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Phone for a seven year old? Really?

59 replies

Molehillmountain · 20/12/2011 21:55

I always get like this at this time of year as I def don't understand the present buying philosophy of my in laws. Aibu and a bit of a Luddite, or is seven still quite young for a mobile phone even in this day and age?

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whackamole · 20/12/2011 21:57

I think it's young. But it's not my kid, not my business.

FWIW, DSS was given a phone for his 10th birthday this year as he was always out and about on his bike and never came back when he should (maybe a watch would've been better?).

He rarely has it turned on, never responds to texts to calls. However, he loves playing on his mum's iPhone and OH iPod!

Cherriesarelovely · 20/12/2011 21:58

It is insane! Honestly! What are they thinking?!

FrostyTheCrunchyFrog · 20/12/2011 22:19

It's young, yes.

But DD has one - because I don't feel that her only access to XH and his parents should be through me, they should have a freer option for communication.

She's 8, and the phone was a tenner. Xmas Smile

WorraLiberty · 20/12/2011 22:21

It depends on how cheap it is and whether the child needs it or not.

Some kids do need them, particularly if they play out with their friends over the park for example...or if their parents are separated and they sleep at the NRP's house.

Molehillmountain · 21/12/2011 08:29

He never goes out without his parents! Just getting it out of my system so I can make yummy noises when I see them! Don't want to come over all Scrooge like on christmas day! And to gauge whether I'm a particularly old fashioned grump on this! My feeling is that if they're off to lots of activities or school by themselves then perhaps it's the equivalent these days of carrying 10p in your pocket for the phone. But surely at seven the adult he's with at a playdate or whatever would have the number?

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tigerlillyd02 · 21/12/2011 08:39

I'm an old fashioned grump! Join the club!

PeanutsRoastingOnAnOpenFire · 21/12/2011 08:42

YANBU far too young except in rare circumstances.

Goolash · 21/12/2011 08:46

That was the age I gave my son one, it was a very cheap payg. We go camping quite a bit and he was getting to that age where he wanted to cycle around the field, or go off to the camp shop in the morning. I felt more reassured if he had a phone with him. He was also going on sleepovers and liked to get a good night text. He didn't have anything like a DS lite and used it to play a couple of simple games and take the odd photo.

At 10 I bought him a much nicer touch screen, around £50. I often have to drop him off at a club and they go on many trips to perform. Having a phone makes organizing a little easier. I don't like him taking his i-pod touch on trips, so he's got some games and music on the phone, plus the camera is reasonable.

Yankeecandlequeen · 21/12/2011 08:50

not at 7! Where do they go with out parents to need a phone?

DD1 who is 10 has one but I only gave it to her at the start of the summer holidays. Hardly uses it though & TBH she needs another one cos tha battery keeps dying on this one cos its so damn old.

Off I go on Ebay!

imaginethat · 21/12/2011 08:55

I gave my 8yo one so she could phone me from her dad's house but she never did and to date has only ever sent two texts. Which is great. I'm glad she doesn't have the phone habit, I just wanted her to feel secure.

Molehillmountain · 21/12/2011 09:13

Phew not just me then! World of difference between ten and seven I think. And I feel a bit sad that that's what he wants for Christmas. If dd needed one, I think I'd see it as equipment and it wouldn't be a gift, more equipment she needed. But i think I can do the nice auntie getting excited for her nephew now-unless it's an iPhone...it couldn't be could it?!!!

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PattySimcox · 21/12/2011 09:16

DD (7yo) asked for one. I asked her who she was going to ring / text. She thought about it and took it off her xmas wish list.

Think it is probably just something that they hear older ones getting and think it is a cool thing to have.

That said my friend gave her old iphone to her 3yo so she could play with the apps Xmas Hmm

TwelveGaysOfChristmas · 21/12/2011 09:28

When I was 7 I was within shouting distance of my Nana at all times!

Then again I could have been in the next country over and still hear her!

zipzap · 21/12/2011 09:40

We've got a cheap spare phone that cost £2.50 plus a tenner top up. Even at that price it has a reasonable camera on it. I've made sure ds1 knows how to use it but it isn't his phone.

However it did occur to me that it's screwed up when you can buy a reasonable camera phone for less than the price of a comic with a tacky toy phone on. And for lots less than a cheap toy phone.

