the lift and stood back to await it's arrival. Lift came, doors opened, we stepped forward to get in and were almost knocked down by a couple with their own pushchair. I'm afraid I was rather sarcastic and exclaimed "Don't mind the queue". Other couple then started whispering about "what was that about?" "there's plenty of room for all of us" in a disdainful manner, to which I replied "because it's simply manners". Tutting and dirty looks then followed.

Is it me? AIBU? Have manners been left behind and it's just a free for all these days?

P.s. No matter what the consensus I will still say please and thank you and hold the door open for the person behind me.

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A1980 · 05/01/2012 23:26

YABU

If there was plenty of room for all of you in the lift what the hell does it matter who gets in first.

It's the same with buses: empty bus and a handful of people and some twat always complains they should get in first as they were there first. If you all going to get in and get a seat what the hell does it matter.

Pick your battles.

Plinypatus · 05/01/2012 23:28

YANBU - bugs me too. I step back away from the door to let the people in the lift out, not so that whoever rocks up after me can barge past. I'm not bothered about getting in the lift first, it's just the whole let the people get out of the lift first business. I have occasionally let slip a bitter "after you" with a rancid smile to boot.

What bugs me more though is when tube doors open and the people on the platform try and push their way in before letting people on the inside out. I have once lost it and bellowed in my best Brian Blessed impression "There will be more room to get in once you let us get out!" but now I'm a bit more mute but with sharper elbows.

TheFarSide · 05/01/2012 23:28

YANBU - if someone was there first, I would let them in first. It's about manners, as you say.

JustRedbin · 05/01/2012 23:29

Let them get in, and then obstruct them on the way out.

Kayano · 05/01/2012 23:29

Pushing in is always rude. Wait your damn turn lift and bus people! Angry

It matters because some rude twat could get MY seat on the bus (raised seats to the left, over wheel) when I was waiting there for ages longer and am freezing and wet Angry

Backtobedlam · 05/01/2012 23:30

YANBU I'd expect people to wait their turn just as you did, it's not hard and it's basic manners. I'd have probably been too scared to say anything though...just complained about it after.

Pishtushette · 05/01/2012 23:32

I'm with you OP. I don't see why they couldn't wait. I've had it done to me when waiting for a bus. The other lady ran in front of us and there was another pushchair already on so we had to fold the buggy. Luckily DP was with me and there was another lady who saw what had happened so she helped us.

A1980 · 05/01/2012 23:33

It matters because some rude twat could get MY seat on the bus

Is your name on it?

They're all the same!

IUseTooMuchKitchenRoll · 05/01/2012 23:34

Did they really nearly knock you over, or are you exaggerating a tad?

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AlbertoFrog · 05/01/2012 23:37

Backtobedlam I usually don't say anything either but am getting rather fed up being trampled in stampedes. I gather it's a very British thing Queueing (sp?) and I've never mastered the art of elbowing as per Plinypatus.

A1980 wouldn't say it was a battle, more a "lift" of the eyebrows Grin

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A1980 · 05/01/2012 23:40

Fair enough but 6 years of spending 3 hours a day on public transport hardens you to it.

So I was here first and so someone who was here after me gets in first, I'll still get in, therefore I don't care. There's bigger things to get annoyed about.

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AlbertoFrog · 05/01/2012 23:47

IUseTooMuchKitchenRoll (Don't we all?) yes - slight exaggeration although there would have been contact made had I not whipped my buggy backwards (I was approaching entrance of lift from side whereas other buggy was coming straight on)

A1980 bless you. I hate public transport due to being on the same bus as an incontinent elderly gentleman .... on more than one occasion!

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thefroggy · 05/01/2012 23:49

Oh dont start me on that! Yes, I do think it's rude even if there is room for all, manners? I also think its rude when i'm trying to get off a bus and the people waiting to get on rush at me so none of us can move. Do they not realise that if they actually allow me to get off there will be more room for them? I've gone past my stop several times because of that...

I'm just ranting now aren't I? Grin

Shenanagins · 05/01/2012 23:50

Yanbu it is basic manners. i have noticed that people seem to think that i am a bit of a soft touch as i have a buggy, however they quickly find out that it is also a useful weapon!

Kayano · 06/01/2012 00:14

I'm totally Sheldon Cooper about my spot

Not if I genuinely miss it having queued... But if someone has pushed in and got the spot... Well how rude, it makes me sick

soft kitty...

I have found pushing in on buses a lot more common in London... So I avoid where possible. Confused

Goolash · 06/01/2012 00:26

Lol kayano

agedknees · 06/01/2012 13:56

YANBU. It is rude. Some people have no manners.

Starshaped · 06/01/2012 14:11

YANBU. Pushing in is rude. It does my head in when people are too ignorant to wait their turn.

doughnutty · 06/01/2012 14:16

More annoying is when your waiting to go up on the ground floor. Lift stops on first and people get on. Lift comes down, opens, but no one gets off. Happened to me a couple of times at the weekend. Even more annoying when lift is filled with 20 something, seemingly fit and healthy people.

And before the flame throwers come out, I said seemingly

doughnutty · 06/01/2012 14:18

In answer to op. YA definitely NBU.

Manners cost nothing.

marcopront · 06/01/2012 14:21

What really annoys me is people waiting to get in the lift who block me from getting out and then wonder why I am not moving.

DeWe · 06/01/2012 14:24

I'd rather be in last. Then I can get out first.

Birdsgottafly · 06/01/2012 14:25

It depends on how slow you are being. I have had people stand in front of me and the lift doors have closed again before anyone has got in.

I agree with people coming down in a lift and not getting out.

I always sit at the back of the bus and i have a pass. It's annoying when someone critises me for getting on and out of the way, which makes more sence while they dither about. I always give up my seat for others, who need it more,though.

MabelLucyAttwell · 06/01/2012 14:27

Well, I do know what you are all talking about but several times recently, I have waited at a bus stop about third in the queue, the bus has arrived and opened its doors. One person has embarked and the second has waved me on in front of him - probably because he is about my age and has grey hair! It often happens here (West Berkshire). No, not probably because he's about my age. The other day a yoof invited me on the bus before him although he was at the bus stop before me.

But I'm often the first to bark if someone tries to push in - usually a foreigner; time they learned our ways. I tap on the shoulder / arm and say there's a queue and point. My point is taken.

MrsBovary · 06/01/2012 14:31

I don't think you were unreasonable at all.

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