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AIBU?

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Original poster

to have had a lovely time holding a little baby today (parking and private drives related)

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baubleybobbityhat · 08/12/2011 22:16

So this morning I was walking home from school run. I only live about 4 minutes walk away from the school.

Anyway, a slightly frazzled Mum was getting her reception age child and little baby out of the car but she had done the cardinal sin of parking across a driveway .

Owner of the driveway (which is a double driveway and already had one car parked in it) happened to turn up just as frazzled Mum was getting setting off towards school.

Driveway owner let down electronic windows (of 4 x 4 in zone 2 London oh yes) and let frazzled mum know in no uncertain terms that she wanted to get in to her driveway.

Frazzled mum said to year R child "ok, wait on pavement for me here, I've got to move the car" then went to strap her baby back in car seat.

I said "Frazzled Mum can I hold your baby?" and she was grateful and thrust gorgeous lovely beautiful about 6 month old baby boy in babygrow, coat and hat at me. So I held him and it was a lovely trip down memory lane while Driveway owner got back her rightful place in the driveway, and Frazzled Mum had to shunt around looking for another parking space, all the while both of us keeping an eye on the reception aged child waiting patiently on the pavement.

So, aibu to think Driveway Owning Mum was a complete and utter ARSE over this, especially as she has two small children of her own and could have cut frazzled mum a little slack for a few minutes?

And aibu to think Frazzled Mum was lovely because she let me have quite a long squidge of her utterly scrumptious ds?

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EricNorthmansMistress · 08/12/2011 22:20

YABU
You need to get in your drive, you need to get in your drive. Frazzled mum shouldn't have blocked it.
She was nice and trusting to let you squidge her baby though.

ddubsgirl · 08/12/2011 22:21

awwwwww i had snuggles with my mates 5 month old baby at the weekend,wanted to take her home lol and maybe she shouldnt have parked across a driveway but driver could have been abit nicer about it

Angelswings · 08/12/2011 22:21

Jealous of the yummy cuddle, had a dream about that last night :)

No marks for the mum of the driveway, but she possibly gets pissed off if this happens often

IneedAChristmasNickname · 08/12/2011 22:21

RE Frazzled Mum YANBU! I am so jealous
RE Driveway Mum, hmm, I don't know! I mean it IS her driveway, but then again, Frazzled Mum was obv in a hurry and I guess it wouldn't have killed her to wait a few mins!

Iscreamtea · 08/12/2011 22:25

Baby squidging is always lovely but she really shouldn't park in a driveway. My friend's drive was always getting blocked by school runners, her Dd was having treatment for cancer at the time. She was always worried about being blocked in when she needed to go to hospital. She moved in the end.

TroublesomeEx · 08/12/2011 22:25

Ah, I did the same with a little baby in the park last year. Grandma was out with the children and older child (about 3) was stuck on a climbing frame and a bit panicky. Tiny baby was happier to be held by a stranger than 3 year old was to be rescued by one!

Little baby in a soft white fleecy snow suit whose arms were stuck out at the side like a big letter T. Gorgeous!

ScorpionQueen · 08/12/2011 22:26

Sorry, but I don't think anyone has the right to block someone's drive, no matter how frazzled. If she found another space then she could have done that in the first place.

VivaLeBeaver · 08/12/2011 22:29

Sorry, but you're been totally unreasonable aout the drive. I bet the house owner has this happen most days. And maybe she can't wait a few minutes, where is she supposed to wait? Sit in the road and block the traffic.

People frequently park over my drive and it makes my blood boil.

VivaLeBeaver · 08/12/2011 22:31

I think unless you live in a house where this is always happening you have no idea how annoying it is. The problem is everyone is only going to be a few minutes, and the next person and the next person. Which boils down to the drive been blocked most of the time just by different cars.

AKMD · 08/12/2011 22:32

YABU about the drive; YANBU about the baby.

