AIBU to be pissed of with DH for hiring a cleaner because he is too sodding lazy to do any housework??

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Arguing for years he should do half the housework. He hasnt worked in years, retired on ill health and comfortable company pension, but healthy enough to go shooting on the moors every weekend.

I work 3 days a week and spend 4 hours a day, 4 days a week helping my dd with my disabled grandson. I still do 90% of the housework...believe me I've tried every angle!

So...another row about housework and today he says he will pay from his own money for a cleaner to come in 2 days a week and she's starting next week!

Dont know whether to be or as yet again he's outwitted me!

I would go for

Not worth arguing about if there's a solution - take the cleaner (he/she'll do a better job than him anyway!

YABU. He clearly hates housework and won't do it so he has found the perfect solution. Do not complain!

I would be happy if it meant less arguing. Just don't fall into the trap of cleaning for the cleaner!

We have a cleaning team (husband and wife) come once a week. Gives us more family time together and less rows.

Rather inclined (guitily) to agree with you.

Am already missing the joy of nagging about it, but NO MORE HOUSEWORK...I so hate it, happy happy happy, but pissed he's got one over on me!

Yippee, I would say. He pays, yet you get to not have to do any housework either!

There is no inherent virtue in doing housework. It is actually far more ethical to pay someone a fair wage to do it for you.

YABU.

Doing your own housework doesn't make you a better person, if you can afford to outsource it then why not?

I'm a SAHM and I have a cleaner, it is brilliant and I wouldn't be without her.

If it is truly HIS money then I would accept gracefully . I think we can't afford our cleaner - but she is FABULOUS.

sounds good to me...just give the cleaner the jobs you like the least, and have some "me" time. :)

I would go for

I think the divorce rate would be much lower if cleaners were given out on the nhs.

Just bite his hand off and :)

Also buy into an ironing service... 'twill even the score, no?

Personally I think it's a great idea. You should go for gold and now start nagging him to do the cooking. With luck after a while he'll spring for a chef too!

Definitely HIS money, separate bank accounts in this household!

Getting to like this idea more and more...can't let him know though

oh that sounds bad. I just mean everyone has jobs they particularly hate. I hate cleaning the shower and luckily my cleaner doesn't mind the job!

Goodness, take it, take it. The end result is the same, you clean less. I would love to be able to afford a cleaner. In fact, as soon as I can, I am getting one.

Arguments solved. Helping someone who needs work. Nobody has to do housework. 3 big ticks and . Well done DH I say.

He cooks for himself and does his own washing and ironing...I am not THAT daft ! I reiterate: he doesnt work at all...100% pure leisure.

My MIL owns a cleaning agency so I'm in the delightful position of, when asked, telling people that my MIL cleans my house :o I look terribly lazy but it's worth the pain.

As long as this covers what you do not just his share...

Glad you have come round to it. Make sure though that it does come out of his money and that you don't end up managing the relationship.

Thank you all. I guess its a big thumbs up and I will have to start talking to the lazy prick dear man in a few days when he has suffered the icy silence long enough. Cleaners are obviously flavour of the month

Better start tidying up, hide the porn and the sex toys...

My DH did the same when I was struggling with morning sickness with DS2 and the house had descended into a pit. I was for about 3 and a half seconds then That was three years ago, she still comes once a week for three hours I see no reason to mess with a winning formula.