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To start a Crappy Christmas Thread?

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sitandnatter · 20/12/2011 13:14

Just reading some of the other Christmas threads and how boyfriends aren't being that thoughtful at Christmas time. It reminds me of one Christmas Day when my boyfriend invited me to his parents, then popped out for a drink at the local prior to his dinner leaving me to help his Mum, that's fine she was lovely.

Only he didn't bother to turn up for Christmas Dinner until it was all over, then was totally bladdered, and hiccuped while apologising incoherently.

The year before he dumped me on Christmas Day.

So what was your crappiest ever Christmas?

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DoesNotGiveAFig · 20/12/2011 13:17

The year my mother died. She died suddenly when I had just turned the tender age of 20, still living at home. My dad works away, and unavoidably had to go back to work just before xmas that year, so I spent my first xmas after my ma died all alone. It was fabulous.

WorraLiberty · 20/12/2011 13:18

When I was 17, my 19yr old brother got caught sneaking a girl into his bedroom.

My Mum hit the roof and made my Dad drive her home at 3am.

The whole family ate Christmas dinner in silence with my Mum shooting daggers at my brother

ViviPrudolf · 20/12/2011 13:18

God that's Fig . I was about to hop in all jovial with a MiL rant, but it seems terribly glib now....

WorraLiberty · 20/12/2011 13:19

Oh cross posted with Fig

So sorry to hear that

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sitandnatter · 20/12/2011 13:20

I lost my Dad at Christmas too DoesNot the funeral was just a couple of days before. Dampened down Christmas for years, learned to love it when I became a Mum but now my son hates it with avengence, he has ASD so the whole Christmas thing can be really tough on him.

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DoesNotGiveAFig · 20/12/2011 13:25

Aw, sorry to hear that sitandnatter

It was very sad at the time, but I'm older, uglier and wiser(?!) now! What funny awful stories have people?

JingleBelleDameSansMerci · 20/12/2011 13:32

My stuff is nothing compared with that. Lots of my Christmasses have been crap but this year is going to be sad for me. I've finally ended things, after eight years, with my DD's (age 4) father. We don't live together so she will see no difference. I am heartbroken but having to keep it all hidden. I know it's for the best but it huuuuuurts...

DoesNotGiveAFig · 20/12/2011 13:37

Aww jingle, I hope it's not too bad for you

TroublesomeEx · 20/12/2011 13:54

The first Christmas after my dad left and my mum was finding it difficult to cope.

I had just gone away to university. She was ringing me up most nights to either cry down the phone and wonder where it all went wrong or scream at me and tell me I was "the whore who drove him into the arms of another woman".

My friend drove me back down from university and rather than inviting him in for a cup of tea/saying hello/thanking him she shut the door in his face.

He rang later to check all was ok and my mum picked up the other phone and hurled abuse at both of us and over the course of Christmas her behaviour became increasingly unpleasant.

No one was allowed to smile, laugh, or be happy. My mum made the whole thing as miserable as she possibly could so that we would "know just how unhappy" she was. She had no concept at all that whilst her husband had left, so had our dad and she was all we had left. Her behaviour over the next 19 years has only continued to support that fact.

JingleBelleDameSansMerci · 20/12/2011 14:00

Bloody hell, Folkgirl...

Fig - I'm ok, just hurts. I'm old enough to know this will be pass. Just wish it would bloody hurry up!

TroublesomeEx · 20/12/2011 14:01

Have just read Jingle's post.

I am heartbroken but having to keep it all hidden

On behalf of your daughter. Thank you.

coraltoes · 20/12/2011 14:03

To lighten the spirit a touch I'll mention the time we stayed at my aunts and her dog attacked the defrosting turkey overnight, then pissed on the tree causing the lights to short. Or the year my cat swallowed that stuff that looks like tinsel but is just strands of silver...cant remember the name...and spent Xmas with just continuous strings of it out of its bum...shitty tinsel being dragged around our lovely carpet. We were kids and thought this was the FUNNIEST thing ever.

TroublesomeEx · 20/12/2011 14:03

I know Jingle.

I'm still scarred, can you tell? [sad smile emoticon]

TroublesomeEx · 20/12/2011 14:04

Thank you coral. Your cat was lucky! I'm sure I heard of a cat dying after doing that recently. That would have amused us too I think!

coraltoes · 20/12/2011 14:04

And I am in awe of how strong you are after your sad Christmases.

