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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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to leave the poo in the bath for DH to deal with?

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Rhubarbgarden · 20/12/2011 19:23

Dh is usually home in time to bath dd (18 months), read her bedtime stories while she has her milk and put her to bed. I'm always pretty wiped out by the time he gets here and it's really nice to hand over and go and sit down for a bit. Tonight dh rang up at teatime and asked if I'd mind if he went out for a drink after work instead. I said that was fine as long as he isn't really late as I had an early start this morning to go and visit a friend who lives 2 hours drive away.

In the bath, dd did a poo. I really hate that. She's only done it a handful of times and it's always been dh who has cleared it up. This is mainly because the first time it happened I was in the throes of morning sickness and the sight of it made me want to vom, so bath poos kind of became his job.

I've got dd into bed, and now I should go and clean up the mess. But I'm really, really tempted to leave it for dh to do when he comes home. Is that so unreasonable? It's been a hectic, though pleasant day and I'm really knackered. I'm past the morning sickness stage now so that's no excuse, but I have done my back in carrying dd around with soft pregnant ligaments so it would be quite painful leaning over the bath sorting it out. Please tell me I can leave it for dh and I'm not just being a lazy arse!

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naturalbaby · 20/12/2011 19:47

oh honestly! is your poor dh not allowed a night out then? you're going to punish him for going out for christmas drinks with a bath full of poo?!

if you'd have scooped it out quick in the first place then you could relax properly. we all have hard days. i have 3 under 3's and dh has to travel abroad for work regularly. there are many moments of desperation where i want to leave the rubbish/nappies/washing up for him to deal with.

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LydiaWickham · 20/12/2011 19:49

Clean the poo! For the love of god, your DH called first to check you were ok with dealing with bathtime, you said he was. If you leave it, it'll look like you are punishing him for having a cheeky post work christmas drink with colleagues.

It will make your bathroom smell and makes you look like a crazy person.

AmorYCohetes · 20/12/2011 19:49

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Flubba · 20/12/2011 19:50

WTAF?! How could you even consider leaving the poo for your DH to clear up? Can you even begin to imagine it if it were you coming home to the poo in the bath while your DH sat on his fat arse saying he was too tired to deal with it??! I mean, really, WTAF?!

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Rhubarbgarden · 20/12/2011 19:50

Ok ok, when the cat's finished with me. You lot are mean.

Can I leave the washing up for him instead? [hopeful]

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mumnotmachine · 20/12/2011 19:51

How do you manage with a dirty nappy?

AmorYCohetes · 20/12/2011 19:53

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missmalteser · 20/12/2011 19:54

Leave it there and tell him its a mud bath soak for him, that'll teach him eh!

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Rhubarbgarden · 20/12/2011 19:55

I'm fine with dirty nappies. I'm very scrupulous and they don't phase me at all. But there's something about poo in the bath that gives me the heebie-jeebies.

This cat won't move.

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AwayinaKayzr · 20/12/2011 19:55

That's revolting!! YABVVVVU

Just clean it up.

Like Naturalbaby my DP works away and there are several things I'd like to leave for him to do. But I can't.

Xmasbaby11 · 20/12/2011 19:56

You have to get rid of it! He doesn't sound like he's done enough to warrant dealing with a disintegrating poo on his return!

DoesntChristmasDragOn · 20/12/2011 19:57

throw the bloody cat off your lap and go and clear it up FFS.

AgentZigzag · 20/12/2011 19:57

Leaving the washing up would be fine, and it would be reasonable, sensible even, to milk the 'I've had to clean out the shitty bath while you were swanning about down t'pub' for all it's worth

AnaisB · 20/12/2011 19:58

YABU - surely you know that? DH said if I did that he would refuse to clean it and we would have a poo stand-off situation.

DressingGownSnowQueen · 20/12/2011 19:58

Are you serious?

I have a 19 month old and no dp. I have cleaned up every single poo bath or otherwise since she was born. Think yourself bloody lucky that you have someone else to hand her over to when you are feeling wiped.

I don't normally play the 'think of us single parents' card but I am fucking knackered and would weep with happiness just to have someone else to clean up the occasional poo or do the dishes.

Feminine · 20/12/2011 19:59

I sympathize...truly.

When I was 8 months pregnant, our local stray got in to our bathroom...thats where our cat used to go (before we forced him outside)

She found what she thought was the place to go...

I had to clean it up, on my hands and knees ...trying not to breathe it, touch it or even look at it.

It was a slippery mess BTW ...HTH :)

Feminine · 20/12/2011 20:01

Oh,and I never did get over that sickness feeling ...so you can imagine!

TidyDancer · 20/12/2011 20:03

Can't actually believe you've left it there this long. It's straight out of the bath in this household, no matter who is supervising.

I know you're trying to be jokey, but is the concept of clearing a poo from the bath really worse than thinking about it just sitting up there?!

Yuck.

SquirtedPerfumeOverTheTinsel · 20/12/2011 20:05

Gross. Get it cleaned.

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Rhubarbgarden · 20/12/2011 20:06

Agentzigzag I like your style.

Well the cat has left me. I am pulling on my marigolds, my waterproofs and hairnet. Right, I'm going in. If I'm never heard from again, I hope you'll all be sorry.

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FannyFifer · 20/12/2011 20:07

Dear god you disgusting woman, why would you not scoop it out immediately?

This has to be a wind up, no one would actually consider it reasonable to leave shite in a bath and not clean it up.

GooKingWenceslas · 20/12/2011 20:11

Good lord that is going to be wretched after all this time

AgentZigzag · 20/12/2011 20:13

I do feel for you, I'm still suffering from the soft ligament thingy two years on from being pregnant with DD2, it's bloody painful.

But I've had to clear up from a cat who had diarrhoea and sprayed a thousand million small bits of it round two rooms and the landing (pardon me, too many greens )

miaowmix · 20/12/2011 20:14

Your poor dh... punished for going for a drink? How would you feel if he left poo for you to clean up if you went out?

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