WIBU to not wash up the pan? <Trivial alert>

[RainboweBrite]

My turn to cook dinner today (bangers, mash, peas, broccoli and gravy), but what do I find? DH, who had lunch later than DS and I, hadn't washed up the pan he'd used from his lunch, and I needed it for the broccoli. So, in this situation, what would you do?

(a) Just wash up the pan and get on with it!
(b) Call DH and make him wash up the pan.
(c) Not wash up the pan and not have any broccoli.

Luckily for me, I checked and found another pan in the cupboard. So I used this, but only because I knew I wouldn't have to wash up after dinner, as when we're both around (DH works away all week and for the last few months has only been back every other weekend, so everything falls to me), whoever cooks, the other washes up/loads the dishwasher.

If I hadn't found the other pan, I would have gone for (c), because I don't see why I should have to wash up someone else's pan, even if I really wanted the broccoli.

Am I the only one who thinks like this? FWIW, there have been a couple of occasions when I have really craved a G&T after a stressful day in the summer, but decided to go without it completely upon discovering there was no lime or lemon.

You've way too much time on your hands!!

I don't get why you would rather not have broccoli instead of washing a pan

I think just washing the pan and getting on with it is the sensible option.

Teriyaki, probably, but I suppose I put the principle of not washing up anyone else's pan above my need for broccoli! Or I would have, if there hadn't been another pan .

I would just wash the pan tbh

Are you on drugs op?

Hairy, nope, but I am a bit sleep deprived.

Rainbow - I get too hungry to bother about principles

Are you always this petty?

Chipping, I like to think of it as principled rather than petty, but maybe it is petty not to do someone else's washing-up for them.

I think you need a nice early night. Have some :)

whoever cooks the other one washes up.
therefore you should have washed the pan up after lunch if dh cooked??

Does your dh never do anything for you? We don't keep tallies of who had done what when.

Couldn't you just put the peas and brocolli in together if it would piss you off that much to wash the pan?

I guess that it all rather depends why this feeling has happened. On the face of it, this would be petty to not wash the pan, is there a deeper reason for you not wanting to wash the pan. In my house I feel like this, when DH refuses to eat what I have cooked for everyone else, then uses loads more dishes after I have washed up for the last time of the day and then just leaves it all by the sink..l..because its obviously my job to wash up his dishes after he decides he does not want to eat the food that I have cooked him. If it is within this sort or context then I can understand what may be driving this issue.

seriously are you for real???

if it was a crusty burnt pan that would take an age to clean, fair enough, and the person who left it should have cleaned it, but otherwise, just wash it out and get on with things!

Depends on how much sleep you've had/how nice DH has been to you recently/how PMSy you are. In a normal state of affairs YABU and should just wash the pan without even thinking about it. If any of the above are a bit off kilter though, you should save the pan till he gets home and beat him senseless with it. HTH.

sharenicely, DH chose to make his own lunch after we had ours and I'd washed up all our lunch stuff.
Hairy, thank you very much .
PANCHEY yep, that's kind of how I'm feeling.
Ballstoit, nope, because I did the peas in the microwave.
Katiekatiekatekate, LoL! (Oops, are we allowed to say LoL on here?) I wouldn't go quite that far though!!!

Squeaky, nope it was used for baked beans, but now you mention it, he did leave yesterday's scrambled egg pan (he made lunch for DS while I was out for a few hours) on the cooker not even soaking, when I was out, so maybe that's why I was so pissed off today!

Do you not have a microwave :) I havent used a pan for heating beans in years... much easier to wash out a plastic bowl.

Wouldn't think twice about washing the pan. You sound a bit petty and odd but I'm very easy going.

Tbh I would use the one pan for both veg (as long as they were frozen peas) I quite often throw peas in the same pan with another veg for the last 10 mins.

But in your situation I would just wash it and use it, he would have to wash it again afterwards anyway.

You should get a dishwasher to prevent these situations, if mine broke I'd move out.

If it is as Panchey suggests then your OP is misleading: AIBU by stealth.

Tell your DH you are getting fed up, feeling taken for granted, sick of cooking and washing up over the extended hol period, etc. Talk about it like adults.

Because, really, just washing the pan should be no big deal.

Let him get away with this and you're on a slippery slope, madam.

YANBU. I would have served his broccoli raw and cooked mine and DS's in a smaller pan, then explained that I couldn't fit ALL the broccoli into the clean pan that was left.