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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Original poster

to have had a lovely time holding a little baby today (parking and private drives related)

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baubleybobbityhat · 08/12/2011 22:16

So this morning I was walking home from school run. I only live about 4 minutes walk away from the school.

Anyway, a slightly frazzled Mum was getting her reception age child and little baby out of the car but she had done the cardinal sin of parking across a driveway .

Owner of the driveway (which is a double driveway and already had one car parked in it) happened to turn up just as frazzled Mum was getting setting off towards school.

Driveway owner let down electronic windows (of 4 x 4 in zone 2 London oh yes) and let frazzled mum know in no uncertain terms that she wanted to get in to her driveway.

Frazzled mum said to year R child "ok, wait on pavement for me here, I've got to move the car" then went to strap her baby back in car seat.

I said "Frazzled Mum can I hold your baby?" and she was grateful and thrust gorgeous lovely beautiful about 6 month old baby boy in babygrow, coat and hat at me. So I held him and it was a lovely trip down memory lane while Driveway owner got back her rightful place in the driveway, and Frazzled Mum had to shunt around looking for another parking space, all the while both of us keeping an eye on the reception aged child waiting patiently on the pavement.

So, aibu to think Driveway Owning Mum was a complete and utter ARSE over this, especially as she has two small children of her own and could have cut frazzled mum a little slack for a few minutes?

And aibu to think Frazzled Mum was lovely because she let me have quite a long squidge of her utterly scrumptious ds?

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troisgarcons · 08/12/2011 22:56

the driveway owner did not have children in her car but the driveway owner does have two small children

Driveway owner probably had the need to pee and get inside PDQ - just coz you havent got the kids with you doesnt mean you dont feel the effects of pregnancy.

ShellyBoobs · 08/12/2011 22:58

Well, I would have, so I think she was bu.

Even if people were parking across your drive day-in, day-out, everytime the school started/finished?

I can imagine how annoying it must be.

Rhubarbgarden · 08/12/2011 22:58

Serin I would be BEYOND furious if someone squashed my daffodils like that. By Jove, white hot rage would take over I would sprout horns and someone would have to die for that .

Op I can't believe you seriously think the drive owner should park down the road for the convenience of someone who parked over her drive.

MayaAngelCool · 08/12/2011 22:59

Hi, baubley! Didn't realise this was your AIBU thread until I clicked on it, so please don't assume that I'm stalking you or something.

Well, yes YABU about the driveway mum. As per your other AIBU thread, you're guilty of assuming you know the whole story here and jumping to fixed conclusions about other people.

But wrt the cuddle, how lovely! Very trusting of the woman to get into her car and leave her baby with a complete stranger, though - I'd have preferred to be a bit late for school than do that! But glad you had a nice cuddle with a yumptious baby.

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baubleybobbityhat · 08/12/2011 23:00

I don't think Driveway mum is pregnant .

Look, this isn't a thread about absolute rights and wrongs, ok? Obviously it is annoying for driveway owners to be blocked out of their drives.

It is about the little subtleties of being kind and understanding and giving a little leeway to our neighbours and fellow Frazzled Mums.

Obviously.

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baubleybobbityhat · 08/12/2011 23:05

Heh heh, no, I cannot imagine how annoying it must be for people to park across my driveway - because I choose not to have one on a road that has unrestricted parking, the housing stock is all Victorian terraces and semi-detacheds, so if you do have a driveway you have stolen it from your own front garden.

Oh hello Maya how lovely to see you - did you see that the parent who asked me the favour to which I replied yes has still not replied?

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VivaLeBeaver · 08/12/2011 23:06

But how many times a week does she have to be kind and understanding? I doubt this was a one off occurrence for driveway mum.

She doesn't have to have kids with her, be pregnant, need the loo, etc. It's her drive and people shouldn't park over it. Why was other mum so frazzled? May e she ought to pull her finger out her arse and get there earlier.

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baubleybobbityhat · 08/12/2011 23:11

I think Frazzled Mum was having a bad day. I have them sometimes, and I certainly had a lot more of them when my children were very little.

I am fairly confident driveway Mum doesn't have to put up with much inconsiderate parking - I walk past her house twice a day and have done most school days for the past 7 years.

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MayaAngelCool · 08/12/2011 23:37

baubley, you are hilarious! You said: "It is about the little subtleties of being kind and understanding and giving a little leeway to our neighbours and fellow Frazzled Mums." That is exactly the point that so many of us were making on your other AIBU thread where you were refusing to give any leeway to your friend! You hypocrite! You are very, very funny indeed!

