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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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To be inconsolable that DH has gone to work?

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Latsia · 03/01/2012 08:24

Yes yes I know IABU and wet and one of us has to earn money. And I'm grateful that I get to spend some more time with DC until I find a new job, but we have had such a lovely Christmas, the kids and I have loved having him home, he is miserable at work and I was bloody short sighted and have nothing planned for this week AND it's miserable outside and they are fighting already.

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Sparklingbrook · 03/01/2012 08:26

I'm with you. The Dc are still asleep but I feel it's going to be a long day. House still a tip from Christmas too and it's a howling gale and raining.

CoffeeDog · 03/01/2012 08:29

me too.

Backtobedlam · 03/01/2012 08:29

YANBU it's lovely that you've obv.had a good holiday and enjoyed spending time with your DH. Far better to feel like that than desperate to see the back of him! January often feels a bit flat, get to soft play or swimming, somewhere the kids can burn off energy and by next week things will start to feel normal. We're still in holiday mode-sat on sofa in pj's watching tv, but today is the last day so making the most of slobbing it.

Sparklingbrook · 03/01/2012 08:31

I can't face getting the uniforms and books back out. DS1 (12) had just got to grips with High School then they broke up for Christmas. He doesn't really like it. Back to all the school nonsense and homework.

pregnantpause · 03/01/2012 08:33

Yanbu. Dh goes back today. Ive had the morning with him but im so miserable about his imminent departure that ive been ratty

slavetofilofax · 03/01/2012 08:38

Iabu too. I didn't want dh to go back to work either, especially because the weather is so crap. But I have to go back to work too anyway.

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Latsia · 03/01/2012 08:39

Backtobedlam yes you're rigt (oh, and at today!)

Sparklingbrook . That's shit. Feeling the dread on behalf of someone else is even worse.

I'm reassured that it's not just me. I got a bit ratty with DH too last night but I was lucky he knew why I was doing it, bless him. Had to resist the urge to cling to his ankles this morning.

I should have a focus for today as DC2 is learning to walk, but is currently lying face down licking the playroom floor while I MN.

Bad mummy.

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SoupDragon · 03/01/2012 08:41

YABU to be inconsolable. That is rather extreme.

ouryve · 03/01/2012 08:41

Love mine to bits, but glad to see him go back! He's glad to be back, too. He hates being out of routine as much as the kids do.

My kids are back at school tomorrow, though! There will be drama related to that (from DS1) but once that's over with, I'm really looking forward to Thursday!

That said, I can understand feeling flat and miserable when you've all had such a good time.

trulyscrumptious43 · 03/01/2012 08:42

I don't have a DH but am sad that DS had to go back to school today in the wild and windy darkness...last saw him whirling away from the doorstep clutching his packed lunch!

Megatron · 03/01/2012 08:43

God I'm delighted mines gone back he was driving me mental! I go back tomorrow too (I work term time) and I'm quite looking forward to getting back to normal to be honest and it'll be nice for the children to see all their school pals again.

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Latsia · 03/01/2012 08:44

Yes yes it's more the "flat" feeling ouryve isn't it. That's a good way of describing it.

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Sparklingbrook · 03/01/2012 08:47

Yes it is a flat feeling. Like all the fun has been had.

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Latsia · 03/01/2012 08:47

trulyscrumptious43 oh that would make me a bit teary too!!

Megatron yes I understand that. Lots of my friends who love their DHs dearly have been looking forward to having their routines back. If DC were a little older I think I would feel the same, but I'm not loving the baby phase, DC1 is just out of it, DC2 is in "transitional phase" with naps, and I'm struggling slightly.

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startwig1982 · 03/01/2012 08:50

It's fairly miserable here too. DH really didn't want to go. But, as it's horrible weather outside, DS and I are going to have a nice day inside watching Christmas tv we recorded but didn't watch.

SausageSmuggler · 03/01/2012 08:53

I completely understand, we were lucky and DH was off for 10 days over Christmas. He went back today and we're both feeling a bit sad about it. DS adores his daddy and has loved having him around. Plus my SPD has been so much better from having someone to help out with DS and the housework.

pommedenoel · 03/01/2012 08:55

DH only had Boxing Day off so for me YABU!

YANBU really though.

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Latsia · 03/01/2012 08:59

pommedenoel yes understood, I'd want to slap me for being wet too!!

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startail · 03/01/2012 09:00

DHs gone back to work and both DDs to school.
I will enjoy the peace at first, but then will get that flat it's all over feeling.
Agree no ones mood is going to be lifter by the weather it's vile here.

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Latsia · 03/01/2012 09:02

And I've just turned the tv on to be greeted by Nisha and Cerrie. Really?!?

Sobs.

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Figgyrollsintoapudding · 03/01/2012 09:03

I do see what you are saying on one hand and on the other I just want to get back to my routine.

Have loved being on "holiday" with dp at home with the children but the house is chaos, the children are snotty and a tad bored, and I am being driven mad by both, oh and I have a cold!!!!

I am meant to be at work today but one child was poorly all night and I just couldn't face trying to race around finding people who would take the poorly one so am still in my pj's working from home. Actually I feel I need it without dh as it appears he is the one that causes the mess and chaos and there I was thinking it was the children, perhaps he just encourages it!!!!

EauDeLaPoisson · 03/01/2012 09:10

Get a grip. Many people have to work through the festive period yet dont feel 'inconsolable'.Its driving me mental that the office based workers are bitching about going back to work when or partners crying over their spouses going back to work instead of just feeling fortunate they had the time off at all!

JugglingWithGoldandMyrhh · 03/01/2012 09:10

DH has just gone off on his bike into the winds and work after a lovely Christmas hols. One more day with the DCs and they're back at school tomorrow. So thinking about homework and uniform today ! We might venture out too at some point with a friend.

Then when all settles down I'll have to continue with looking for a new job for the New Year - hopefully a TA job in a school as I have had before, or possibly a playgroup. Need the school hours and terms really ATM. The uncertainty of that is a bit unsettling, and we're a bit broke. But on the other hand I do feel fortunate to have some time, for my partner's job, and that financial pressures aren't any worse for us.

Things will start to feel more settled for everyone by next week I'm sure
Nice thread !

harrietlichman · 03/01/2012 09:13

YANBU to feel a bit flat after the holidays but YABU to be'inconsolable'...!

Sparklingbrook · 03/01/2012 09:14

Homework and uniform. juggling Do we have to?

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