or just coincidence?

[EllenandBump]

My sister has face booked me to say that she needs to be available on the 4,5and 12th of january as she has appointments, despite me having put all mine up on the calendar. I have told her i cannor change them. It seems a bit of a coincidence that all of a sudden since she came in today that she has appointments after i got 2 yesterday and put them up for the fouirth and fifth, the fourth being solicitors about custody in response to a letter from his solicitor and the fifth a doctors appointment, The 12th is my best friends birthday and so it seems all too coincidental, that these are the three days her appointments fall upon. Or am i being paranoid, (quite stressed) x

Which is understandable in the circs :)

Sorry. Not very good at descriptions, English never was my strong point! x

Thank you who moved my chocolate! I dont need all the extra stress right now of her having a go at me or i feel like i really will lose it with her. I dont want to end up going mad at her. I have been biting my tongue reallllllllyyyy hard. almost off!!! x

Can we get something straight, she DOESN'T make you feel this way or that way. YOU make yourself feel how you do. So - don't feel it. Stop thinking about it, just say no, and leave it at that. End of.

Exactly, Cabrinha

Where is your sister going? How long are the dogs going to be kept alone for?

Right what is more important to you? your sister not getting upset with you or your appointment? By reading this thread I would say its your appointment (and rightly so). So say no and if she buggers off out and leaves you with them making you feel you cant go out, make sure nothing of yours is near dogs (shut them - your things not the dogs - in your room) and just leave. If she has a go, just say told you I couldnt. Please dont make this your problem, its hers. If it makes you feel better think to yourself that at least you are being the grown up here. At least you have sense.

Hope things sort themselves out for you.

I have no idea where she is going come to think of it she just said appointment, which makes me think she wont tell me why should i tell her what mine are for. I am not being unreasonable to say NO to her, my appointment is SOOO much more important to me than hers. She never said how long for or anything just i need to be available all day, on these days so i assumed all day, but even if she was due back before i know her time keeping runs to mickey mouse o clock!!

I am not being unreasonable to say NO to her, my appointment is SOOO much more important to me than hers

Just tell her that then.