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To be annoyed by christmas cards given as birthday cards!!

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hanreeoak · 15/12/2011 20:25

My son was three yesterday, he had two christmas cards given to him as birthday cards, both with 'Merry Christmas' printed on the front and a pressie wrapped in christmas paper. I know I should be greatful that these people remembered his birthday and I am, It just irratates the hell out of me. He was due Christmas day and came early which I'm glad about, it just seems a raw deal that his sisters get special cards, lots of visitors ect (October and May babies) but his birthday gets taken over with Christmas. People have said sorry too busy to get a gift or visit him, he can't help when he was born, I feel sorry for people that are born even closer to Christmas.
Ahhhh, rant over.

OP posts:
mrsjay · 15/12/2011 20:29

Aw apart from the silly present givers i hope your son had a nice birthday : ) its my dds Boyfriends birthday today Its hard to get a card in the sea of xmas cards but not impossible maybe the present givers are giving joint presents ? I would be really annoyed too ,My cousin is xmas day she used to have her birthday in the afternoon chistmas cards were down and birthday cards up ,

pud1 · 15/12/2011 20:30

Yanbu... It was my birthday on Tuesday and I only got one pressie wrapped in Christmas paper which is a record. Normally get a few. I am too old to give a shit but for a child that's just rubbish. As for Christmas cards disguised as birthday cards, that's just wrong. Why do People do it. Have you had the joint Christmas and birthday presents yet

reelingintheyears · 15/12/2011 20:32

I agree,YANBU.

slavetofilofax · 15/12/2011 20:34

YANBU, but being completely disorganised myself, I can understand why people do it.

KittieCat · 15/12/2011 20:36

I'm absolutely with you. DS has just had his first birthday and BIL gave him a 'joint present' wrapped in Christmas wrap and told to save for Christmas. Made me cross, clearly DS doesn't care at this age but I do. Genuinely don't want to seem ungrateful either but it's just not fair, is it? I'd so much rather either two small gifts (to be fair, at this age, a roll of Sellotape keeps him amused for hours) or no Christmas gift and a birthday gift instead.

Happy birthday to your DS, hope he enjoyed his day.

Original poster
hanreeoak · 15/12/2011 20:38

Joint gifts Yes, People seem to think they are doing me a favour by giving him joint gifts, a friend of mine told me yesterday she was doing me a favour 'as they get so much this time of year any way'!!! WHAT, its his birthday!!!!

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Original poster
hanreeoak · 15/12/2011 20:39

Thank you, he did have a fun day we went to a farm park in the pouring rain!! He loved it.

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Cherriesarelovely · 15/12/2011 20:41

YANBU! Us poor souls with birthdays at this time of the year get treated very unfairly! Am thinking of moving mine to the summer!

Floggingmolly · 15/12/2011 20:41

It doesn't matter. It really DOESN'T matter.

KittieCat · 15/12/2011 20:44

Thing is, floggingmolly, it does to me...

Luminescence · 15/12/2011 20:45

Yes it does fucking matter. Let me guess, Molly, June birthday?

Toughasoldboots · 15/12/2011 20:50

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JarethTheGoblinKing · 15/12/2011 20:53

YADNBU. The worst culprit for this is my Uncle - his Birthday is 19 December, so he really should know better!

I do call people on it though - along with the 'oh, it can be a joint present as it's so close to Christmas' thing. Yes, I'm grateful that people get DS a present, but if his Birthday was in June he'd be getting 2. Stop using a December birthday as an excuse for being lazy and thoughtless. Grr.

IneedAChristmasNickname · 15/12/2011 21:01

My friend has 2DD, DD1s birthday is October, DD2s is 18th Dec. I ALWAYS make sure I buy DD2 2 cards and presents, just like DD1 gets 2!
OP, YANBU!

AnotherMincepie · 15/12/2011 21:03

YANBU. It's lazy and impolite - it sends the message "I felt obliged to give you something but couldn't be bothered to make enough effort to buy a proper birthday card".

tulipgrower · 15/12/2011 21:05

Oops, I just wrapped my sons birthday present in Christmas paper. Blush
But he's only going to be 1, so he'll forgive me. We also requested a combined birthday/Christmas present from his Grandparents, because we really need a new (expensive) car seat.
I promise I'll be better next year.

JarethTheGoblinKing · 15/12/2011 21:06

I'm ashamed to say I did it once.. someone with a Birthday just after Christmas got a joint present from me.. it was v expensive though and he was suitably grateful Grin but still pulled me up on it

Abcinthia · 15/12/2011 21:07

YANBU. So annoying when people make a big deal with birthdays celebrated any other time of the year but can't be arsed for the ones born in December/January.

JarethTheGoblinKing · 15/12/2011 21:07

tulipgrower Shock how DARE you!

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IneedAChristmasNickname · 15/12/2011 21:08

I think if the receipient is either too young to know, or old enough to want something expensive, ie laptop then it's ok!

Sheepasaurus · 15/12/2011 21:10

My birthday is 25th December. I hate when someone gives me a Xmas card with "and have a happy birthday" written at the bottom as an afterthought. I would rather they didn't bother. Most of my family/friends are quite good at keeping it separate though.

hiddenhome · 15/12/2011 21:10

YANBU, but at least he got a present and card. Try being born in January when everyone's miserable and skint. No presents or cards is quite common for people born during that month.

t0lk13n · 15/12/2011 21:10

I had a birthday card which doubled up as a sympathy card this year as my Dad died the day before my birthday!!

PersonalClown · 15/12/2011 21:13

It DOES matter. Everyone else in the year gets a separate Christmas and birthday.
Why shouldn't us unfortunate lot that happen to be in December/January??

Floggingmolly · 15/12/2011 21:13

No actually, one of my kids has a December birthday. I can get that it matters to some people, but I don't know why it matters. Isn't it all a bit form over substance?