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AIBU/ Tight re xmas day wine

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Slilou · 23/12/2011 13:03

we have 16 at our house for xmas day. every year its either at my house or my inlaws. our siblings have no kids and never host but always come to us, as does my mum and grandpa.

everyone contributes one food item plus wine and we are considered to be the venue providers but not solely responsible for food/ drink.

dh has been given 3 bottles of champagne and 4 cava plus 12 bottles of wine by clients at the last minute.

we will probably hide Blush save the vintage champagne and use the cava on the day, plus use some of our wine.

my question is this: is it tight to ask our relatives to bring wine when we have quite a bit in the house anyway?

should i ring them and say dont bother with the wine/booze?

also, should point out that the booze is dh's but my side of the family is much larger

AIBU to not use all our own wine on xmas day?

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amerryscot · 23/12/2011 13:04

I think they should bring at least what they would personally consume.

EndoplasmicReticulum · 23/12/2011 13:04

No, hide the wine. You are cooking and providing food, the least relatives could do is bring a bottle. You'll set a precedent anyway, they'll think they don't need to bother again.

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Slilou · 23/12/2011 13:05

seriously, actually hide it??

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BeerGrinchPotter · 23/12/2011 13:08

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Shutupanddrive · 23/12/2011 13:08

Hide it!!! Of course they should bring their own wine

IKilledIgglePiggle · 23/12/2011 13:10

I would put the wine and champers away and crack open the fizzy Xmas Grin

BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack · 23/12/2011 13:12

Hell, let em bring their own wine!! I have been given 16 bottles of wine from various people through work - I aint sharing....well, not all of it anyway :)

troisgarcons · 23/12/2011 13:12

I alwayss thought it "normal" to take your own booze. I would expect mixers/soft drinks to be provided. Infact I usually take a 4 pint of milk too.

Original poster
Slilou · 23/12/2011 13:12

ok, glad to hear that you dont think i'm tight Grin.

i think i will feel v ashamed to actually hide it, but will do so Blush.

thinking about it...we have friends with a whole cellar full of wine. we still always take wine to them when they host, of course.

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WhenDoISleep · 23/12/2011 13:13

Hide it! It was an unexpected bonus. Use the cava and the bottles that I'm guessing would have probably already bought.

Winkly · 23/12/2011 13:13

Hide it

Haziedoll · 23/12/2011 13:16

Just stick to your original plan. Don't think you should hide the wine. If I was coming to your house I wouldn't think you were greedy if you had lots of wine. The festive period extends beyond Xmas day.

Pandemoniaa · 23/12/2011 13:16

We always take wine and that includes to all the houses where there's a veritable lake of it.

It is also not mean to quietly squirrel away some of the better stuff that has just arrived unexpectedly. I'm not in the slightest bit mean but by teatime on Christmas Day, most family gatherings will have reached the stage where they'd happily drink vintage lighter fuel.

SolidGoldStockingFilla · 23/12/2011 13:18

Definitely tuck it away, it was given to you and your H as gifts for you to enjoy.

Haziedoll · 23/12/2011 13:19

I would think it odd if I was having a nose in your cupboards and a shedload of wine fell out. Don't hide, it's fine people won't think anything of it.

Pandemoniaa · 23/12/2011 13:21

Do you routinely "have a nose in" other people's cupboards then, Hazle? Only I'd be more than a little catsarsehole to find people inspecting the contents of mine. Also, if "shedloads" of wine fell on them, then they deserve to be concussed, not apologised to.

ElectricSoftParade · 23/12/2011 13:21

I think your guests will bring wine/whatever with them, so don't feel guilty. Another way to look at it is to think if you are running low, you will have some to bring out.

I don't think anyone would begrudge you your wine Xmas Smile apart from my tight git MIL. When she brings a bottle with her, she doesn't give it to us but keeps it, unopened, by her side. This makes it easier for her when she leaves to take it back with her Xmas Shock.

Haziedoll · 23/12/2011 13:22

No not really Pande Grin

It just seems to be what everyone does on "Come dine with me".

Pandemoniaa · 23/12/2011 13:23

True, Hazie.
I love "Come Dine With Me".

Winkly · 23/12/2011 13:23

Is it the same bottle every time, electric?

Dolcelatte · 23/12/2011 13:24

Of course they should make a contribution. They are lucky that you are hosting. We have masses of wine in the house but guests always bring a bottle or two, as do we when we visit them. I don't understand your dilemma.

ElectricSoftParade · 23/12/2011 13:25

We have seen the same bottle twice but being judgey kind, think it is because she has a case Xmas Smile Wine

NatashaBee · 23/12/2011 13:28

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ElectricSoftParade · 23/12/2011 13:43

It becomes the elephant in the room. Everyone knows its there but nobody talks about it.

I have been known to put it in a carrier bag and put it by the front door. You know, just to be helpful [fsmile}.

Lizcat · 23/12/2011 13:58

Vintage champagne should be saved and then savoured on a special day, not necessarily a happy one - they day the b***ds stole all my twinkles including my engagement ring DH opened a bottle of Dom Perignon that we had had for ages it helped a little.
Use Cava when everyone is already bubbly.

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