I did see that your friend hasn't replied; no doubt you'll draw as many conclusions as will please you from that fact, but as you already know by now, until you have hard facts in your possession all your assumptions are just fiction.

I do genuinely hope that nothing untoward has happened to your friend. For his sake, mostly, but also if something has happened to him while you've been slaggin him off on the internet I'm sure you'll feel very bad. Ooh - just a playful thought: maybe your friend is a MNer and has read your thread about him? That would certainly explain his radio silence!

eurochick · 08/12/2011 23:37

YABU. It is wrong to park over someone's driveway. If Driveway Owner could have parked elsewhere, so could Frazzled Mum.

troisgarcons · 08/12/2011 23:40

I didnt say she was pregnant - you said she had children (albeit not with her) .... pregnancy affects yoru pelvic floor - frankly if I were dashing to get home witha full baldder I'd be pissed off soemone was obstructing my parking ...... but that is just one hypothetical scenario I gave - befgore I lost it and let my bladder go all over the car seats.

FabbyUncle · 09/12/2011 08:36

But it wouldn't have been "a couple of minutes" by the time she'd walled there, got her child inside, chatted at the gate and come back!

And how do you know whether your neighbour had had something stupidly heavy to get in/out the car so needed to be bear her door/!

HazleNutt · 09/12/2011 08:46

YABU. Especially if there was parking available on the road, as you claim. Why didn't the Frazzled mum park there then?

Trills · 09/12/2011 08:51

If there was parking available in the road then Frazzled Mum was very unreasonable to park across someone's drive.

If there was not parking on the road, then she was a normal amount of unreasonable to park across someone's drive.

Oggy · 09/12/2011 10:10

Another one that thinks if there was somewhere driveway lady could have parked on the road then frazzled mum could have parked there surely.

Frazzled mum should hace parked a but further away if necessary, if it meant her Reception child getting a late mark that morning then so be it, it's really not the end of the world.

ChristinedePizanne · 09/12/2011 10:16

I don't care how frazzled someone is, you don't park in front of someone's drive (I have a drive - can you tell?)

trixymalixy · 09/12/2011 10:23

YABU if there was other parking on the road frazzled mum should have used that. It is not on to park over someone's driveway.

I wonder if frazzled mum had been driving a 4x4 if your attitude would have been different.....

anonandariston · 09/12/2011 10:39

YABU though it was nice of you to help with the baby

Why should driveway mum be considerate to frazzled mum when frazzled mum clearly couldn't give a toss who she inconveniences she sounds like the selfish cow not the other one! (and I say that as a perpetually frazzled mum of 6)

ApocalypseCheeseToastie · 09/12/2011 10:45

Yabu.

I live next door to a very popular Catholic Primary school which is rammed twice a day. Believe me after 10 years of putting up with 80 or so fecking 4 x 4's, Audis etc not to mention the bastardising parents assemblies and gawds knows what else oh AND the fecking churchy, candle waving stuff that goes on my tolerence to fellow man has depleted somewhat.

Even if there is a squishy baby involved

anniedunne · 09/12/2011 10:50

Baubley I don't understand why you have so little empathy for driveway mum. She herself would have been very frazzled by being blocked in. And what would have been the big deal for the so called frazzled mum to have parked further away and walked ? Then she wouldnt have been frazzled at all. Not hard !

anniedunne · 09/12/2011 10:50

anniedunne · 09/12/2011 10:53

Sorry, blocked OUT. Blocked in or out, annoying and unnecessary either way.

Diamondback · 09/12/2011 10:58

Erm, well if the Driveway Mum had to go out again within the hour, that's probably WHY she didn't want someone parked across her drive. She's got two kids and is in a bleeding hurry, plus if she lives that near the school, she probably has 'lovely' mums with cute kids blocking her in, or blocking her out, EVERY DAY!

This would drive me crackers! I can't even stand it when traffic comes to a standstill across a T-junction, blocking me in - it's rude

NinkyNonker · 09/12/2011 11:08

I don't understand how she was possibly being unreasonable. If there was free parking on the road close to her house why did this 'frazzled' mother have to park over her drive? And where did she move to while you all watched on? She can't have had to go far if she left her children behind, so why didn't she park in the real space in the first place?

NinkyNonker · 09/12/2011 11:09

I'm guessing OP vaguely knows driveway owner and doesn't like her much!

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