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AIBU?

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Original poster

To think Xmas presents go with the child?

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MudAndGlitter · 30/12/2011 21:19

This is my first MIL rant post so here goes.
Boxing day me DP, DD, DS and DSD went to MILs. The DCs got presents including clothes and DSD got skates. I put DS and DD in their clothes after they got dinner down there's as we were going to my mums after.
MIL has now said she wants the clothes back to keep at her house and DSD has to leave her skates there. DP wants to bag up all the books and little toys she got the DCs and take it all round there to prove a point.

Surely if you give someone a present it's theirs to take home or AIBU?

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pranma · 30/12/2011 21:20

YANBU

Firawla · 30/12/2011 21:20

yanbu

cornsilxk · 30/12/2011 21:20

they aren't really presents then are they? How strange.

mummakaz · 30/12/2011 21:22

YANBU

Thankgodforcaffeine · 30/12/2011 21:23

wtf???

YANBU!

BoysAreLikeDogs · 30/12/2011 21:23

er no YANBU

MIL is being a bit bonkers

Don't take the gifts there, they are for your children

sue52 · 30/12/2011 21:24

Have you asked MIL why she wants to keep the presents at her house? Very odd.

OldLadyKnowsSantaClaus · 30/12/2011 21:25

How often are the dc at mil's house?

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MudAndGlitter · 30/12/2011 21:25

For when she has them. Which is possibly one night a month for DSD, one every month for DS and she's had DD 5 times in 18 months. I've said I'm more than happy to send clothes and for her to just send dirty clothes back for me to wash (what DM does) but she won't. It's very strange.

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mrsmaltesers · 30/12/2011 21:26

That sounds slightly/truly mental!!!!!

She is very unreasomable with a capital and underlined and italic'ed U

thepeoplesprincess · 30/12/2011 21:27

How often does she babysit?

south345 · 30/12/2011 21:27

Dp's cousins kids leave their presents at their nannas so they have toys there as they have stacks of toys at home maybe she just wants them to have a few bits there? Do they go there a lot? If not the clothes surely wouldn't get worn much?

bigTillyMincepie · 30/12/2011 21:28

YANBU. She sounds strange.

IL always had a stash of toys at their place for when we visited, but they were bought up at car boots and weren't presents.

Eglu · 30/12/2011 21:30

She is very strange. I am with your DP on the point proving. Childish maybe, but it will possibly make her see how syupid she is being. Poor children

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MudAndGlitter · 30/12/2011 21:30

She has loads of toys for them there. She runs a nursery so there's always toys at her house, she gets them car boot stuff to keep there etc.
This is all because I asked for DS's top back as he's been bugging me for it (it has a cape he's slightly obsessed).
If she has them and we take them over dressed nicely then she sends them back in clothes too small etc.

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keepingupwiththejoneses · 30/12/2011 21:44

That is strange. I can understand if it was separate parents houses but not GP's house that they hardly stay at, maybe if they stayed often then that might just be different.

MabelLucyAttwell · 30/12/2011 21:46

The gifts were for the DCs so they should be where they live, FGS!

I'm a M, GM, SM, SGM and would never expect gifts to be left at my house!! What's the matter with these Ms, SMs, GM, SGMs?

theincredibequeenofwands · 30/12/2011 21:48

Awwww, poor children!

She can't take their presents away, that's terrible! :(

Maybe she thinks if stuff they want is with her then they'll visit more often?

Eglu · 30/12/2011 21:53

She keeps clothes that you send them in too? I wouldn't send them there tbh.

Toys for Grannies house is okay. My Mum has toys for the dgc at her house, but your MIL is a loony.

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MudAndGlitter · 30/12/2011 21:55

I know! She does my head in with things like this. Its more puzzling that I asked her on the day if the clothes were to stay at hers and she said no!

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elliejjtiny · 30/12/2011 22:00

YANBU However the DC's have a massive train set at PIL's house because they bought it and we don't have room for it

theincredibequeenofwands · 30/12/2011 22:04

Ooooo, I missed the bit about her stealing clothes and sending them back in too small car boot things.

I wouldn't send them there.

Not leave them there alone anyway. She sounds a bit unhinged and I'd be wary of her being alone with children.

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MudAndGlitter · 30/12/2011 22:06

She's qualified up the backside in childcare etc, has DS at nursery 3 days a week with her but just gets really weird about clothes and things. I trust her with the DCs but as petty as it sounds I hate her nicking the nice clothes I spend time choosing and buying for them.

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theincredibequeenofwands · 30/12/2011 22:08

It doesn't sound petty at all.

It sounds like theft!!

I'd suggest to her that she stops doing it or she won't be allowed to see her grandchildren.

Stealing things that you've paid for is NOT on!!

I'd be livid!!

LittleMissFlustered · 30/12/2011 22:13

My mum has a spare set of stuff for mine at her house, but that's because my son is a ratbag who can find dirt in a bottle of bleach >_<

Your mother in law sounds weird, I'd just practice selective hearing and not bother. Or go all out like your partner wants and take everyting back she has ever given them.

I'm in an all-or-nothing kind of a mood today:o

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