To think Xmas presents go with the child?

[MudAndGlitter]

This is my first MIL rant post so here goes.
Boxing day me DP, DD, DS and DSD went to MILs. The DCs got presents including clothes and DSD got skates. I put DS and DD in their clothes after they got dinner down there's as we were going to my mums after.
MIL has now said she wants the clothes back to keep at her house and DSD has to leave her skates there. DP wants to bag up all the books and little toys she got the DCs and take it all round there to prove a point.

Surely if you give someone a present it's theirs to take home or AIBU?

I do hope you've asked her to leave your gift to her at your house so she can use it, whatever it is, when she comes round to visit
evil

She got me an animal shape waffle maker.
Fuck knows why.
Batty cow

cool - at least you can leave that at her house as well
what did you get her? hope it was a nice bottle of wine you can 'look after' for her at yours

DS game and CD she wanted. I give up. Next year I'm getting her a half opened box of smellies. Or chocolate wrappers.

Just point out that the children will grow out of both the clothes and skates before they will get any use out of them if they are left at your MIL.

Sounds like she wants you to visit more and is keeping the children's belongs because then you'll have to visit.

My MIL has done something similar, although she has my dc once a week while I'm at work. One year she bought ds a sandpit - knowing that's what I'd bought him - for his birthday. Came to our house with it all wrapped up - we opened it and went ??? then she put it in her car again for at her house. Odd. Anyway, they have a knack for choosing presents. Anything they buy that's plastic shit with loads of bits and fecking musical nice I leave at their house. Works both ways.

My ex mil is the same. DD is allowed to bring a couple of her small presents home but all the rest of the families presents have to stay at her house. She also has a wardrobe full of clothes most of which DD never gets to wear. I think it's freaky but don't know what to do about it :-(

WTAF? Of course YANBU.

I thought my MIL was the only one who did this! She didn't even wrap up DS's birthday and Christmas presents (I haven't actually seen what they got him for either) and have kept them all at theirs. I'm not bothered on the not wrapped front because DS is only 14 months but it would've been nice to know what they got him. I'm fairly sure they're slowly trying to move him into theirs, MIL is always buying unecessary things so that we don't need to take stuff. Eventually I think they'll just sneak him over too.

OTOH they have him every other week and i'd rather this than we have to lug a ton of toys over to theirs everytime.

YANBU btw.

Bizarre. Can you not say - very nicely - that they gifts belong to the children and it is up to them where they want to leave them? younger ones might not care but would guess your DSD would choose to have her skates at home.

my ex-MIL does it, drives me bonkers. my MIL literally has boxes and sheds full of expensive toys for ds.

its bizarre, i've taught my ds to load the buggy this year we got away with a few small bits. she also makes a point of whose bought what, like its a competition. ds is 3, he thinks they've come from santa, week before crimbo i called in with ds se knew he was coming and she'd piled her presents to him up in the room, thought it was cruel tbh sort of spoils the magic just abit,

shes really angered me this year with shit shes done

Does your DSD live with you all the time? If not perhaps she doesn't want DSD to take the skates to her mum's so she said all gifts were to remain at her house?

I think it's odd behaviour and clearly means the gifts will go to waste as the kids grow so quickly. Perhaps point this out and ask (calmly) why she wants them to stay at hers?

YANBU what a horrid meanie. Surely if she wants toys for her house she should buy some, or tell you to bring some over when the dcs come.