To just want to go home

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We are at PIL for Christmas with a 7 mo DD who has a severe dairy allergy. She is still breastfed as won't take a bottle and can't get enough food into her any other way which means I can't have dairy as the tiniest trace will give her reflux for weeks. It makes her writhe around in pain and not sleep.

It has been discussed lots previously and I have offered to bring food for Christmas to make things easier but was told I didn't need to.

Only after making DH double check today did he discover there was butter in nearly everything including the turkey except for the potatoes and the carrots. So today I have had 3 potatoes and some carrots to eat. Somehow DD has got reflux tonight so there ws obviously some butter in one of those too and so I am sat upstairs by myself hungry and without anything but an apple to eat with a baby that is waking up in pain.

AIBU to think they could have just told me to bring my own food instead of obviously not wanting to compromise on their Christmas lunch for the sake of their granddaughter? I am sure they just think I am being PFB despite being under a paediatric gastroenterologist.

I just want to get in the car and go home.

I don't blame you! Poor, poor you and dd!

Just go home. Say your dd isn't well. Just go. It's really nit worth it.

I have the same problem. My 7 month old has a severe dairy allergy (as in, actually severe- anaphylactic shock, swelling, adrenalin needed etc) and DP's worried about PIL's in a few days and all the food about. A tiny t

I have the same problem. My 7 month old has a severe dairy allergy (as in, actually severe- anaphylactic shock, swelling, adrenalin needed etc) and DP's worried about PIL's in a few days and all the food about. A tiny touch would set him off and I cant eat anything (breastfeeding).

SO if I were you and I had the option to go home with unwell DC id politely explain and make my exist.

I hope your DD is ok.

I agree. Leave. Go get yourself some food at least or send DH out for some. That's ridiculous.

How far away from home are you sweetie?

Can you get there quickly and safely?

Where is your husband? Tell him to get upstairs and give you some support! Does he realise how distressed you both are? Sometimes you need to be blunt.

Get him down in that kitchen looking for fruit, crackers, cold meats etc to put together something. Can you eat eggs? He could make a quick mushroom omlette or something?

Get him into bloody action, you wouldn't be suffering at your parents would you?

Hugs to you xxx

YANBU but stay and make sure they see what they've done to your daughter with their selfish behaviour.

Stick it out for tonight & go home tomorrow. Invite them round for dinner?

Go home. At least then you can control what is in the food better.

When things have calmed down it will probably be worth having a chat with them about what your DD (and at the moment you) can and can't eat so they know for when she eats there in the future.

If you don't have the allergy awareness it can be hard to know what is and isn't suitable but they should have checked and if needed took you up on the offer to provide your own. We had a Celiac (sp) with us today and I checked everything before doing it

Op, are you ok?

I would just go home.
You should have taken your own food anyway, just in case.

Sounds crap!

Would going home actually help right now though, will your baby be happy or worse in the car seat?

I think I would go home. YANBU to want to go home - it sounds like being home will make it easier for you to care for your DD.

I'm so sorry this has happened, they sound like they are not taking it seriously enough, and they should do.

My son had a dairy intolerance and a lot of people looked at me as if I was making it up despite it being suggested and confirmed by his consultant. A lot of people thought the earth was flat once - unfortunately some people will think you are being PFB/silly - you know you;re not.

Take care and hope your DD not too bad for too long x

DNBU....I would go. It takes nothing to leave butter out of a Christmas dinner. I leave it out as my dad can not eat it and infact our dinner was fab, the only thing containing butter was the white sauce on the cauli.
Failing to understand how they could be so inconsiderate, they could have bunged a chicken breast in a separate roasting tin and left butter out of the veg, roast potatos only need oil.
Have they nothing else in the house ? pasta even with a bit of tomato sauce ?
If not bugger off home.

I would go home. I hope your DD (and you) feel better soon - really cross for you.

My DH doesn't eat dairy at certain times for religious reasons and it is not difficult to make a Christmas dinner largely without butter if you bother to think about it for half a second. I would be really angry they obviously thought they knew better and/or couldn't be bothered.

Go home. What kind of people would do that to you and their grandchild?

I really feel for you. I hope you find a solution and have a reasonable night.

Are they the type of really thick people people who don't realise butter is dairy and eggs aren't...!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Pack your stuff, get in your car and go home. Christmases at other peoples houses with a baby are just stressful. I learnt the hard way and one year I just left on boxing day, was supposed to stay for longer. Left DH there.

Just do it.

You pour thing :( Please make your Dh get you something to eat!

Send DH out for some food.
Make sure the PIL see how much pain their selfishness had caused your DD.
Never go there to eat again.
Have a
Hope your evening gets better.

I remember being in Florida for 2 weeks with 4mo ds1 who had severe lactose intolerance, despite my pleas my mother insisted on feeding him all sorts of stuff he shouldnt have saying it was all in my head. One night after a particularly trying day I went into her room every time he woke up as we were staying in a villa, neither of us got any sleep but it proved my point, on the right diet he was a reliably good sleeper.

WHy hasn't DH gone out for things for you???? Ham? Salad? Some kind of bread? Make someone go! Poor thing!