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to expect a Xmas present that was promised - yes he will definitely get one - actually be bought

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MrsS01 · 18/12/2011 20:31

Sorry, I know I'm not being unreasonable so not a question, just a rant. XH promised numerous times to get DS present that he really wants, I even said more than once to let me know if he wasn't going to get it as I would get it. This week XH has said he hasn't been able to get it - its nothing rare or out of the ordinary, but he's got one reserved, so he says, hmmm, due to track record I'm not convinced and am feeling very stressed now. I've checked online and they're in stock. More so, as one of my partners boys IS getting the said present as we've already bought it it doesn't bode well for Xmas day. Why my XH doesn't just go to the shop and buy it I don't understand, grrrr

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Kormachameleon · 18/12/2011 20:32

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ThatsNotSantasBabyBelly · 18/12/2011 20:33

Could you get one in case and then return it if not needed?

Not great i accept but thinking about your stress levels

TheAvocadoOfWisdom · 18/12/2011 20:34

Korma is BU. What special authority has Korma got that enables a pronouncement on whether or not a topic is "worthy og a whole AIBU thread".

OP: get it yourself with receipt?

AgentZigzag · 18/12/2011 20:34

Who made you thread monitor korma?

OP can post whatever she wants, if you don't like it don't post.

PurplePidjInAPearTree · 18/12/2011 20:35

How old is DS and is the present from Daddy or Santa?

If young and from Santa, I would have a spare tucked in a cupboard and know where the receipt is so it can be (hopefully) returned as a duplicate.

If 7+ and from Daddy, I would be very tempted to have a sentence ready stating exactly what happened to the present. Kids aren't daft, they know which parent they can rely on!

Kormachameleon · 18/12/2011 20:50

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dreamingbohemian · 18/12/2011 20:54

Please just go to the shop and get it yourself. Your boy will be so upset if he doesn't get it and your partner's son does. Why not do everything to make sure that doesn't happen?

cheesesarnie · 18/12/2011 20:58

dont get what kormas done wrong?

op-get the present and give the reciept to your x

clare458 · 18/12/2011 20:58

Tell your xh that if the present hasn't arrived by Tuesday, you will go out and buy it instead. Mention that they are in store to buy and because he's let his son down in the past you just have no confidence in him.

AgentZigzag · 18/12/2011 21:00

It's not for you to say what other posters talk about korma.

I'm sure you'd not be too chuffed if you started a thread and someone told you it was boring and mundane.

Most peoples lives are boring and mundane most of the time, we can't all have lives as exciting and dramatic as yours must be.

FabbyChic · 18/12/2011 21:00

I'd buy it and ask for the money.

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MrsS01 · 18/12/2011 21:10

Thanks all for your advice. Its £99 and as I've now already bought his present I don't have that spare cash. Though I'm so tempted to go into the overdraft to do it - can't stand the thought of his Xmas being spoilt. However, if I bought it and asked him for the money he wouldn't give it to me as he always says he has no money (never paid maintenance for years, even though I know he has money) -I've done that in the past.

I've told him that they're in store - told him 2 mths ago and this week too.

DS is 9 and still believes in Santa although he knows we buy the presents.

I could cry for him :(

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DoMeDon · 18/12/2011 21:14

YABU - I expect he has form for being useless?? You are BU to expect him to change the habits of a life time just by wishing it. Be realistic - you are only upsetting yourself by pinning hopes on a let down. Next time YOU buy what DC's want and let him think for himself. You cannot give DC the father they deserve, you can only give them who they have.

FabbyChic · 18/12/2011 21:16

Who the fuck has the right to come on a thread and decide whether or not it is worthy, do what I do if a thread should be in chat and is bollocks don't post on it.

This does happen to be a AIBU thread so shut the fuck up or piss off.

Kormachameleon · 18/12/2011 21:20

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PiratecatClaus · 18/12/2011 21:31

what on earth is the matter with you korma.

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MrsS01 · 18/12/2011 21:33

DoMeDon - yes I know I should have gone with my instincts. But I asked him many times if he was definately getting it and if not I would change what I was and get it, so he had opportunity to back out.

But yes,as sad as it is you're right.

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PiratecatClaus · 18/12/2011 21:35

you were harsh on the op, that's what i was wondering.

PurplePidjInAPearTree · 18/12/2011 21:37

9 is old enough to have a fairly accurate idea of what his Dad is like Sad

Of course Santa will bring him presents for being good - but Santa has been busy because lots of children have been good this year so he asked Daddy to help out and get this one thing for DS. Then when DS asks where the One Thing is, you can honestly tell him to ask his father...

DoesntChristmasDragOn · 18/12/2011 21:37

LOL - Korma, you did tell someone to fuck off before being sworn at yourself :)

AgentZigzag · 18/12/2011 21:40

You're being mundane and tedious korma, way past your bedtime I think.

And you're hardly one to be outraged at being told to fuck off when you've just told me to.

Kormachameleon · 18/12/2011 21:40

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LineRunnerCrouchingReindeer · 18/12/2011 21:41

Have I just stepped into a parallel universe?