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AIBU?

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to expect a Xmas present that was promised - yes he will definitely get one - actually be bought

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MrsS01 · 18/12/2011 20:31

Sorry, I know I'm not being unreasonable so not a question, just a rant. XH promised numerous times to get DS present that he really wants, I even said more than once to let me know if he wasn't going to get it as I would get it. This week XH has said he hasn't been able to get it - its nothing rare or out of the ordinary, but he's got one reserved, so he says, hmmm, due to track record I'm not convinced and am feeling very stressed now. I've checked online and they're in stock. More so, as one of my partners boys IS getting the said present as we've already bought it it doesn't bode well for Xmas day. Why my XH doesn't just go to the shop and buy it I don't understand, grrrr

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MudAndGlitter · 18/12/2011 21:42

OP YANBU and personally I'd go into the overdraft if I knew I could take it back should XP pull his finger out

ImperialBlether · 18/12/2011 21:42

I'd need to actually see it before I believed him, OP.

I know it's tough on you, but if I were you I'd buy it and send it back if it's doubled up.

The problem is this: at what point will he give it to your son? If it's Christmas Eve and he gives him a selection box instead, then OK you could then give it to him on Christmas Day. If he would have given it on Christmas afternoon, when your son has already had his presents from you, then you would have to say it's from his dad, which would be madness.

dreamingbohemian · 18/12/2011 21:44

Are there penalties for going into overdraft?

Given that you might be able to return it, if your ex comes through, I might be tempted to do it... could you return the present you already bought him?

AgentZigzag · 18/12/2011 21:44

If you have LR, don't be starting a thread about it, some people have a cob on and wouldn't appreciate your humdrum alternative universe.

EricNordmanfirandMistletoe · 18/12/2011 21:46

Buy one if you can, keep the receipt and if xp comes through then return it.

LineRunnerCrouchingReindeer · 18/12/2011 21:47

Clearly, Agent, I will keep my Great Bulk to myself this evening. And no smiling.

Back to Brian Cox on BBC2 ...

AgentZigzag · 18/12/2011 21:52

In my alternative universe I keep Prof Cox in a shed at the bottom of the garden.

Strictly for intellectual reasons, anything else would be unlawful.

LineRunnerCrouchingReindeer · 18/12/2011 21:52

Fortunately the neutrinos brought him to my shed before you even typed that.

AgentZigzag · 18/12/2011 21:59

Betrayed

I'll never forgive you, or him, for that.

ivykaty44 · 18/12/2011 22:00

why not just shag Brain in the shed?

LoveInASnowyClimate · 18/12/2011 22:03

YANBU, OP (although another poster is being frankly insane). Could you buy on a credit card so you can return it before incurring interest if he buys it, to avoid going into your overdraft?

ivykaty44 · 18/12/2011 22:09

there is nothing insane about my suggestion

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MrsS01 · 18/12/2011 22:09

Love - i don't have a credit card, however, I've decided to give him till Wed, then I'll get it myself and go into my overdraft. I'll say its from me though - so DS will think he's done very, very well!

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LoveInASnowyClimate · 18/12/2011 22:12

Your suggestion was a very good one, ivy .

Good plan, OP - try not to stress too much about between now and Weds, just put it out of your mind and enjoy the run up to Christmas.

AgentZigzag · 18/12/2011 22:14

'why not just shag Brain in the shed?'

Wish I'd thought of that before I nearly had him in my shed.

Totally sensible suggestion now I think about it.

If you did have him round, would you ever bring the subject of the universe up? Or would it be like 'STFU going on about the cocking fucking universe will yer! '?

dreamingbohemian · 18/12/2011 22:22

There is entirely too much fucking going on in this thread

Focus people, focus!

ivykaty44 · 18/12/2011 22:25

there is nothing wrong dreaming of a good shag no need to focus.

as for ops crap ex, I do feel for your ds

LineRunnerCrouchingReindeer · 19/12/2011 15:14

Sorry, OP, I am trying to focus.

I think I would do the buy-and-return-if-necessary thing, but make it the last time ever, and make that clear. Otherwise you are just letting your Ex be crap.

Which would rather think about to ease the stress, by the way - the baby Jesus in a stable or Brian Cox in a shed?

SydneyLa · 19/12/2011 15:24

Verbal diarrhea

AlwaysTimeForWine · 19/12/2011 15:31

YANBU.

But I personally wouldn't buy the present "just in case". £99 is way too much to spend on a 9 year old for 1 present that he might or might not get from his Dad. If he doesn't get it then it is up to his Dad to explain why to his son. It's not your job to continue to fix his mess - you're not married anymore!

Also - I'm sure that your 9 year old DS will have plenty of other presents to keep him occupied - and after all; it's family that counts - not how many presents you have under the tree. We never got everything we wanted. My parents couldn't afford it and they would NEVER NEVER EVER go overdrawn to buy a Christmas present - that is madness!!

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