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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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To defriend "friend" over Christmas card

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onthebus · 16/12/2011 18:05

So, I have a friend. She's been a friend for years and years and has been there for me through thick and thin. However, today I received a Christmas card from her and it upset me so much that I think I will have to "defriend" her. AIBU?

Here's what she did:

Wrote the card in blue ink, she knows I prefer black

Addressed the envelope as 12a Our Street, it should be 12A - I cannot believe she does not know where we live after all this time

Included mine, DH and DC's names in the card, but wrote DS's name last - why did she put him last? I think she must have issues with him.

chose a card with a picture of a robin on when she should realise that robins really upset me after I saw one on the same day my cat died (14 years ago)

used a non-standard sized card. I know she must have done this deliberately to mess with my Christmas decoration scheme.

I only got the card today and I know she is normally mega organised. Basically she must have sent the card as an afterthought.

I have done absolutely nothing to offend her, I don't know why she would do any of the above ...

OP posts:

Lotkinsgonecurly · 16/12/2011 20:30

I think the most positive thing to do given the situation is to hand deliver her CHristmas Card and whilst she is making a drink for you carefully rearrange the tree. Hold one of her baubles hostage or rearrange her cd collection into sub sections within the alphabetised system.

Get your own back.

ByTheWay1 · 16/12/2011 20:32

The correct response to the card being addressed that way would, of course, have been to write "return to sender, not known at THIS address" on it...:o

TeaCider · 16/12/2011 20:37

That robin is just Passive Aggressiveness in its purest form. You are well rid. I'd get on Facebook and air your dirty laundry let everybody know what a toxic cow she is.
With friends like that OP...

Pandemoniaa · 16/12/2011 20:44

It's the robin that would have finished it for me too. Evil. Pure evil.

Angelswings · 16/12/2011 20:44

Won't anyone think of the children?

nethunsreject · 16/12/2011 20:48

Thanks for the chuckles, OP!

Pishtushette · 16/12/2011 20:48

What a thoughtless wench (her I mean).

YANBU

Mya2403 · 16/12/2011 21:36

Slap that ho with a wet fish, what a disgrace.

KatieScarlett2833 · 16/12/2011 21:39

In fact, she needs to KNOW how wrong she is.

I suggest pushing the FB like button.

YonderRevoltingPeasantWhoIsHe · 16/12/2011 21:43

Now now.... this all hinges on what title she used.

Did she call you Mr and Mrs DHname?

Did she write Mr and Ms Hisname and Yourname?

Did she call you DrYourname (even if you're not)?

cheesesarnie · 16/12/2011 21:49

she needs to know just how serious this is.she could be doing similar to other people,youre being quite grown up about it-its only defriending in time for christmas.others might not handle it as well as you.

TiggyD · 16/12/2011 21:57

After reading this thread from start to finish I really must say that I'm now feeling incredibly horny. I must go have a Bourbon.

Lexie1970 · 16/12/2011 22:37

I feel a swoon coming on at the sheer audacity of your friends behaviour.......

CrapBag · 16/12/2011 22:41

God what a bitch she is.

Yes defriend immediately,

SolidGoldStockingFilla · 16/12/2011 22:45

Get a nice big jiffybag and shit in it. Then post it to her without a stamp so she will have to go and collect it from the sorting office and pay the postage for it. By which time it will be minging.

Valpollicella · 16/12/2011 22:48

I say don't defiend her but save the giblets fro your turkey.

Freeze them, Then pop round for a cup of tea after Xmas and hide then down the back of the radiator.

Voila. Karma will bite her back slowly over a long period of time while she tries to figure out where the rank smell is coming from

AnotherMincepie · 16/12/2011 22:53

GoingForGoalWeight · 16/12/2011 22:59

I hope this thread is not about the 'Stately Homes' thread, in Relationships.

MustControlMincepieOfDeath · 16/12/2011 23:06

Blue ink

You cannot possibly stay friends with someone who uses blue ink. Sheer uncouthness.

Ditch her immediately, remove all trace of her existence from your life. It's the only way. What a fucking liberty.

HecateGoddessOfTwelfthNight · 17/12/2011 14:58

oh no, this isn't a pisstake of another thread, is it, GoingForGoalWeight? I thought it was just a joke off the top of your head sort of thing, not a thread taking the piss out of another mner.

LoveInAColdClimate · 17/12/2011 15:59

I think it's a thread about several recent threads (but not Stately Homes, AFAIK).

motherinferior · 17/12/2011 16:04

You don't need friends like this. Come to that, you don't need friends at all, do you, especially not women friends, they'll only turn on you in the end. I'd defriend everyone you know at the same time - you know it makes sense!

toptramp · 17/12/2011 17:15

I can't believe she got you a non-standard size card She obviously hates your guts!

puzzlesum · 17/12/2011 17:21

I didn't even know there were standard sizes .

SaraBellumHertz · 17/12/2011 17:24

Dump the emotionally abusive bitch, then leave your DH.

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