My DH has been working overseas on and off (mostly on) for the last three months. His project finishes today and he is arriving back tonight and is off work until 3rd Jan (UK based then).
We have a DD, 22 months old and I work three days a week (or more). As he has been away, obviously I have looked after DD, including a particularly frightening week where she was in hospital for a few days, followed by daily doctors appointments for a couple of weeks. Luckily she is ok now. I have bought all the Christmas presents for his and my large family, wrapped and posted them, made all the Christmas arrangements and shopping and planning (we have both sets of in-laws to stay for consecutive visits over Christmas/new year and they have to be fed and entertained). I seem to have a permanent and mutating cold/flu/laryngitis. I have missed out on any Christmas socialising as babysitters are thin on the ground/expensive and I am knackered.
DH has a great social life out there (not that I begrudge that as have done lots of travelling myself for work before DD and it can be pretty boring) and doesn?t work particularly long hours and has described this project as a bit of a jolly.
He has been dropping hints that he expects not to do much when he gets back and last night it came to a bit of a head. We had booked lunch out together tomorrow (DD?s last day in nursery and I am not working so only chance to do something just us) and he said that he thinks he will be too tired and wants me to cancel it. He then went on to say that he hopes that I have arranged lots of things for me and DD and guests out the house over Christmas as he plans to do nothing but sleep and play computer games for two weeks. When I suggested that he might have to help out more and DD will want to spend time with him, he said that was my department because he had been away. Normally he is a very equal partner and helps with everything so am a bit shocked and very, very annoyed. Feel like his flipping housekeeper.
AIBU to think he is being utterly unfair or should I appreciate what he is doing for us (his view)?