to be really p*ssed off she can't spell his name after 10 years!

[Newmummytobe79]

A friend (I say friend - she's a pretty crap one) consistently spells my DH's name wrong on cards and texts.

Our wedding invite clearly had his name on, I text the correct spelling ALL the time and I sign cards from us with his name on yet she still spells it wrong.

It's not hard - say his name was Phil - she spells it Fhil.

I know it's only a little thing - but I really think she does it on purpose to wind me up.

Our DC has a very hard name to spell (with many variations) yet she gets this spot on every time!

I always check my friends partners/childrens name spellings as it really isn't that hard to get right.

In a bad mood and just needed a rant really

I would let it go. Not a big deal.

We live in a world where "Catherine" acceptably becomes "Kate"

I'd say anything is possible.

We have this problem with all the names in our small family unit.

I think that unless you specifically point out the inaccuracy, many people just don't notice that you are continually signing off your communications with a different spelling from the one they are used to using. Just like many people consistently spell certain words wrong despite seeing that word correctly in print over and over again.

I think you need to let it go. We have friends who have a daughter called, let's say, Madeline. For several years I addressed the Christmas card to Madelein and eventually we had a little note slipped in to say, please could we note the correct spelling. I was actually quite hurt because I had always remembered the children's names (must have noted the eldest girl's incorrectly in the family address book and the error just got reinforced over the years) and remembered to include some vouchers and yet had never received a thank you note.

I will add that my name has the following letters and is very unusual:

* . My maiden name was ***. To have made a fuss when people got/get it wrong is just silly. That's why our dc have traditional names without spelling variants.

Oops the asterisks were misinterpreted to turn things bold but I think you get the idea about the complexity

really i would let it go. my auntie always spells my name wrong and i'm nearly 30. there are a few ways to spell my name but never gets the right way

My paternal grandmother has never spelt my name right in the 25 years I've been alive. It's not even a common variation mistake - she jumbles up the middle letters. Always the same though.

I've never understood it.

I do think some people do it out of sheer spite
ie as I said about my mispelt name, yet same in law gets my DD's "Gaelic name" right

but as I said earlier I feel superior and smug in that I can make the effort to note the spelling of someones name and they cant

Is there a possibility she has dyslexia or just generally very poor spelling due to a rubbish education?

My aunt has always spelled my name with an extra letter (I'm 25) and now spells at least two of her grandchildren's names wrong consistently. She also spells Peter as Peta - which, surely, is the sort of name nobody born in England would misspell...but seriously, that isn't done out of spite, she just really, really can't spell. As all of her siblings are educated to post-graduate level I'm guessing she probably has dyslexia, though I've never asked.

I have been with my DH since '94.

Most of my friends and family still spell his name wrong.

Spelling it the the way they do it, it becomes a female name

I can't see how they don't notice how odd it looks!

His name isn't Phil and she's spelling it Fhil - that would be ludicrous, it's an example.

I'm guessing it's something like Stephen/Steven

My friend spells my dd's name wrong and has corrected me in public when I spell it!!! As if a mother wouldn't know!!!

I think it's hilarious. I have the most common spelling for y dd's name but freind is convinced the spelling is an uncommon variation!

OP it seriously doesn't matter, she isn't doing it on purpose!