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To cancel NYE on DP because of his pathetic childish joke?

52 replies

HairyNuttyShit · 29/12/2011 23:00

NYE we have arranged a party at our house. Mostly DP's friends but also a group of mine too. DP had his friends around last night also and they had drinks and xbox whilst I took the kids to family party. I got back around 10pm, put the kids to bed, DPs night had turned into a full on party more or less but I simply asked him to keep it down and went upstairs to study. Came down at around 11.30 to get a drink and on the fridge where DD had made a 2012 calender with a snowman on the front one of those idiots had drawn a huge ejaculating penis coming off the snowman's head. They were in hysterics when I went into the kitchen so must have known I would see it. I didn't mention it at the time, just went back up to bed but have since told DP that because of what he did I am cancelling the NYE party and going out with my friends instead. He says I am "Totally over-reacting" and need to "get a grip".

AIBU ?

OP posts:
EauDeLaPoisson · 29/12/2011 23:01

Wow what a catch he sounds laughing at someone defacing his DD's work. YADNBU

JustAnother · 29/12/2011 23:02

YANBU. Plus he should explain and apologise to DD for his actions.

Gapants · 29/12/2011 23:03

uuurgh, what a tit. yanbu

GypsyMoth · 29/12/2011 23:03

I agree... Cancel your house being used, tell him it needs to move to someone else's.

slavetofilofax · 29/12/2011 23:03

No you are not being unreasonable.

Nobody that did that to something my child had worked on would ever be welcome in my house or near me or my dc ever again. Nor would anyone who found it remotely funny.

Your dh sounds like a twat that needs to grow up and learn to act like a parent.

randommoment · 29/12/2011 23:03

No, what a complete twunt! Has he ever been an inconsiderate prat before?

zest01 · 29/12/2011 23:04

They sound like a bunch of childish idiots tbh. If they had drawn it on a chalk board or something then whatever, but to do something like that on a calendar your DD has made is pathetic imo.

On the otherhand they were probably drunk and if I received a grovelling apology and the assurance it wouldn't happen again I would (maybe) be able to forgive. However DH showing no remorse and telling you to a get a grip? I would be telling him to do one.

BlissfulMistletoe · 29/12/2011 23:04

yanbu, party or not party...you touch my DC stuff or draw on something they are proud of you will die.

AmorYCohetes · 29/12/2011 23:04

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ExcitedElectrons · 29/12/2011 23:05

YANBU. Twat!

WorraLiberty · 29/12/2011 23:05

OMG how did you manage to not say anything?

I'd be fucking fuming Angry

EnjoyResponsibly · 29/12/2011 23:05

Nope

Gavel

Mollydoggerson · 29/12/2011 23:06

his friends sound very stupid. yanbu. How do people have parties when children are sleepin upstairs.

BalloonTwister · 29/12/2011 23:06

If one of Dh's friends did that to DD's "art" I'm reasonably sure that a) Be would go berserk and b) They would never be in his company again, let alone our house! YADNBU

faeriefruitcake · 29/12/2011 23:08

Cancel on his sorry ass, then make the friend come round and apologise to DD.

Also what kind of sick twat draws an ejaculating penis on a child's picture, him I wouldn't let back across my threshold, clearly issues!

YonderRevoltingPeasantWhoIsHe · 29/12/2011 23:08

Xmas Grin at Jude Law posters as appropriate cock graffiti venue.

OP no offense, really, but your DP sounds like a total jizzwizard. Seriously, I teach 18yo boys young men and they would not find that funny. How old is he??

I think I'd also be pretty unimpressed by him coming home and starting a party when you had just put the kids to bed and had to study. Maybe I'm just stuffy though...

ilooklikegrotbagstoday · 29/12/2011 23:08

I would have hit the roof and thrown them all out on the spot, DH included!!! I think you have been very restrained in just cancelling NYE to be honest.

ILoveSanta · 29/12/2011 23:09

I would have banned them forever.

In fact, they would be lucky that I didn't cut off their penis and stick it to THEIR head. Although it wouldn't have been massive, or ejaculating so not quite as funny for them or their moronic friends!

Total idiots.

Oh and I'd have flipped my lid at my DH if be told me to get a grip about that!

CurlyJims · 29/12/2011 23:11

Yadnbu they obviously had no respect, what's to stop them doing worse on NYE when they're even more drunk...!

Beveridge · 29/12/2011 23:14

You are definitely not overreacting. I can only assume DP is as juvenile as his friends if he defends this in the cold light of day. Did it not bother him that they did this to something your DD had worked hard on? If he was contrite about it and promised to keep an eye on them (FGS - does he hang out with 12 year olds??)then it might be different but he clearly doesn't get it.

What jape' will they get up to in your house on a full blown Hogmanay night, especially as if they can't handle their booze as it is?

My DH is with you on this one too.

ageperfect · 29/12/2011 23:20

I would ask them then and there who did it,and who ever admits,would make them to apologies to DD...What a bunch of kids....

theincredibequeenofwands · 29/12/2011 23:24

Urgh.

Can't stand sniggering, immature 'men' who can't handle a few drinks.

Depresses me.

Cancel the party, go out with your friends.

Flanelle · 29/12/2011 23:27

I wouldn't want the idiot speaking to my DC. I wouldn't want her to know - I'd lose the calendar. I'd be fuming. So utterly shitty. YANBU.

Schafe · 29/12/2011 23:27

I think you've over reacted. If I were you I'd get back on the phone and re-invite YOUR friends (going out on NYE's a fairly terrifying prospect as I recall, from my youth...) Tell DP he's on childcare duty. Cut and paste calendar to remove offensive graffiti. Book spa treatment on his card to try to get over trauma of incident. In the event that spa treatment doesn't do it fatally wound xbox.

EricNordmanfirandMistletoe · 29/12/2011 23:29

No, they would not be welcome in my house again, especially for an alcohol fest party after that behaviour. No way. That is despicable.

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