For wanting dd to sleep on the top bunk

[prettymum]

Dd(7) and ds(5) share a bedroom at the moment, and we have just bought them a bunk bed so they can have more space to play.
DD wants the top and ds wants the bottom, but according to dp, because dd is a girl she should sleep at the bottom and ds at top! Now isn't that a very sexist view, he has no other explanation other then the sex factor.

Really fuming at this as dd is more responsible and would be better at the top and she loves her privacy whereas ds loves jumping around and it would be better for him at night when he has to go toilet.
But dp doesn't take any of this into account, in his eyes girls should be at the bottom boys at top!!!

Do you think IABU?

YANBU. The oldest goes at the top, definatly.

Your dh is bieng very silly about this, I would challenge his attitude because if he think this about bunk beds, what other more important issues is his sexism going to creep into?

YANBU.

Regardless of all of the other factors kids shouldn't sleep in the top bunk until they are 6.

Oldest gets top

DH gets a slap

DD on top as eldest. In fact we've stayed in some places with bunks which only allow children over seven on top.

Definitely what Kayano said

Your DH is being a twunt. Happy to help :)

In our house the oldest goes on the top bunk, though they have actually just swapped by mutual agreement.

I really can't understand your DH. Thats just plain wierd. Does he also tell your son he is the man of the house when DH is away and that he has to protect the girls?

Ditto kayano

I am refusing to help build bunk beds until he changes his mind. He is saying now that he has been brought up to not put girls/women at risk and putting dd at top is a risk, he is being responsible! We are talking about bunk beds here. Feel like strangling him right now.

Have a rota, and tell your DH he's being silly.

"Oldest gets top

DH gets a slap"

Agreed.

prettymum's DP - You are being an idiot, use some common sense. OLDEST GOES ON TOP BUNK.

So it's OK to put a 5 year old boy 'at risk' then? If he thinks the top bunk is so risky, I'm surprised he wants either of them to go in it!

I've never heard this 'rule' before, that's very strange. It's usually that the oldest goes on top in my experience, especially if the younger is only 5.

Bizarre. I'd always put the older child on top bunk. That's common sense!

He's being ridiculous, and sending your daughter the message that she is somehow inferior and less capable simply because she is a girl.

We have bunks in the spare kids room, and on weekends ours use them and they swap between top and bottom each night (DD 7, DS 5.75)

I second what Kayano said! Your DP is being a twat. And a sexist twat at that!

Oldest on top- its not recommended kids under 6 go in top bunk anyway, and especially so if your little one is still up and down in the night for the toilet.
Sleepy kid = negotiating ladder = recipe for accident!

Children should be over 6 to be in the top bunk. If you look at the packaging it probably states that. Rospa's guidance

Then you need to take him to one side and have a serious talk with him, before your DD starts hitting her brother and then when he hits back it is him in trouble, and so on.

Is there the slightest possibility that DH is joking? If not then congratulations, you have married the stupidest man in the Anglosphere.

Think you need to find out what other bizarre and deeply unpleasant "thoughts" he has on the raising of daughters.

Just had to cjheck the date we are in 2012 aren't we.

I have 3 girls what does he propose I do.....

Really he is talking utter crap (but you know that anyway don't you).

He is being an idiot of the highest order. He is also trying to dress it up as a chivalrous thought. Time for a talk about sexism and find out what else girls need "protecting" from.

Just show him this post and the replies.

He's an idiot, sexist and wrong.

HTH