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AIBU?

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to think primary aged children should not be in asda at 11pm

113 replies

workshy · 16/12/2011 23:37

just got back from asda (working all weekend so thought it would be a good time to pick up some stuff)

and there were at least 3 families in there with children

at that time of night they have trollies and pallets everywhere, and drunk people buying extra wine -why are they taking their children??

2 adults with them so no excuse of them being single parents either
(I'm a single parent ans wouldn't do it anyway!)

OP posts:

natation · 17/12/2011 08:30

Our children aged 6 and 10 were out at a friend's house at an "end of year" party and left a little bit before 11pm last night. Does that mean our children are sleep deprived, that I am setting them a bad example allowing them to stay up so late? Usually the children are in bed at 8pm if there is no swim training or 9pm if it's a swimming night. They tend to get up at 7-7.30am on week days, their bodies need around 10-11 hours sleep...... and not surprisingly since they went to sleep at 11pm last night, they slept longer and woke up 10 hours later at 9am this morning. The change in sleeping hours doesn't happen often, it was a special occasion last night, tonight they will be back to 8-9pm.

It might have been exceptional hours for the families the OP saw in Asda too. I could think of far worse "sins" parents have inflicted upon their children than an 11pm visit to Asda.

youarekidding · 17/12/2011 08:33

See in the environment your describing I wouldn't want to go but would be blaming the store and the drunkards not families with children.

We have had an in town Tesco's just built which is very convenient! I stopped on the way back last night from swimming (9pm) with DS (7) for groceries and another mum was stopping at Sainsbo's on her way home. Both of us out today and needing packed lunch stuff.

Yes DS was tired, he may have wanted to be stroppy but I don't allow it but on Friday night when there's no school I don't worry too much about tiredness the next day. It's actually beneficial as he will veg in front of the TV when we've been out allowing me to MN get on with housework.

Crabapple99 · 17/12/2011 08:35

Haven't read the wholethread, but wood imagine that it is a big family chrissstams shop-,and if it was anyything like our Asda, too crowded to even get throughthe door at 6pm!

It's christams, normal ruiteens fall by the waysiide

( I've take my DC to asda at 1 in the morning on the way to a holiday onece, they thought it was an amazing adventure)
Where are your DC then, ifyou are a single parant, shopping at 11pm? Not completely withut child care at thart time of night then, ( I presume they were nt home alon!)

Crabapple99 · 17/12/2011 08:38

Some months ago we were on our way home from the theatre about midnight and DS (12) happened to be walking a few meters ahead of the rest of us, a woman on the pavement actually stopped him and asked him why he was out on his own at theat time of night. She was very embarreassed when she realised he was with us, but I was very grateful to her for taking an interest. I didn't think she was being nosy at all.

Rudolfsgottarednose · 17/12/2011 08:49

As a one off, when the schools have broken up for the holidays, it's fine.

For all you know they might have a panto booked for Saturday and wanted to have a relaxed day, before they go.

Some people have no idea what constituts a chaotic or 'bad' parent, it honestly isn't this.

My collegue (SW) was going to do her shop last night after buying a real Christmas tree, as a family.

Rudolfsgottarednose · 17/12/2011 08:51

Just to add, best gett SS waiting outside Churches to nab all those chyaotic parents abusing their children by taking them to Midnight mass

NoobyNoob · 17/12/2011 09:00

What the frig it has got to do with you?

Seriously, get down from your smug, parental high horse and open your eyes to the fact that maybe, just maybe, there is a genuine reason?

Rudolfsgottarednose · 17/12/2011 09:08

Sorry for my typos, my kitten is climbing over my keyboard.

startail · 17/12/2011 09:12

People can write as many articles and do as much research as they like, but it won't actually change what time my night owl DD1 goes to sleep.

