to email the dance teacher about 6 yo DD dancing to "I'm sexy and I know it"

[treadonthecracks]

They have a diffent theme each week, and for the street dance week it's "I'm sexy and I know it".

The class is fab, the teacher is lovely (no kids of her own) and it's fantastic value. I don't want to upset her as she's so lovely but I feel this is too old for DD. Some of the other kids in the class are 4!

If you think I should email what would you say?

Been out all day today but just read your replies, thanks for all the input.

Lady Clarice, I take your point - I didn't mention that she doesn't have children when I emailed. My thinking was maybe she hadn't thought the issue through as thoroughly as a parent with a little girl might. Probably speaking only for myself, but when I was faced with DD starting school and suddenly starting morphing into a "tween" before my eyes at age 5, it got me thinking about these issues more deeply, IYSWIM.

So, update - I tried to ring her, but no answer, knew she would be in school all day today. So with some help from SirCliff, I sent a gently worded (I hope no "outrage" ) email saying I wasn't comfortable. She has emailed me back and said she'd seen a missed call from me, she hadn't looked properly at the lyrics, apologised profusely and changed the track to something different. I think I probably embarrased her, but I had to do it. As I said before she is such a nice lady, works so hard and is so good with kids I'm sad to have upset her, but I couldn't leave it.

From her reply it sounds like I am the only parent to mention it - and it's a class of 30 odd kids!

Good on you tread. If there were more parents like you willing to take a stand our society would be a much safer place for the self-esteem of little girls. Hopefully the dance teacher will edit future tracks similarly.

tread - I am always That Parent too. Don't worry

Yep, let the teacher know. Totally inappropriate song for 6 year olds.

We dont often watch videos in our house but we felt like dancing so I put MTV on the other day. My kids have never really sung along to pop songs so I wasnt really aware of the danger until 3 year old sang 'I'm sexy'. Cue to swift explaining this is adult song and turning down the offending lyrics whenever played in car radio and hoping they'll forget in time.

Hi, not BU at all. My DD also danced to this at her class and she is 3, and very likely to ask what it means. Because of that and some other issues(very disorganised class, teacher spent more time asking "who can stand the tallest? Who can be the quitest? while one of the older girls faffed about trying to get the right track queued up) she doesn't go anymore. Also felt that my DD was just a number. In 10 weeks there she was never addressed by name.

DS is obsessed with that song, as are his friends. He did change the words to 'I've got passion in my wings, I'm a chicken and I know it', but i thinke he prefers the original wording. I tell him off every time, but it seems to have stuck in his brain.

You did the right thing, tread. :)

If you're worried that you've upset/embarrassed her, personally I would just write a quick reply saying something like "I hope I've not upset or embarrassed you by bringing this up. I would also just like to let you know that I do appreciate the work you do with the children and that you are valued as a teacher" or something like that.

Thanks for your kind words. I have emailed her back.

Testarossa - I hope you have better luck if you try another class for your DD.