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To start a Crappy Christmas Thread?

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sitandnatter · 20/12/2011 13:14

Just reading some of the other Christmas threads and how boyfriends aren't being that thoughtful at Christmas time. It reminds me of one Christmas Day when my boyfriend invited me to his parents, then popped out for a drink at the local prior to his dinner leaving me to help his Mum, that's fine she was lovely.

Only he didn't bother to turn up for Christmas Dinner until it was all over, then was totally bladdered, and hiccuped while apologising incoherently.

The year before he dumped me on Christmas Day.

So what was your crappiest ever Christmas?

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stubborncow · 20/12/2011 21:03

We had a Christmas where my mum's SIL decided she wanted to be in their holiday home in the West of Ireland for Christmas and so organised for my family, my granny and the other family of cousins on that side to stay down there in holiday homes too. Huge storm cut off the electricity on the 23rd and we had no electricity to cook Christmas dinner, heat the house, heat the water, etc etc. (it was actually ok in the end but a bit of a disaster too!)

Last Christmas was very mixed as my granny had just been diagnosed with terminal cancer, my SIL was in hospital in a different country with placenta praevia so couldn't come, my husband was packing up to go and work in Canada (me and the kids joined him in April so we were facing a few months without him) and the snow nearly prevented my brother from getting home as well as mucking up our moving plans. Despite all this, I had a lovely time with my niece and family who were there but lots of rollercoaster emotions too.

This year will be the first ever in which I will nto wake up in the same house as my parents! (I am 31) We're in Canada and I am lucky that my sister is coming over so I don't think this will qualify as crappy Christmas.

Certainly none of mine compare to what some have gone through.

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sitandnatter · 21/12/2011 05:38

Started this one off as a light hearted winge some amazing and touching stories have been shared. Thanks so much to all for reallly making me realise how lucky I am this year even though I'm not looking forward to Christmas Day

We've had a couple of Christmas in hospital too when the surgeon has wheeled up the turkey on a hospital trolley and carved it on the ward. Happy days but sad ones too.

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tigerlillyd02 · 21/12/2011 05:51

My worst year was last year. Well Christmas day itself was actually extremely nice in all honesty. But my 28 yr old brother was quite ill and was rushed into hospital the following day. He died 2 weeks later (on my birthday) of severe pneumonia.

tigerlillyd02 · 21/12/2011 05:54

Oh and this year, although not directly affecting me, doesn't feel that good either as most of the family aren't on speaking terms over a custody battle of my 2 nieces. I'm hoping the bad luck sods off next year!

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sitandnatter · 21/12/2011 08:20

That's very sad Tiger on the loss of your brother and for your nieces too.

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aStarOverMangerways · 21/12/2011 08:46

EITHER

first christmas after mum died. we did everything the same, not realising that of course it wouldn't be the same. sat round the table eating dinner in near-silence. my dad got pissed and surly before passing out on the sofa.

the next few after that were the same, but with the upside that my brother and i would walk home after dad had passed out and sit in bro's room getting stoned and moaning about how shit everything was.

christmas 2006. my bro was terminally ill with cancer, in a wheelchair. his wife's family (who are lovely) organised for us all to stay in a big holiday cottage complex so that we could have that last christmas together. it was the ultimate worm-in-the-apple experience: incredibly festive, twinkly, full of bonhomie and togetherness, but with everyone including my brother knowing there was only one reason why we were all there. watching my brother paint on a smile over his angry face and doing the same myself, until i started to freak out and dh took me for a walk to the freezing seafront so i could cry snottily and noisily.

BootyMum · 21/12/2011 09:09

Oh Star, I'm so sorry.

That must have been an incredibly difficult time for you

aStarOverMangerways · 21/12/2011 09:28

Thanks :) It was a total suckfest. I do enjoy Christmas now though! Have two very small kids so it has regained some of its knackering magic

QueenOfTheMadhouse · 21/12/2011 09:42

This year will be sad as my Dad died on the 7th december. He had a brain tumour and although we knew he would die we weren't expecting it so soon, his nurses said he wasn't going anywhere before christmas :( cancer sometimes behaves in unpredictablie ways I guess.

But the kids are very very excited :) so my sisters and I will make it a great day regardless and will play my dads favourite xmas songs and drink a Jack Daniels and coke for him :D

Punkatheart · 21/12/2011 15:43

That will be a lovely tribute, Queen.

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sitandnatter · 21/12/2011 18:22

Star I feel a completely selfish cow now for mentioning having to look at my aunties not so clean gussett as she sits with her legs open at Christmas and listen to tea slurpers and those who masticate food for all to see.

It all seemed so important, but now it just seems so trivial.

So sorry, my sympathy to you and Queen and my thanks for letting me give myself a metophorical kick up the butt.

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Punkatheart · 21/12/2011 19:12

It may be trivial but it is funny, sit. Thank you for giving me the first smile I have had for quite some time....

aStarOverMangerways · 21/12/2011 19:39

sitandnatter No problem, I always feel a bit shitty posting that stuff on light-hearted threads (but it is my most honest answer). It has certainly made me appreciate the good things in life all the more. I treasure my children, my DH, my health and my family and friends, which actually makes Christmas a pretty special time

Plus, Christmas isn't Christmas without a good family moan

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sitandnatter · 22/12/2011 07:46

Star if that is the criteria Ill have a proper Christmas, I've thought of everything to get out of my dysfunctional family Christmas, I mean call me peculiar but I only enjoy seeing the Christmas dinner on your plate, not while you are actually chewing it!!!!!.

Noooooooooooooooooooo!!!!!!!!!!!!! Still it's only a few hours...............

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spottydogpencilcase · 22/12/2011 08:05

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TotallyKerplunked · 22/12/2011 09:00

I've always been a bit "bah, humbug" about x-mas as my b-day is the day before (and I got mighty fed up with the "do you want your present today or tomorrow", grrr) but i'm expecting this one to top the shitty charts.

DBro is back on drugs and tried to stab me (holding 4mths DS) with a screwdriver 2 weeks ago. DM still expects us to have a jolly happy x-mas together and forgive/make allowances for him while my DH is chomping at the bit to beat him to death. PIL are a godsend compared to my f-up family.

manicinsomniac · 22/12/2011 13:52

3 years ago my dad died the week before Christmas. He made my aunt promise that she would ensure we went to the big family Christmas if he didn't make it that long himself.

It was hell. 25ish people in one house and nowhere to hide.

I still hate CHristmas tbh.

manicinsomniac · 22/12/2011 13:52

3 years ago my dad died the week before Christmas. He made my aunt promise that she would ensure we went to the big family Christmas if he didn't make it that long himself.

It was hell. 25ish people in one house and nowhere to hide.

I still hate CHristmas tbh.

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