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AIBU?

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To stalk my husband using Find My Iphone

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thinkoutofthetoybox · 23/12/2011 07:25

That's it really. I know his password, so can log on to the internet at any time and locate his iphone (and therefore him).
He is aware I know his password and actually suggested that I can use it to know where he is when he goes out kayaking (he takes his phone with him).
However, I'm using it at the mo to see what pub he's gone too after his work xmas do....
So, AIBU to 'stalk' him or is it ok?. My Mum thinks its a bit stalker-ish.
BTW, there are no trust issues here, I'm just stuck at home pregnant with a toddler so its just another way to pass the time (apart from MN obviously). It also means I don't have to call him every couple of hours to find out whether he's coming home, so surely its a win-win?

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chickensaregreen · 23/12/2011 10:05

I suppose there is a fine line between stalking and novelty value! I can honestly say it has never occurred to me to check
up on OH. Just novelty value, although I can see how it could be used as a form of control in some couples. It is amazing how accurate it is though. It pinpoints me to my actual classroom!

humblehippo · 23/12/2011 11:22

My sister sometimes uses that to "track" her DH - don't think he is bothered by it at all! Surely it is just a handy way to see if he has set off on his way home, how far he has got or whether he is still at the office or whatever without having to phone and ask! If no trust issues I don't see that it is sinister or creepy at all really...

BertieBotts · 23/12/2011 11:27

You can only do this if the phone has the right app installed, and the GPS is turned on. I never turn mine on as it wastes the battery so I am not worried about anybody stalking me.

My android phone came with the Latitude app when I bought it but I don't think the iPhone one does come by default.

duvetdayplease · 23/12/2011 11:57

I'd hate to think what mine looked like. sofa, sofa, rug, sofa, toilet, kettle, sofa, co-op, sofa, cooker, kettle, rug, rug, kettle, table, sofa.

If someone could actually see how little I move I would be tempted to leave the house or something radical!

Chattymummyhere · 23/12/2011 12:16

I only do this when DH rings up sayings his lost to I pin point his location and give him directions. However I turn my GPS off when im in a mood with him because he will then track me down when all I want is to cool off

BertieBotts · 23/12/2011 12:22

It sounded really interesting when the guy in the shop was explaining it. Useful if for example you're out in town with a group of friends and switch it on to see that another friend is in X bar, you could go and join them. Or if you're meeting someone in town to go shopping or whatever it means you don't need a specific waiting point, or to be texting constantly "Are you finished yet? I'm outside Boots." If you don't want to be tracked then disable GPS or the app itself, it's not that difficult.

Seems 99% of calls made on mobiles are "Where are you?" anyway so if you can do it for free, why not?

DeePanCrisPandEeeven · 23/12/2011 12:37

oh go and stalk him happily. When he gets home give him a print out of where he's been and timings and everything!
I took it to be tongue in cheek OP.

Cankulzof · 23/12/2011 12:40

anyone would be bored titless if they bothered to stalk me.

HairyNigel · 23/12/2011 12:43

Blimey, I wouldn't be checking up on him quite that much! Can see how it would come in useful if he went missing or something, but otherwise I'd just get my kicks from MN.

HecateGoddessOfTwelfthNight · 23/12/2011 12:45

My husband has a tracking unit fitted to his car.

He keeps wanting me to sit at the pc and watch

It is very dull. He comes home and asks me how it was, did I watch. I lie and say yes.

tbh, if your husband has this tracking thing fitted, and he's got no problem with you looking, then I don't think it's stalking.

DoesntChristmasDragOn · 23/12/2011 12:50

I "stalk" DS1 occasionally.

MJinSparklyStockings · 23/12/2011 13:03

what is this tracking people through Iphones, I dont know about it

ThreeNine · 23/12/2011 13:09

I've just started doing this My husband doesn't care and knows why I was asking for his password. He rarely goes anywhere without me anyway tbh. I do it when I'm counting down the minutes to him getting home from work (so he can have a go at idling the baby).

I sometimes lock his phone when I know he'll be using it, just to wind him up

troisgarcons · 23/12/2011 13:14

I never call him while he's out. I do however worry about him after a very serious rohypnol/robbery/potential kidnapping (ie he was dumped in the middle of nowhere) incident a couple of years ago

""" That sounds much more interesting ....... do elaborate!

kylietokaren · 23/12/2011 13:21

I wish this technology existed when my kids were teenagers. It would have saved me a lot of anxiety.

RoughShooting · 23/12/2011 13:37

So how do you do it on an iphone? Do i need an app? I quite like the idea, for fun rather than weirdo-ness though!

Trills · 23/12/2011 13:58

DP initiated us exchanging "you can find me" things for the Find My iPhone app, so we can now both see where the other is. I don't know how much he uses it, but I don't really mind.

RoughShooting put "Find my iphone" into the app store and download it, it's free.

PeneloPeePitstop · 23/12/2011 14:01

Me and DH do this for a laugh. We share the same cloud, contacts, diaries and everything so it's a shared password.

Kind of hide and seek.

IdRatherBeInDrinkingMulledWine · 23/12/2011 14:04

That is very stalkerish!! why would you want to do that, if he says hes in the pub, why 'check' if there are no trust issues!! dont get it myself!

Trills · 23/12/2011 14:09

DP is in Sainsburys right now.

I love him :)

(I am on a train on the way home from visiting my parents)

DoesntChristmasDragOn · 23/12/2011 15:24

You won't love him when you realise he is in Sainsbury's buying your christmas present...

Trills · 23/12/2011 15:47

Haha, I'm sure there are some nice things to be found there. He claims to have already got my present.

Firawla · 23/12/2011 17:32

me and dh both use it, not to an excessive amount but its quite useful and handy to see if he is on his way home yet or still at work, or gone to a work event and forgot to tell me, etc. its not about trust or "checking" if he is where he says is he, because if he told me where he is then i wont bother to look but if i dont know and i am wondering, then i will check.
im not bothered about him tracking my location either, unless its a controlling dh who would be like "i saw you at so&so place, why are you going there for bla bla bla" which is obv not good but if they just look now and again not obsessively following you round or anything then i think its fine
i only get told not to do it if he has got low battery as it runs it out more quick

JohnMacwak · 21/12/2012 12:51

Surely Its a win :) and Totally agreed with trills

AndABigBirdInaPearTree · 21/12/2012 12:57

When DH first got his iphone DS and I used to watch him drive home from work. It was fun, sometimes we would call him on the way :) DH changed his password (but told it to me) and I forgot it so we don't do it anymore, plus the novelty wore off.

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