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to be really fucking angry with DH

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OhdearNigel · 21/12/2011 15:11

We stayed at my parents on Sunday and just had 1 set of keys. DH dropped me to work on the way home and took my keys home. Halfway through my shift I realised that I couldn't get in (DH working lates) and emailed him re key, to which I get the following reply
"Its in the pop next to the door pushed into the soil under the pinky purple flower. You should be able to see the top sticking out?."

FF to today. I go to go in my house and MY HOUSE KEY IS MISSING. Phoned DH and he said that he took it off my keyring. He didn't bother to tell me and why would I think he had done so when WE HAVE A SPARE FRICKING KEY ???

He is out and will not be back until 7pm. I have £2, no phone as it is indoors. I can't get hold of my parents who have a spare key. Fortunately I work for the police and as our house is next door to the police station I have somewhere to go. I have LOADS to do this afternoon, the whole point of him being out this afternoon was so that I could get on with some cooking and Christmas sorting in peace. I can't even get on with the Christmas presents I was going to buy because the ID to get the money from the savings account is....... in the house

I am absolutely apoplectic with rage and now to make matters worse he is ignoring my calls.

WIBU to murder him when he gets in ?????

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Flisspaps · 21/12/2011 15:17

YANBU.

slavetofilofax · 21/12/2011 15:18

YWNBU to shove the key he took straight up his arse, but I think murder would be taking it a bit far.

Although I would also want to murder my dh if he took something I need away from me without even bothering to tell me about it.

Why doesn't he have his own key?

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OhdearNigel · 21/12/2011 15:18

On the bright side I am catching up with a couple of household emails etc that needed doing.

There is a half-full bottle of cava in the house that I was looking forward to drinking Sad

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LineRunnerCrouchingReindeer · 21/12/2011 15:19

OP, I have read this three times and just dont get the relevance of your staying with your parents on Sunday.

I do follow that you are locked out of your own home, that you have phoned your DH and told him that, but that he won't be home till 7pm and is now refusing to take your calls.

Is that right?

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OhdearNigel · 21/12/2011 15:19

He had left his own set of keys at home when we went to my Mum's - we only had 1 set between us, had I taken my keys when he dropped me he couldn't have got in - we just didn't think about it when we left home

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lisad123 · 21/12/2011 15:20

Can you not drive to his work or your parents and get keys?

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OhdearNigel · 21/12/2011 15:21

Line - I was explaining the background as to how the house key came to have been taken off my bunch, thought it would be helpful. It was DH who took the house key off my bunch but forgot to tell me that that it was my key rather than the spare key

Does that make sense ?

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Adversecamber · 21/12/2011 15:22

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LineRunnerCrouchingReindeer · 21/12/2011 15:22

How did you get from Sunday to Wednesday?

I'd probably look at ways of breaking in with the help of the police and the neighbours.

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OhdearNigel · 21/12/2011 15:22

No Lisa, DH's got the car and anyway it would appear that my parents are out - and my Dad's key for our house will be with him on his carkeys so there is no point in going there at all. I could only go on the bus and by the time I got there and back it would be 7pm anway (it's about 1hour on the bus). And I don't have enough money for the ticket !

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DoMeDon · 21/12/2011 15:22

I would break in and charge him for the replacement window. Twat. Hope your day improves Brew

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OhdearNigel · 21/12/2011 15:25

Line - DH and I were both off yesterday and together so I didn't realise the key issue until I tried to get in after work today. On Monday night I got in with the key from my bunch that he had taken off. As I didn't realise it was my key not the spare key I just left it on the kitchen windowsill. Neighbours are away on holiday and the only way police will be able to get in is via an MOE kit which will smash our door to pieces. They wouldn't do it anyway, I'd have to call a locksmith

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lisad123 · 21/12/2011 15:26

Get dh to drive home, it's his fault!

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OhdearNigel · 21/12/2011 15:26

And we live in the middle of a terrace of 9 houses, the only way in is over a 20ft wall at the back of a funeral parlour. It is impossible to get into our house without a key to the front door. Even if the neighbour on the other side let me over her wall I could only stand in my back garden for 3 hours.

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LineRunnerCrouchingReindeer · 21/12/2011 15:27

In that case we should all go to the pub. Wine

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OhdearNigel · 21/12/2011 15:28

I wish Lisa ! He won't return my calls and he is out with his father in Tunbridge Wells - even if he left now the soonest he could possibly be back is 5pm as he has to drop FIL to Hastings first.

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DoMeDon · 21/12/2011 15:30

Call the locksmith. I have home emergency cover with my bank account - do you have anything like that you might have forgotten?

yosammitysam · 21/12/2011 15:34

I feel your pain. Something v similar happened with me and the whole other people taking keys off your bunch scenario. Very frustrating if you have lots to do but eventually I decided to see it as bonus time off- I went and bought a big glossy mag and sat in the oub for the afternoon! I think men are fundamentally very stupid.

yosammitysam · 21/12/2011 15:34

pub !

KatieScarlettsCrackers · 21/12/2011 15:35

DH has done similar, in fact he once locked me into his flat when we were dating.

Every time he has rushed back immediately to let me in/rescue me.

So I would indeed be making this a very bad day for him.

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OhdearNigel · 21/12/2011 15:40

DoMeDon - if I could check the policy I'd be indoors !

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DoMeDon · 21/12/2011 15:44
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kelly2000 · 21/12/2011 15:47

tell him to come back and let you in right now. If he ignores you calls, send him a text telling him this, and thta if he does not get back you will call a locksmith and not give him a key at all. Or you could just stay in a hotel, not tell him, and let him panic and see how it feels not to be able to get hold of you.

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OhdearNigel · 21/12/2011 15:50

kelly, my phone is indoors. I can't call a locksmith because I have no access to any money because my purse is indoors.
I have with me - £2, a John Lewis catalogue, a pair of gloves, a torch, a key for a car that is 40 miles away, a child's sticker book and 15 hairbands

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LilyPickle · 21/12/2011 16:01

Can you not use the phone at your work and pay the locksmith when he lets your into your house? Presumably you are at work now on their computer?