With all these things I think 'it depends' - on the maturity of the child, the situations they are in on a regular or occasional basis, the cost of the phone, what other kids around them are likely to do if they know the child has a phone, and so on. There isn't a simple rule that applies in all situations, you can't just say all children under 10 shouldn't be allowed phones.

Yankeecandlequeen · 21/12/2011 09:44

It does depend on the child & situation. DD1 doesn't have any phone number other than the house & DH & my mobile. I tend to put in £5 a month but it lasts for abotu 3-4 months cos she doesn't really go anywhere, Its used more during the lighter months when she's out playing & maybe gone to a pals house from the park. We're moving house in the summer to a nearby village so I guess it will come in handy then when she's out & about finding new places to hide!

Fo0ffysFestiveShmooffery · 21/12/2011 09:44

Nah. Too young. My DS is 9 and I over heard a conversation between two of the class parents about how they were getting their darlings a blackberry. Hmm I don't know maybe it's just me.

DS has been told when he starts secondary school and not before.

VodkaKnockers · 21/12/2011 10:08

DS1 is 9 and has been asking for a phone for the past year. The answer is no. I have told by said DS that I am a terrible and cruel mum and he will teased as he is only one without a phone.

We have decided that we will get him a phone when starting secondary and not before as he does not need one.

I don't think that any child under 10 has a need for a phone. Wanting one is not a reason for getting one.

littlemisssarcastic · 21/12/2011 10:18

DS had his 1st mobile phone when he started at secondary school. Used it from the moment he got it, would text me to tell me he was running late or had missed the bus yada yada, upgraded his phone a few times now and is never without it. I can always contact him should I need to.

Nephew given a phone when he started secondary too, doesn't use it as much but can always contact him if you need to and although he doesn't tend to rely on it as much as DS relys on his, he would still be stuck without it.

Niece given a phone when she was 10, has no one other than her parents to text/call on it, so it stayed in her room at home most of the time and she played games on it. She hasn't actually charged it up since October and it sits gathering dust in her room.

Younger niece was given a phone when she was 7, and it has been charged once. It has had £5 credit on it for the last 4 months and niece has never texted or phoned anyone. It was charged up once and niece played the games on it, then the charge ran low, it ran out of power and niece has never picked it up since.

If you buy a phone for your child to use as a phone, to be able to contact people if they need to, to allow people to contact them, then 7 is too young imo.

I remember my DS asking for a phone when he was about 8. I asked him who he would be texting?? He replied 'My best friend.' I reminded him his best friend didn't have a phone, so who else could he text/phone??
He realised the only person he could phone or text would be me, but he was always with me unless he was at school. No point imo.

FredFredGeorge · 21/12/2011 10:24

If the 7 year old never goes out the house without his parents, then I think there's bigger problems than if he has a phone or not - why can't he go out to play?

lljkk · 21/12/2011 10:29

Some people view them as expensive toys & modern necesities; at least the 7yo will know everything about how to use it by the time they go Free-range. DC (10 & 12) still fumble with how to use theirs, they simply haven't "played" with the phones enough.

DottyDot · 21/12/2011 10:41

7's too young I think. Ds1's just got an ipod touch for his 10th birthday - he wasn't going to but offered to pay half so we went with it and the best thing is, I can message him (from my work iphone) whenever I like Grin. This is already irritating him but is the thing I love about it the most - didn't know ipod touches could do this - it's fab - best combination of not being a phone as such, but being able to message and Facetime whenever I want Grin

AKMD · 21/12/2011 10:48

FredFredGeorge unless you live in rural Sweden YAB ridiculous. Where would a 7yo go completely unsupervised by an adult?

YANBU OP, a 7yo does not need their own mobile phone. The only circumstances I can think of where one might be appropriate are boarding school and where the parents are separated.

FredFredGeorge · 21/12/2011 14:03

AKMD Into the street - sure you can just go the front door and shout, but there's nothing unreasonable about teaching them to use a phone instead (and with PAYG like Giff Gaff wouldn't cost anything to call either if you used your phone enough 5quid/mo average)

elfyrespect · 21/12/2011 14:19

Not for my DD, (although she is getting a walkie talkie set this xmas for camping etc - we'd never get reception on a phone anyway). But her friend got a phone recently - it's not about the texting or making calls at all - it's all about the games and playing music on it.

knockneedandknackered1 · 21/12/2011 14:58

its too young, i think they like to think they need one because they have seen the kids from juniourschools using them.

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