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To be really angry at DH's stupid drunken accident?

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itsbrandybutterandtinseltime · 15/12/2011 13:19

Last night, DH went out on a work's Christmas do and got a bit worse for wear. In the pub they ended up in, there was one of those 'test your strength' punchbag machines Hmm All his mates had a go, and on his turn, he missed the punchbag and punched one of those peanut dispensing glass machines instead. Blood everywhere, hand cut right open. The landlady (friend of the family) bandaged and cleaned him and he came on home.

This morning, he went to the doctors and it had opened up, exposing the knuckle. He needed 5 stitches in that one, and another few in his finger.

AIBU to be a bit pissed off? It was my works do last week, and I came home a bit worse for wear, but this means that all the housework, cooking and childcare will fall to me over the Christmas holiday. Actually, I'm feeling pretty sorry for myself.

I should say that this has never happened before; I don't even remember him being sick from alcohol before, so it isn't like it's a regular occurrence. He is a lovely man, I'm just so annoyed with him for being so bloody careless.

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festivehumptydumpty · 15/12/2011 13:22

This is a one-off, careless accident.

We all have them. If your DH is as lovely as you mention, don't hold this one over him.

YABU.

Sorry!

HecateGoddessOfTwelfthNight · 15/12/2011 13:22

It was an accident. It could have happened if he'd just had one drink, or been on lemonade all evening.

As I say to my children - nobody is ever in trouble for an accident. Grin

I bet he's also not feeling too good. I bet it's very painful. And it will be inconvenient for him too, won't it?

And no, all the housework, cooking and childcare does not have to fall to you. He has injured one hand. Not had both arms and legs chopped off.

He can still do stuff.

AKMD · 15/12/2011 13:22

YANBU to be annoyed but I bet he's feeling a bit sheepish today! Don't make it into a huge issue. Does he have to pay for the damage he caused?

5Foot5 · 15/12/2011 13:23

Oh lighten up! YAB a bit U. You say yourself that excessive drinking is not something he makes a habit of. It was a one-off.

He is probably feeling more than a bit sorry for himself under the circumstance poor guy.

DingDongFruitShootsMakeYouHigh · 15/12/2011 13:23

Yanbu to be angry with him for being a bit of an idiot
BUT it was an accident, don't brood on it or keep on at him about it or it will ruin your Christmas.

GrownUpBelievesInSanta · 15/12/2011 13:23

I'd be laughing and giving him all the one-handed jobs.

MrsTwinks · 15/12/2011 13:24

urm.... why was the punching bag close enough to the glass to be punched?? I know you say the landlady was friend of the family but TBH sounds like the pub was alittle out of order. He should have gone to A&E for a cut that bad, and they are liable etc.

YABU to be upset at DH I think, it was an accident. He should, however, most definately make it up to you

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itsbrandybutterandtinseltime · 15/12/2011 13:25

I know I am probably being a bit unreasonable, I think I'm just angry because it was so silly and preventable. I do really feel rather sorry for him; he rang me from the doctors to say what had happened with the treatment etc, it did sound painful Sad

AKMD no, oddly the glass didn't smash, I think the pressure cut him and he sort of grazed along the metal collection/coin bit; just one of those freak accidents I think!

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JustGiveMeTheWine · 15/12/2011 13:25

I'd tell him once, ONLY once how unhappy you are that he was a bit of a tit!

Then i'd sit back and enjoy the grovelling! Grin

FredFredGeorge · 15/12/2011 13:26

GrownUpBelievesInSanta I agree with the laughing, but should you really be rewarding the behaviour with hand jobs? He might keep doing it...

DoMeDon · 15/12/2011 13:27

YABU- good grief!

AKMD · 15/12/2011 13:27

Ooooo, ouch!

You will laugh about this later. As Hecate said, it doesn't merit spending a week and a half on the sofa with a little hand bell at the ready.

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itsbrandybutterandtinseltime · 15/12/2011 13:28

Oh no mrstwinks it was just an accident; I'd never hold them accountable. Besides, we know them and they are lovely people. DH just had a drunken stumble.

I wont brood over it, it certainly won't ruin our Christmas!

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itsbrandybutterandtinseltime · 15/12/2011 13:29

fred erm, I think she meant one handed jobs... Like hoovering Grin

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Poledra · 15/12/2011 13:34

I bumped our car taking it out of the garage yesterday. I was completely sober. I was also fecking furious at myself. DH only got cross when I slammed the car door shut in my temper. He has not once referred to it again - it was an accident.

Mind you, agree with all the others that he's hurt the fingers on one hand, not totally incapacitated himself, so he can still do his share in the house!

bananamam · 15/12/2011 13:34

GrownUpBelievesInSanta Thu 15-Dec-11 13:23:37

I'd be laughing and giving him all the one-handed jobs.

GrinXmas GrinGrin

V v funny..YABU. It was an accident. It's one hand, not both legs. So YABU if you think he can't do anything else too! He is more than capable.

Still giggling at hand jobsBlush

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itsbrandybutterandtinseltime · 15/12/2011 13:35

Oh, I should interject and say I've not shared ANY of this with DH; wanted to bounce it off a few people first.

polendra glad you weren't hurt

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Poledra · 15/12/2011 13:47

Thanks, Brandy - fortunately, even the damage to the car isn't that bad!

'Oh, I should interject and say I've not shared ANY of this with DH'

See, this is what's MN is good for - venting your anger (coz, let's face it, it was a silly thing to do!) without making your DH feel shit. Now you've got over the initial anger, you can rib him about it mercilessly for the rest of his life until the stitches come out Smile

Cherriesarelovely · 15/12/2011 13:50

that is annoying but we all do stupid things SOMETIMES! No doubt he is feelign pretty cross with himself anyway!

Loie159 · 15/12/2011 13:56

what a few others have said really........... YABU to think that all the housework, childcare, Xmas will be your job. Reading a book to children, watching a film with the kids, playing a board game, going for a walk, stiring gravy, laying the table for XMas lunch, making a cup of tea etc etc etc can all be done with one hand! He hasnt lost his arm, just hurt his hand, so he will be able to do plenty. The thing is for you to not feel like everything is your job because of his hand, and put too much responsibility on yourself and end up hating Xmas.... You just need to say, that you will have to see how you all get on, but he will still have to help as much as possible. I reckon he can easily do 70% of what he wouldn have been able to - just dont let him get away with not doing things! Xmas present wrapping might be tricky but he can always just go out and buy those present bags and put theings in them! Xmas Smile

DeckTheHallsWithPopcornMice · 15/12/2011 14:26

YABU - he didnt do it intentionally.

And how stupid is it to put something glass next to something you encourage drunk men to wollop??

OldeChestnut · 15/12/2011 14:29

it was an accident, get over it and thank your lucky stars it wasnt serious

have a thought for all those ill people stuck in hospital over christmas

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itsbrandybutterandtinseltime · 15/12/2011 19:23

Feeling much better now, thanks for giving me some perspective! Like I say, far better that I sound off here than at DH.

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itsbrandybutterandtinseltime · 15/12/2011 19:23

Bit harsh olde!

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sitandnatter · 15/12/2011 19:25

He didn't shag the office secretary, he got hopelessly drunk and he is the one in pain not you. Lighten up.

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