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AIBU - Lift Etiquette

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AlbertoFrog · 05/01/2012 23:20

Totally unimportant in the whole scheme of things but is it me?

Shopping today, with DM and DS(in buggy) in a large department store (why do they always put kids department upstairs?). Pressed button for the lift and stood back to await it's arrival. Lift came, doors opened, we stepped forward to get in and were almost knocked down by a couple with their own pushchair. I'm afraid I was rather sarcastic and exclaimed "Don't mind the queue". Other couple then started whispering about "what was that about?" "there's plenty of room for all of us" in a disdainful manner, to which I replied "because it's simply manners". Tutting and dirty looks then followed.

Is it me? AIBU? Have manners been left behind and it's just a free for all these days?

P.s. No matter what the consensus I will still say please and thank you and hold the door open for the person behind me.

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EssexGurl · 06/01/2012 14:35

We had similar a while back. Family of three adults, with mother in wheelchair. They were there first, but the people on our side of the door got out first, so we went in - meaning that when the other people got out the family could easily get in without fuss. Then another family nipped in before the wheelchair user meaning there was no room. The daughter of the wheelchair user then held the door open and screamed in my face that it was all my fault. If we hadn't got in first then the other family would not have had room and her disabled mother would have got in the lift. She would not let it go and held the door just yelling at us. I volunteered to get out so they could get in. At which point she just let the door go and the lift went off. I just don't get why people are so territorial when it comes to these things. There was a bank of 3 operational lifts. Yes, we did get in first, but only because it would have made it easier for the wheelchair family. It was the other couple with the buggy who had "stolen" their space. Jeez who would have thought life was so difficult. Oh, and apparently, as punishment for my rudeness I will be struck down with a terrible illness and need to use a wheelchair myself when I am older. Luckily DD was asleep in the buggy and so didn't hear this ...

ABigGirlDoneItAndRanAway · 06/01/2012 15:37

YANBU some people are just rude, it's good manners to let someone who was there first get into the lift before you. A while ago me DH and DD in pushchair were in a shopping centre waiting for the lift when two teenage boys with bikes (don't know why you need a bike in a shopping centre anyway I'm suprised they didn't get told to lock the bikes up outside or piss off) tried to push right in front of us to get in the lift when we were there first and the ones who had pressed the button to call the lift. I managed to nip in before the second one did and there was no room for his bike so his friend had to wait for him to come down on the next lift.

oldmerryolesoul · 06/01/2012 15:44

I think it rude myself to push in but not sure if I would be assed to say anything. I also tut under by breath at people who stand RIGHT IN FRONT of the doors with a pushchair then seem oh so surprised they have to move to let people out, it always seems to fluster those that do it.. not even going to mention the reverse outers who make a song and dance of it

ViviPru · 06/01/2012 15:52

Woe betide you and I are ever queuing for the same bus, Kayano. Not only is that my seat, I'm pathetically competitive.

Someone's probably said this OP, but I actively prefer to be the last in the lift so I can be the first out. Particularly if its the car park - can't stand waiting for some Norris in front to work through all of his incorrectly weighted pound coins AAARGH!!!! Life is not a race. Life is not a race. Repeat to self x 100

Shutupanddrive · 06/01/2012 17:23

YANBU pushing in is rude

thepeoplesprincess · 06/01/2012 18:58

That's MY seat too Kayano

Are you a fellow midget btw?

LondonMumsie · 06/01/2012 19:10

I mostly agree. However, I do sometimes end up in an awkward etiquette / escaping lift situation where we live. Our lifts do not wait long enough to let people off and then on - someone needs to leap on and hold the doors. So I sometimes get my boy to leap on and hold them for everyone, as the lift would otherwise close and leave or close on them and hurt them (doesn't spring back open properly). Anyone local understands and is quite pleased if they are struggling to get on in time. Anyone from further afield I am sure thinks we are breathtakingly rude!

redwineformethanks · 06/01/2012 20:42

If there was plenty of room in the lift for everyone, I think this is a bit of a non issue

HowAboutAHotCupOfShutTheHellUp · 07/01/2012 15:43

YANBU. I live in Central London where some people have clearly not yet received the memo re queuing. I soon put them straight

SaraBellumHertz · 07/01/2012 15:53

I can well believe you were almost knocked over.

Recently at immigration at heathrow there was a scrum crowd before the queue even started. People thought nothing of literally stepping over , not even in front of, my buggy to get one place in front. Unspeakably rude. But many people seem to be without manners or shame.

Kayano · 07/01/2012 16:03

yes Midget x

Oh it's so on for that seat actually pushes out of way you've so jumped on my seat bandwagon. As long as we remember I was the trendsetter

MamaMaiasaura · 07/01/2012 16:07

YaNbu OP - but I've just been in the hell that is west quay with all the able bodied lardy bastards pushing their way into lifts and leaving disabled and prams waiting for another lift.

warthog · 07/01/2012 16:09

yanbu

politeness goes a long way.

and if there was lots of room it allows you to be ultra polite with a smile, relaxed in the knowledge that you'll all fit in.

as for it being a non-issue because there was lots of space, BOLLOCKS! manners don't go out the window under any circumstances. shame on you.

redwineformethanks · 08/01/2012 10:15

warthog I'm blushing, hadn't read the OP correctly

I thought it was other people in the lift who were saying "What's the fuss?" which made me think that probably both couples were standing so close that they were almost next to each other and there was plenty of space for them all to get in

JumpOnIt · 08/01/2012 12:05

YANBU. Good manners cost nothing! It's a cliche but it's true!! It drives me up the wall when people don't queue. Personally I blame every ill in society on the inability to queue!

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