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AIBU about dogs in the car? Or is my mother....

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AnnieLobeseder · 11/12/2011 18:42

... being a little strange?

We've going up North to visit family for Christmas, a few hours' drive. We're bringing our two dogs with us, but they'll be boarding with a family nearby and not actually staying with us as family aren't keen on dogs. But they live in such gorgeous countryside that we're sorry the dogs aren't there to come with us on walks, so we decided to board them near us rather than somewhere near home this year.

So my mother called the other day and told me that we can't possibly bring the dogs with us. Somewhat puzzled, since they won't be anywhere near her, I asked her why. She said, "it's a 4 hour drive!".

"Um, yes?" says I, still confused. "They're okay on long drives."

"But the smell!!", she says.

"Pardon?"

"You might not realise it, but your dogs smell!"

"Yes, that's understandable. But I still don't see the problem."

"It's like smokers, the dog smell will get all in your clothes and the presents, and you can't expect everyone else to put up with your dog smell over Christmas!!", wails my dear old mum.

Hmm, go I. "Well, we'll make sure we give them a good bath before we leave," I say, while quietly wondering if poor old mum has finally lost it.

"I don't think you're taking me seriously! It's just too selfish of you!!"

I point out that smoke is slightly more pervasive than dog, you can't generally smell a dog owner just by walking past them, and that with only 2 weeks to go before Christmas we stand a snowballs's chance in hell of finding alternative accommodation for them anyway.

So, is my mum barking (hee hee, see what I did there?) or AIBU to ruin Christmas by turning up reeking of Eau de chien? Do dog owners smell after car trips with their dogs?

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AnnieLobeseder · 11/12/2011 18:45

Sorry, a few words missing from first paragraph....

We've going up North to visit family for Christmas, a few hours' drive. We're bringing our two dogs with us, but they'll be boarding with another family nearby and not actually staying with us as my family aren't keen on dogs. But they live in such gorgeous countryside that we're usually sorry the dogs aren't there to come with us on walks, so we decided to board them near us rather than somewhere near home this year.

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Trills · 11/12/2011 18:46

The car will smell of dog.

But I doubt you'll bring dog smell into her house with you any more than you would be doing anyway.

squeakytoy · 11/12/2011 18:46

Do your dogs stink? Grin

We were round at MILs today, and her dog reeks... not the normal whiff of doggy, but proper stinking horrible.... Confused

If your dogs dont smell any more than the average pooch though, then I cant see why it will have any bearing on a car journey with them. You will not smell of dog, neither will the presents, and your mum is being ridiculous.

BeerGrinchPotter · 11/12/2011 18:47

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maybenow · 11/12/2011 18:48

i think that either you and your family smell of your dogs or you don't, spending time with them in the car isn't going to make any difference - afterall, you LIVE with the dogs Confused

SandStorm · 11/12/2011 18:48

My in laws bring their dogs when they visit us. It's also a 4 hour drive and I can honestly say they don't smell of dog when they arrive. Although the dogs stay with us so I can't say there is no smell.

Selks · 11/12/2011 18:49

Maybe you might smell a little doggy, but your mum is being a tad over-sensitive about this.
You could offer to change your clothes when you arrive and get a shower, if that made her happier. But stick to your guns about taking the dogs up to the area with you if you have made plans already, and it would be to the dogs advantage (rather than going into kennels at home for example) to do so. She really is being quite silly though.

FruitShootsSantaandLeaves · 11/12/2011 18:49

Our Dogs are also coming with us to the inlaws
We are taking the caravan (hopefully if it's not gale force winds or deep snow!) and the dogs will stay in there as they aren't allowed in the house

My MIL hasn't mentioned that we smell, but maybe we do. I hadn't thought of that!
Poor DD who has to actually sit in the back with the dogs, as our car has 2 extra seats in the boot!

It's got me thinking
Perhaps you could bottle it and sell it to dog lovers
Eau de Chein...'Take the smell of your beloved pet wherever you go'

SuePurblybiltbyElves · 11/12/2011 18:49

tell her she smells of wee, polo mints and Lenor and it is making you sick. You didn't want to mention it but...

bamboobutton · 11/12/2011 18:49

yanbu, your mum is barking

the only person i have ever smelled dog on is a woman who had several dogs and never them or her clothers enough.
normal people who wash their clothes don't smell doggy.

diddl · 11/12/2011 18:52

Your mum must think that the presents & your clothes are all in the bacl of the car with your dogs laying all over them!

