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To be really angry at DH's stupid drunken accident?

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itsbrandybutterandtinseltime · 15/12/2011 13:19

Last night, DH went out on a work's Christmas do and got a bit worse for wear. In the pub they ended up in, there was one of those 'test your strength' punchbag machines Hmm All his mates had a go, and on his turn, he missed the punchbag and punched one of those peanut dispensing glass machines instead. Blood everywhere, hand cut right open. The landlady (friend of the family) bandaged and cleaned him and he came on home.

This morning, he went to the doctors and it had opened up, exposing the knuckle. He needed 5 stitches in that one, and another few in his finger.

AIBU to be a bit pissed off? It was my works do last week, and I came home a bit worse for wear, but this means that all the housework, cooking and childcare will fall to me over the Christmas holiday. Actually, I'm feeling pretty sorry for myself.

I should say that this has never happened before; I don't even remember him being sick from alcohol before, so it isn't like it's a regular occurrence. He is a lovely man, I'm just so annoyed with him for being so bloody careless.

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itsbrandybutterandtinseltime · 15/12/2011 19:28

sit I think I was more cross at the situation iyswim, that it was so preventable and I don't want to ever see him hurt.

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susiedaisy · 15/12/2011 19:32

I can see why your a bit naffed off, but it was a one off and an accident so I think you need to just forget about it and get on with things and make him do bits that he can tbh,

sitandnatter · 15/12/2011 19:32

Itsbrandy, people make total asses of hemselves at the office parties across the country, be very grateful this is a one off some people get lathered every weekend and end up it total states.

Chill, be nice to him, he has a hang over and he's hurting.

Lilyloo · 15/12/2011 19:33

Yabu it was an accident , he sounds lovely and we can all be careless.

GrownUpBelievesInSanta · 15/12/2011 19:33

I have gotten my own unintentional funny, lol. I'm doped up on diazepam and codeine in my defence.

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itsbrandybutterandtinseltime · 15/12/2011 19:36

Oh no sit I know; he is wonderful. I just felt so cross like 'how could you do that to yourself you silly man?!'

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mrsjay · 15/12/2011 19:36

poor bloke bet he feels a right plonker , yabAlittle u , hes hurt his hand not paralysed himself , he can still do stuff dont fall for the injured solider routine if he tries to pull that one on you ,

Shutupanddrive · 15/12/2011 19:38

Yabu, it was an accident. It's not like he did it on purpose to get out of the housework!

LaurieFairyCake · 15/12/2011 19:43

Lots of sympathy for you.

My dh broke his wrist playing football 5 weeks ago and he can't do anything. All housework, driving, and most importantly fire building has fallen to me. Our house is heated by stove so all wood chopping and lugging coal and wood has been mine.

Couple that with me being woken at 5.30 am to put on his tie and tie his shoe laces for him and I'm knackered.

YANBU

  • it's exhausting when a whole households duties suddenly fall to one person.

My own dh is of course apologetic but that obviously doesn't Stoke the fire!

AnyoneforTurps · 15/12/2011 20:28

YABU - you sound a bit jealous of him having had a good time (before the accident) to be honest.

If it cheers you up, it is absolutely fine for him to do housework as long as he doesn't soak the stitches so get him some rubber gloves & point him at the washing up Smile

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itsbrandybutterandtinseltime · 15/12/2011 20:52

Not really anyone, was my works do last week and I went to a party the night before so even though I was invited, I really wasn't up for going and getting smashed with a bunch of hairy old men

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hohohoshedittant · 15/12/2011 20:55

YABU

He has hurt his hand, not broken his neck. He can still cook, clean and look after the kids.

LoveInAColdClimate · 15/12/2011 20:59

YANBU for feeling a bit irritated - I know I would! But I'm sure your DH knows he's been a bit stupid, and accidents do happen. My ex once hospitalised himself in a drunken accident so incredibly stupid I cannot bring myself to type it...

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itsbrandybutterandtinseltime · 15/12/2011 21:00

I know hoho I should let him crack on, but I sort of feel like I have to take it on because he's injured Blush

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squeakytoy · 15/12/2011 21:04

I know I might sound a bit of a misery here.. but what a fucking idiotic thing to have in a pub. Confused.

Having worked in many pubs, the last thing pissed blokes need is something to show off their punching skills with.

LynetteScavo · 15/12/2011 21:10

It could be worse.

He could have missed and punched his boss.

NoOnesGoingToEatYourMincePies · 15/12/2011 21:13

I think probably his accident has given you a fright OP, and it's coming out as anger.

My Uncle had a car crash at Christmas a few years ago, nobody was badly hurt but the car was a right off.

He rang my Aunt from the side of the road to tell her what had happened and shock and fright made her say "And I bet you broke your mother's fucking present!"

She never swears normally and is a caring woman. But the fright made her blurt out something completely random and uncaring and she was mad at him for days before she had a cry and admitted the crash had frightened her.

I know this wasn't a car crash but still, lots of blood, need for stitches etc, it still sounds quite scary to me.

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