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To the violent aggressive wife of the violent aggressive man who tried to assault me

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MJinSparklyStockings · 15/12/2011 14:02

in Wembley Arena last night
You should both be ashamed, your behaviour was appalling and if you think it is ok for the pair of you to physically attack teenagers for "dancing" at a rock concert - then you can expect to be challenged.

Far from it being none of my business - it is everyones business to challenge a 40 plus woman and 50 plus male when they are attempting to assault minors. The usually response to someone telling you calmly and without swearing that your behaviour was disgusting is not usually for a women to start screamig and swearing like a banshee and for a man to attempt punch a total stranger in the face followed by threats of physical violence and offers to tale me outside and batter me.

As I told you and him (not so calmly) - you are a child batterer, clearly he is a woman batterer and the pair of you are cowards.

I noticed neither of you said anything to the bloke who had his foot on the back of the chair, possibly because he wasn't young or female and you knew you get as good as you gave.

Those children didn't deserve to be thrown out - you two deserve to be charged and prosecuted for your assault on them and subsequent attempted assault on me.

If that is how you behave towards women and children you dont know, in a public arena - I dread to think how you treat your own children and each Other in the privacy of your own home.

I truly hope you see this and the pair of you hang your heads in shame, it doesn't matter how irritating you found their dancing - you are grown adults!

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QuietNinjaMincepie · 15/12/2011 14:04

Wow Shock yanbu! Hope you're ok.

stubbornstains · 15/12/2011 14:05

Grrr. OK, I've only heard one side of this, but I HATE middle-aged people behaving badly. I've seen it pretty frequently- especially middle-aged blokes trying to bully young women/ girls and it all too frequently goes unchallenged. So good for you!

JaxTellerIsMyFriend · 15/12/2011 14:07

what was the concert?

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MJinSparklyStockings · 15/12/2011 14:12

It was disgusting - I didnt know the kids - they were a pain to the bouncers (I thought they were great) but all they were doing was dancing in the aisles.

Atthe end of the support act - these women just launched themselves at them, and then the womans husband joined in.

Security threw the kids out, I did try to stop them. I complained to security and their supervisor and I'll be emailing Wembley as soon as I'm home.

The when the concert was over I told her her behaviour was appalling - he next thing I know I felt the wind whistle past my face as he attempted to land a punch on it and he was screaming at me to come outside so he could sort me out (and my boyfriend except I was with a other female friend??)

Thankfully he was the other side of the barrier and couldn't reach me.

I don't care how annoying the kids were, (I thought they were great) they were just that - kids :(.

The woman and bloke just exploded - first at them and then at me.

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MJinSparklyStockings · 15/12/2011 14:13

Motley Crüe And Def Leppard.

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SolidGoldStockingFilla · 15/12/2011 14:15

Poor you, OP. Usually rock concerts are attended by nice people, or so I have always found. I do hope Wembley etc take notice of your complaint.

knockneedandknackered · 15/12/2011 14:18

hope your complaint gets heard

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MJinSparklyStockings · 15/12/2011 14:20

I was fine - I was livid - I felt sorry for the kids, the tickets were £50 plus, they were all dressed up, face paints, they were clearly really excited to be there and then they got thrown out because hey were an easier target than the adults.

What a terrible example to set - when I went to speak the bouncers, the one was saying - but I didn't do anything, I didn't do anything and I said I knew, I was there to stick up for them and he was just saying thank you so much thank you so much.

I don't even think they had been drinking, they certainly didn't do anything to be set upon by 3 adults. Awful behaviour, just awful.

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LEttletownofBOFlehem · 15/12/2011 14:21

Did she mention she used mumsnet?

GoingForGoalWeight · 15/12/2011 14:22

Did you manage to hear any dialogue between the two groups? Or did music prevent? Was there racism etc?

OldeChestnut · 15/12/2011 14:24

if the kids got chucked out, seems there was more to the story than meets the eye

GoingForGoalWeight · 15/12/2011 14:24

Who attacked who first?

HintofBream · 15/12/2011 14:29

Waiting for someone to say either the kids or the adults or possibly the lot, might have been SN so all is excused.