FreudianSlipper · 17/12/2011 09:14

i have taken ds out shopping late at night

maybe not that late but after 9 :o

and how awful of me he has often been up that late when we have been to dinner parties weddings and so on and around wait for it people who have had a bit more to drink than they should

inmysparetime · 17/12/2011 09:28

I had my judgey pants hitched right up high last Thursday. I was at my work do at the Trafford Centre, and saw a shocking number of primary school aged children still in uniform walking round at gone 10pm. On a school night! What most shocked me was the fact they were in uniform, implying they had come straight from school, and were still there 7 hours later. Flame me if you wish, but surely that's worth a bit of judgement? It was at least 10 separate families, not an isolated case.

KittyFane · 17/12/2011 09:49

YANBU OP.

WorraLiberty · 17/12/2011 09:52

inmysparetime It's possible they'd come straight from their Christmas concert I suppose.

My DS's concert didn't finish until 9.15pm and we were all starving afterwards so we went for something to eat.

inmysparetime · 17/12/2011 09:54

Various school uniforms so not likely. They weren't all together, it seemed that wherever I looked there were kids in uniform being dragged round

Rdoo · 17/12/2011 10:30

It must be wonderful to have this as your only concern, untwist people!

Laquitar · 17/12/2011 10:45

Lol at all these sad faces for the sight of children at supermarket on a friday night!

zest01 i agree with every word of your post. I would even add that the children learn to be flexible and that it is not the end of the world to change your routine.

cory yy midnight swim is fab! ('chaotic' Spanish mum )

ImperialBlether · 17/12/2011 10:50

Why can't people (on here) accept that there's a big difference between New Year's Eve or a special concert or a trip to see the Christmas lights and just dragging your kids around the supermarket late at night on a regular basis?

This makes me judgemental too, OP, if it's happening on a school night.

I think it is the business of society if people are doing this regularly. The kids won't be able to concentrate at school, they won't achieve, they will struggle to find work and they will become dependent on the state. That's not an exaggeration.

mumeeee · 17/12/2011 10:53

YABU. All schools round here have broken up today well some broke up earlier in the week. They may have been to a party or some other fun event and just stopping off on the way home. When my children were younger we would sometimes be out late with them. But if we put them to bed late they would wake late the next morning.

mumeeee · 17/12/2011 10:56

Inmysparetime. The children you saw in uniform had probably just finished doing a concert. DD1 did a concert late in town a couple of times and a lot of parents took their children for food afterwards.

Laquitar · 17/12/2011 10:57

It was friday night Imperial.

'they will struggle to find work'. No, they might find a night time job, someone has to do those jobs

Pishtushette · 17/12/2011 10:59

Some friends are cooking dinner for us tonight. We'll be taking DD (2) with us. She will fall asleep when she's tired and she'll be well wrapped up ion her buggy. I'm sure people will judge us when we're on our way home, but it is very rare for us to do this.

Judge away.

RitaMorgan · 17/12/2011 11:00

Don't see the problem on a Friday or Saturday night. I often keep my 16 month old up late on the weekend. Even outside in a pushchair as we don't have a car.

AbbyAbsinthe · 17/12/2011 11:09

Oh my good lord. What the hell has it got to do with you?? It was SHOPPING IN ASDA, not an S & M party, ffs. It was Friday night - the only people that would have to deal with the aftermath of a late night is them! Wind your neck in.

inmysparetime · 17/12/2011 11:09

mummeee they weren't in the food court, and I saw kids all evening, from 7pm when I got there, to 10.45 when the "shops closing" siren went off.
I am not usually that judgey, but most school concerts wouldn't be that late on a Thursday night surely? Also, there would be a prevalence of one school's uniform, not the random selection I saw.
I'm not saying all the families are judgeworthy, but just casting general judgement on the sheer numbers of school uniformed children that late on a school night.

gorionine · 17/12/2011 11:12

Honestly I would rather see children at 11 in asda with their parents than on the strreets on their own or at home on their own while the parents go shopping.

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