to advertise for a mother's help?

[lisaleelu]

firstly I'll start by saying I am not rich - far from it. I am not in the income bracket to normally have 'help' and I certainly dont live in the sort of area where people get help.

BUT I work, dh work we have 2 kids and 4 sick parents.PIL. I NEED help. We pay for nursery and ironing.

I was thinking it might be best pay someone to drop and pick kids up, do some cleaning and ironing and possibly help out with elderly parents (i dont mean personal care - just things like cleaning and promptiing with meds).

I have mentioned it to dh and a friend and they are like yes ok get help but you need a number of diff people - a cleaner to clean, a childminder to pick up and drop off, laundry to iron and carer to help with mum. BUT i think i should just advertise for one person to do it all.

What do you think - is it gettig ideas above my station to have a helper?

depends where you are but i'd say £7 is enough. especially now and especially if they're not paying tax.

Fractious, I didn't know that. Why shouldn't someone be self employed in this circumstance? My SIL has a couple of self employed people working in her home. We're not actually under uk law here so it might be different.

Fractious, I didn't know that. Why shouldn't someone be self employed in this circumstance? My SIL has a couple of self employed people working in her home. We're not actually under uk law here so it might be different.

Where are you? It may well be different - very probably is between countries.

UK employment law is fairly clearly defined, although there are always exceptions and anomalies. If someone can tell too what to do and where and when and how to do it then 99% of the time you're looking at employment.

Right, just looked at HMRC website so I understand it now. Going to look up employment laws here to find out if my SIL is in the wrong!!

Even under UK law some domestic tasks can be done by SE contractors, before anyone panics. Cleaners and gardeners tend to have a range of clients and when you advertise for a cleaner you tend not to insist on a specific times lot the way you would for childcare. Lots of gardeners use their own tools. Both can decide to take holiday and offer a substitute or not provide the service.

'Ideas above your station'? Don't be so daft! You sound like you have loads on your plate, between work, kids and 4 (4!) sick parents and you'd be an idiot if you didn't get some assistance.

Anyone who thinks you're getting 'ideas above your station' is a snidey (jealous) cow and not worth a moment of your time.

Best of luck finding someone who can give you the help you need.

realistically if we all employed people to do little bits for us there'd be a lot more work to go round and it would be flexible bits and pieces work that people often need and we'd have more time in our own lives whilst someone else benefited from a bit of extra cash in their pocket without having to go sell their soul to tescos night shift.