Are the dogs close enough that you will be able to take them on walks with you?

BeerGrinchPotter · 11/12/2011 18:57

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Ihavewelliesbutitssunny · 11/12/2011 18:58

Your mum is not being unreasonable to think that she can smell dog on you tbh. I think a lot of the time you can smell dog on owners clothes, but usually just coats that don't get washed so much. She is being unreasonable to say anything though and make such an issue of it especially as the dogs are not actually staying at her house. I wouldn't have thought it would make the presents smell.

AnnieLobeseder · 11/12/2011 20:34

I doubt it's jealousy, we all go on walks together over the holidays so she won't see any less of her. And she lives near us (we're visiting Aunt and Uncle for Christmas) so we see her loads during the year anyway.

She just hates my lovely dogs Sad, who aren't especially smelly, I don't think.

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AmanitaMuscaria · 11/12/2011 21:48

She is utterly and inexplicably barking!! Hmm Grin

YANBU at all. I'd tell her that I wasn't coming without the dogs; her choice.

Merry Christmas! Wink

ddubsgirl · 11/12/2011 21:56

well either the dogs come and stay near you or you cancel and stay home,you have offered to bath the dogs before,you can spray the car not much more you can do.

wildfig · 11/12/2011 22:05

Oh great, now I've got something else to be paranoid about...

Can she really smell your dogs on your presents? How is that even possible, unless your dogs are wrapping them for you?? I'm well aware of how smelly my dogs are - I get the car valeted regularly and am a neurotic hooverer at home, but if my mother told me that she didn't want me to drive my dogs in the car for four hours because I'd smell of them days later, I'd seriously question if she wanted me there at all.

Unless you've got nine otterhounds and they all sleep in bed with you, her nose must be even more sensitive than your dogs'. She should have that checked out (or possibly get herself onto Britain's Got Talent with it).

EdlessAllenPoe · 11/12/2011 22:06

indeed, she is barking.

and also quite offensive with it...

MrsMuddyPuddles · 11/12/2011 22:10

Maybe she was hoping to ride with you, but won't feel comforable now with the dogs?

Could you lie and just tell her get the dogs shampooed the day before you leave? Then have her take the presents?

PicotFanStitch · 11/12/2011 22:11

I dislike dogs and have a sensitive sense of smell, but even I would just be grateful that you weren't expecting me to come into contact with the animals and would keep quiet about any further reservations. Yes, dog-owners do sometimes smell of dogs, their cars almost always do, but that's their choice and the most the rest of us can ask is to be spared jumping/barking/slobbering etc., which you're doing.

scrappydoodah · 11/12/2011 22:19

Ask her what is really bothering her. This reeks (sorry...) of a half story.

emsyj · 11/12/2011 22:21

Of course your car smells of dog, but that's the deal when you have a dog - unless you are a meanie and never take the dog with you anywhere in the car!

I'm not a big fan of dogs tbh, I prefer cats - but it is ridiculous to complain that you shouldn't take the dogs with you in the car because you will then stink for the whole of Christmas. Utterly ludicrous. YANBU. And it is lovely that you are boarding them close by so that you can still visit & walk them.

ddubsgirl · 11/12/2011 22:21

wildfig my kids presents may smell of cat lol!he tried to help with the wrapping!

JustRedbin · 11/12/2011 22:24

She lives up North, you have to make allowances.

AnnieLobeseder · 11/12/2011 22:26

Thanks for all the input. I really don't think there's any ulterior motive here. My mum goes up in the train and loves it. She won't be going near the car, I've said I'll wash them. And if she's worried we'll spend too much time out walking them, why doesn't she just say so?

I really think she is being genuine in this. We have a very small house, and I know the dog smell really bothers her when she's here. I think she really is worried they'll permeate us with Eau de Chien in the car. Poor dear!! I shall pack Febreeze just in case.....

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