Rhubarbgarden · 08/12/2011 22:32

Yabu. Parking across a driveway is very inconsiderate. The woman who lived there could have had all sorts of reasons for being in a hurry; you don't know. Or she could just be pissed off with this happening all the time.

Chynah · 08/12/2011 22:35

YABU about the drive. I have people park ON mine daily and it drives me nuts!

callmemrs · 08/12/2011 22:37

Yabu about the driveway. The woman was clearly going to be more than a couple of minutes as she was getting a child and baby out. No one has a right to block someone elses driveway. Lazy cow should have parked a bit further away if necessary- it wouldn't have hurt her!

serin · 08/12/2011 22:37

YABU re the drive, some of the driving outside our school is mind blowing. I once watched an otherwise lovely friend park on someones display of daffodils, squashing them all flat, because she was slightly late.

Frazzled mum needs to realise that her child will just have to wait in school until she gets there, the world wont end.

sweetsantababy · 08/12/2011 22:37

sigh yes yabu, yes lovley holding a baby and all that.

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baubleybobbityhat · 08/12/2011 22:41

Driveway owner could have parked on the road! There is free parking on the road - she could have seen that Frazzled mum had a lot on her plate and just driven up 1 minutes walk away. DH and I went out Christmas shopping at 10am and driveway Mum's car was NOT on her drive (ie. she had gone out again, within an hour of making Frazzled mum move).

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Miette · 08/12/2011 22:42

When you live somewhere that has a driveway that frequently gets parked across you just get really impatient with it I'm afraid, however squidgy the baby. I sometimes get parked in so i then cannot get out of my own drive when i need to. I have no sympathy with people that park across a drive as a result. I just wouldn't do it myself. I'd keep driving until i found somewhere.

callmemrs · 08/12/2011 22:47

So... Let me' get this right. The driveway Owner should have parked on the road. But its ok for some random stranger to park across her drive??

You have already mentioned that the driveway owner had kids in her car too. Why should she have to park less conveniently rather than unload her Children safely on HER drive? And why shouldn't she go out again an hour later? Is there a rule about not being allowed out?

WhoopsyLa · 08/12/2011 22:49

YANBU.... I offered to covet hold a woman's baby at a party that my DD went to recently when said woman had sick all dwown her pants....and she said "No."

I must look like a baby snatcher!

ShellyBoobs · 08/12/2011 22:49

Driveway owner could have parked on the road! There is free parking on the road

Slightly confusing then. Why did frazzled mum have to park over someone's driveway if there was other parking available?

Extreeemely jealous of your baby cuddle, though.

VivaLeBeaver · 08/12/2011 22:50

Nope, no way should driveway owner have had to park a minutes walk away. No way at all.

I have no sympathy with drive blockers, you just don't do it. Why couldn't inconsiderate frazzled mum just parked a minutes walk away in the first place?

MeconiumHappens · 08/12/2011 22:51

YABU. If you buy a house with a drive you shouldnt have to park up the road so someone else can park in front of it. PLus yummy baby time only made possible because of driveway lady :)

clam · 08/12/2011 22:52

"she could have parked on the road." Sure, but why the hell should she? Presumably she has paid more to live in a house with a drive, purely so she has the luxury of parking on it. The frazzled mum was totally and utterly in the wrong, regardless of how squidgy her baby was. And well done to the patient child on the pavement too.

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baubleybobbityhat · 08/12/2011 22:52

Erm, no, the driveway owner did not have children in her car but the driveway owner does have two small children so might possibly have been able to empathise with how much work it is to get a little kid and a baby who has to go in and out of a carseat to school and back.

The driveway owner went out again within the hour.

Could she not have just let the poor frazzled mum with the reception aged child and the 6 month old baby get on with it and get to school and leave her be?

Well, I would have, so I think she was bu.

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wildfig · 08/12/2011 22:54

If drive-parking mum had parked on the road instead of on her own drive, it would have taken a Zone 2 parking space away from a different frazzled mum later on. So SWBNU (and her 4x4/double driveway is also her own business).

Baby cuddle sounds nice though.

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