to be really p*ssed off she can't spell his name after 10 years!

[Newmummytobe79]

A friend (I say friend - she's a pretty crap one) consistently spells my DH's name wrong on cards and texts.

Our wedding invite clearly had his name on, I text the correct spelling ALL the time and I sign cards from us with his name on yet she still spells it wrong.

It's not hard - say his name was Phil - she spells it Fhil.

I know it's only a little thing - but I really think she does it on purpose to wind me up.

Our DC has a very hard name to spell (with many variations) yet she gets this spot on every time!

I always check my friends partners/childrens name spellings as it really isn't that hard to get right.

In a bad mood and just needed a rant really

Just let it slide, not worth getting angry about. But I would text her to correct her....

I get this with my name I have many people spell it wrong even though they should know better! eg I finish my texts with my name, even to friends, is just a force of habit. I'll get a reply from some people with my name in it, spelt wrong! Argh! Is just 1 letter wrong, but pretty obvious to anyone who knows the alphabet!

Fhil???? Haha! what an idiot.. thats such an easy name to spell. Although it never surprises me that people can be so dense sometimes. A woman at my work asked me once in all seriousness if dogs could see??

I'd maybe make a joke out of it if it bothers you- she might actually remember if you mention it to her.

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That's nuts. I thought it was going to be a "siobhan" type name, but Fhil???

I have never ever seen it spelt that was (and I work in NHS across all generations/nationalities) Crazy.

DH laughs at me as I go mad every time we recieve a card from her!

I will let it slide and maybe start spelling her name wrong

Loving the festive smileys by the way! (Good mood now restored)

Yanbu certain members of my family spell my Dd name wrong it drives me crazy.. Her name is only 4 letters and not difficult... Spell her name wrong see how she likes it

And another thing... Surely most phones would autocorrect/pre-empt the correct name?

Unless she's doing old style texting??

I would forget it, she's being a fool and only making herself look stupid.

(Gentle) YABU. My best mate of over 20 years rarely spelled my name right. It wasn't deliberate, she used to spell it phonetically in her head and that's how it came out. If she's a good friend otherwise, I'd let it slide.

My dad has been known to spell my name wrong! I'd let it slide

I know on these threads people usually say it doesn't matter. Mostly I agree.

I have a name that most people can't spell, even though they have are related to me and after many, many cards from me with my name written very clearly and even though it's only four letters long.

They go for a more common, five letter spelling. Mostly it doesn't bother me.

But it does annoy me if they get DS's name wrong.

And if someone were writing 'Fhil' on anything I would be provoked beyond measure because for some reason I can't work out that is a really, really annoying way to spell it. I was annoyed when you wrote it and I annoyed myself when I repeated it .

YANBU.

Ha! This has made me

My Dad came round last night with our Christmas card and spelt my DH's name wrong - after 12 years! It's a VERY normal name.

Anyway, It wasn't til I opened the card that I noticed he'd spelt MY name wrong! His Daughter, whose name hasn't changed for 33 years!

My DSs grandparents (Ex's dad and wife) who I love very much and see often ALWAYS spell my name wrong. They put an IE on the end when it's spelled with a Y. I've tried correcting them, I send them cards etc regularly which of course have the proper spelling, they email and facebook me regularly which both have the correct spelling on the screen in front of them...no change. To the point where they even bought me something personalised on holiday recently, spelled wrong, and will probably ask soon why it isn't up on the wall! But I've given up, it's just them and they aren't going to change, so there's no point getting upset about it. In the scheme of things it really isn't a big deal! Just see it as a personality quirk and laugh about it. Winding yourself up won't change anything, or make you feel any better!

His name isn't actually Phil!

OP, when you chose to give your son a difficult-to-spell name, you should have expected a lot of people to misspell it. Your friend, though, is different - she really should be able to spell it by now.

Have you spoken to her about it?

WTAF you and I have the opposite problem.... my name ends in an IE but people always end it with a Y

My son's nanna has spelled his name wrong in every single card she has ever written to him. He will be 18 in the summer. Meh.

Needles , if we have the same name (apart from the IE/Y!) we could swap our misspelled items! I feel bad because the thing they bought me is really nice - its my name (except it isn't!) in Chinese writing. They got one of DSs name too which I've put up. But I don't want to sit looking at mine spelled wrong, so it's stuck in a drawer. I have a misspelled keyring from them too

Not as bad as my nan though, she cannot remember my nieces name at all and uses several different names for her at different times! She even told all her friends the wrong name when DN was born so my brother got congratulations cards with the wrong name on! And she always spells DNs mum's name wrong too. It's probably just her age but I do feel sorry for DB.

WTAF if you send it to me by next week it will be a lovely Christmas gift for me

My poor DH gets this, too. His name is foreign and often people write the feminine version. Say his name was Jules - he gets Julie, Jools, Jewels, Duels the lot.

It's shit, it's an unusual name, sure, but you spell it exactly how it's said.

One of my in laws does this to me all the time
so instead of ratspeaker I'll get rattspeaker
or ratsspeaker
or ratspeeker

I've only been with DH 32years

It's their problem not mine so I ignore- while feeling smugly superior
Though in my head I am laying about me with a claymore

I'll get right onto that, Needles ;)

Some people deserve to have their names spelled wrong though, I used to know a guy called Colin who insisted on the spelling KOLLYN! What an arse. I think he thought it made him more interesting. It did not.

Start signing cards to her with the spelling she uses.

That'll confuse her

And if she's doing it on purpose for some stupid reason, it'll really piss her off

A lot of our friends misspell DH's name. It isn't particularly unusual, but in the UK people seem to think it has varient spellings, when in fact there is a correct spelling and the others are just wrong (it doesn't stop people from giving babies the wrong spelling). It seems to be about about a 50:50 split of wrong and right on cards to us. Obviously I spell it correctly on all of the communications I send so if friends wanted to they could look at texts, emails, cards etc to check the spelling. So, based on your assumption that your friend does this to wind you up, a lot of my friends must be intentionally winding me up. I know that I can be a bit irritating, but I like to think that 50% of my friends aren't deliberately irritating me. I think some people are careful about spelling and others aren't.

Fhil? she is doing it in purpose, if she is not she needs your compassion rather than our anger, there's something wrong with her.

and I need a new keyboard (our=your)