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MJinSparklyStockings · 15/12/2011 14:32

The kids had already peed off the bouncers by dancing where they shouldn't and the only attacking was done by the adults - the kids didn't attack anyone - when the bouncer was stopping them dancing In the aisle they just sat Dow. And started dancin again - they were just kids having fun.

And I certainly didnt physically attack anyone - I just told them I thought they were disgusting. The whole row behind and we were in thought the same - I was just the only person who spoke up.

No racism just slightly over exuberant teenagers - mock guitar playing etc.

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MJinSparklyStockings · 15/12/2011 14:36

There was no dialogue I could see, I was watching the teens becUse they were amusing - I thought they were brilliant - young, full of beans, it tool 1 bouncer to move 2 of them them back to their seat, they were fab, sort of dancing on one leg while guitar strumming, he'd say stay here, then they would sneak of again like naughty toddlers after sweets, bouncer was laughing along with them.

Then the support act finish and the first woman just launched herself at them, the a minute or two later the second woman - the. Bouncers got involved and then the husband tried joining in to attack them, then they went out of the doors and when the nasty people came back and teens didn't I went out to find bouncers and try to exPlain.

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MJinSparklyStockings · 15/12/2011 14:39

Given the blokes reaction to me - I wondered drugs, last person I k ew who reacted like that was (I realised later) experiencing roid rage.

No idea if woman uses Mumsnet - but I am ever hopeful. I was and am appalled. I cannot imagine what I would do I this situation, but then my husband would never try to punch a woman in the face and offer to take her outside and sort her out.

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GoingForGoalWeight · 15/12/2011 14:40

I'm in no way condoning what the actions of the adults.

People who may potentially ruin your evening via blocking ones view of the performance by dancing around when the tickets were £50, would pee me off too,if that was the case.

VirgoGrr · 15/12/2011 14:44

And the moral of that story is don't go to gigs in arenas if you can possibly avoid it. Never a pleasant experience. Statistics will probably agree with me that you are more likely to encounter tossers in a larger crowd, probability etc.
Bands should do more under 18 shows at smaller clubs.

How sad is it to go to see a band and not be allowed to dance? Tragic. Mötley Crüe for Gods sake? And I speak as a former teenager that was threatened with ejection from Sheffield Arena for inappropriate enjoyment of Faith No More in about 1993.

And these people sound like arseholes.

mummymccar · 15/12/2011 14:45

Sounds like you did all you could - what awful, awful people though. I hope the woman sees this and understands how disgusting her behaviour was. I imagine the parents of the kids will be onto Wembley too, will be good if you have written too to back up their statement that they were doing nothing wrong.
In the meantime, is there anyway you can report these people to the police?

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MJinSparklyStockings · 15/12/2011 14:46

All they had to do was stand up - everyone else was stood up dancing anyway. The kids weren't ruining anything - it was a rock concert, people are supposed to dance at rock concertS (I thought).

And it certainly doesn't excuse their violence - shout at them then, but physically attack them (and then me).

The only reason his punched missed my face was the distance created by the barrier between us, otherwise he would be facing assault charges.

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VirgoGrr · 15/12/2011 14:47

Was that the problem, they were expecting to sit and be able to see?
Berks.

EricNordmanfirandMistletoe · 15/12/2011 14:48

Oh FFS - anyone who goes to see Motley Crue and expects to sit nicely in their seat and enjoy the performance is a wally IMO. I went to a gig at Wembley and it was shit - all these seats, people self-consciously jiggling about on their toes because nobody felt like being the odd one out and dancing (until it got dark/we got pissed/Muse came on)

A Gig involves dancing. It just does. All this health and safety don't dance in case you fall over or in case you obscure some boring fart's view is just bullshit. Sanitised rocking out.

stubbornstains · 15/12/2011 14:48

Did they forget their reading glasses and think they were actually going to Glyndebourne?

VirgoGrr · 15/12/2011 14:50

As an aside, did anyone notice my umlauts? I'm quite happy about that, I'd love to say I did them intentionally. Grin

VirgoGrr · 15/12/2011 14:51

LOL at Glyndebourne. Do many assaults take place there? I haven't been.

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