to feel a little uncertain that primrose oil is the best medication for a violent fragile X teen?

[corygal]

Oh, wail, plead, puss-in-boots melting eyes, ladies - I need your help.

Family friend is worried stiff about her DN - nephew. He's 19, diagnosed with very severe autism (fragile X) at 4, and after leaving residential school is back at home with his 50-plus parents and their four young DSs and DDs.

DN is beating them up. Mate found out when his sister, 9, let slip that 'Mummy was asleep on the grass for hours' after they had been gardening together and 'she said DN hit her head'. Mate saw it for herself when she walked into their utility room and was met by a flying 11-yr old, her other neice. The other 3 kids - 7 to 10 - have been similarly treated. The dad, who is in the army, can't control DN, who in addition to having psychotic rages, is still growing at 6 foot 2 and a fine athlete.

Parents 'don't believe in medication'. Grandparents believe in aromatherapy. Mate doesn't believe in family beaten black and blue. What can she say to persuade them that DN needs more help than the rest of his family fleeing when he approaches?

As part of the 'information gathering' that children's services have to do, they will automatically contact all of the relevent agencies, so the whole system will click in.

It may take Children's services involvement to help the whole family as the most pressing point is the threat of violence towards the children, they have time scales that they have to act in, which are quicker than adult services, given that the parents will not contact the police.

Compos- the DN is a vulnerable adult and as yet we do not know if he holds capacity. The DN may be being let down by his parents, as he cannot be enjoying how he is feeling/acting.

If you don't know the system, you don't always know what to do. the DN should still have a SW. There should have been life planning work done. We don't have enough information to make judgements.

The OP now understands that it is a CP SS issue.

Best of luck OP, I hope this family find some peace.