Jingle, I wish you and your dd a very special day together. She sounds like a lucky girl to have you!

coraltoes · 20/12/2011 14:07

Folk, yes it can be so dangerous as it can strangle their gut!! I think mum took her to the vet in the new year but not much you can do on Christmas day! obviously as kids we just laughed at the poo without realising how bad it could be. Innocence, hey!

DoesNotGiveAFig · 20/12/2011 14:10

Hahahahahaha @ cat tinselbum! last xmas our kitten had a string of thread hanging out of her bum and that was HILARIOUS.

Kayano · 20/12/2011 14:20

This isn't really sad but both amusing and it was annoying at the time

My dad had health problems a few years ago and there was an odd smell in the living room. My mum was saying that he had to change as he had obviously wet himself and stank of wee.

My dad was you do know it's just my heart that's bad, not my bladder... I have not wee'd. He refused (and rightly because he hadn't)

However my mum was convinced he was a liar out to ruin Christmas and was quite happy to sit in his own piss that she went off it. Properly freaked out shouting and screaming and there was a terrible atmosphere. Anyway, dad caved and went for a full wash and change (right in middle of day)

But still... The smell of wee remained.

So my mum turns to me and I get the same, I obviously don't know that I've pissed myself and do I need to borrow
Clean clothes. When asked why she can't be the one who did it she was as obviously she would know if she had! I pointed out it was exactly the same with me and dad and obv looked like no one had wee'd!

So she huffs and puffs all day and is clearly pissed that one of us has piss denial...
It was pretty awful

Then.... The
Smell gets worse but now does not smell remotely urine like. Mum on her hands and knees follows smell to Xmas tree

where we discovered one of the cheap lights
Is touching the radiator and is melting! It was awful and bloody stank!

We still call it Pissmas, and it had nothing to do with piss at all!

TroublesomeEx · 20/12/2011 15:38

@ Pissmass!

Mrsrobertduvall · 20/12/2011 16:03

My mum died November when I was 21, and it was the grimmest Xmas ever.
I'm sure that's why I'm not into Christmas much, as the next ten years were awful as my dad sank into huge depression.
But that was 30 years ago, and I have had better ones

NinkyNonker · 20/12/2011 16:10

Pissmass.

None here to report really, bar the year my Gran's dog knocked me in the pond then later nicked my last, saved, crispiest roast potato right off my plate. Oh the anger.

ViviPrudolf · 20/12/2011 16:21

PISSMAS! Utter genius.

Rhubarbgarden · 20/12/2011 16:36

The year my mum died, my dad, brother and I decided to get out of the country for Christmas and pretend it wasn't happening; so we booked a short break in Barcelona.. When we got to the airport, my brother realised he hadn't got his passport (and he's a travel agent ) so we left him behind to fetch his passport and get the next flight, for which he paid a fortune as it was Christmas eve. Arriving in Barcelona, my Dad and I went for a walk while we waited for my brother to arrive. I immediately got mugged. My handbag had all sorts of my mum's personal bits in that I'd taken to carrying around, so I was devastated. Also lost the Christmas money my grandparents had given me, my passport which was nine years old and full of stamps from years of big trips that I'd never make again, and my phone so I couldn't even ring my new boyfriend (now dh!) for comfort and he spent Christmas wondering why I was ignoring his texts/calls. Christmas Day was miserable, then we spent Boxing Day at the police station filling in forms and on the phone to the consulate trying to arrange for an emergency passport to get home. We flew home the following day.

SantasENormaSnob · 20/12/2011 16:37

at pissmas

yellowraincoat · 20/12/2011 16:43

Every Christmas when I take time off work, pay for the train to my parents' house, where I am greeted with a cup of tea and then ignored for the next 3 days in favour of the TV.

The TV is even on during the Christmas meal. My brother tends to crane his neck around me so he can watch whatever crap is on. My mum runs around doing everything while I help, my dad watches telly, my brother and his girlfriend sit on the sofa reading. They don't offer to wash up. His girlfriend is so shy that she won't talk to anyone but then has a 2 hour long phone conversation in the living room with her mother and sister. We don't play games, we don't chat.

This despite the fact that we only see each other twice a year, if that. I've told them it upsets me, nothing changes.

This year I'm going to a friend's house.

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