to think that people judge you based on your childs haircut

[DamnBamboo]

Well do they?

Do you judge children's parents based on what they do to their kids hair?

Assuming that it's the parents choice rather than the child's when they're very young (

I judge - gelled/moussed/highlighted/too short/too many accessories/numbers cut in to it in a shaved fashion/silly ponytails and shaved one side - all as utterly common.

When you say you judge as common, is this an automatic

And how short is too short Laurie?

In DS1 nursery there is a little girl with pink hair

I accidently gave both my boys number 2 haircuts last month instead of 5 which they have normally, oops! I didn't like it initally myself, was really mad at myself but you know what, it's only hair, it grew so quickly. If your friend is worried she should mention it as an icebreaker, 'can't believe I did this, look how short his hair is' story.

That's what I did when people said, oh have they had their hair cut (cue raised eyebrows) I just said yep, by their daft mother, you'll never guess what I did...

My DD has been choosing her own hairstyle for about a year now, she is 4!

She has it in a quite short sort of bob which is quite unusual for little girls round here (they all have very long hair).

I wouldn't let her have a skinhead though...mainly because people would assume she's a boy and that would upset her.

I wouldn't judge any parent on haircuts, my ds1 had golden curls for ages because we couldn't get him to sit for a haircut. We finally did a short cut and got millions of comments bemoaning the lovely hair . He is somewhere in between now, I'm not a fan of a really short cut for him, it doesn't suit, but luckily he will sit in a barbers chair now.

Dd really does need a cut, it's a bit straggly. Ds2 is 2 and has straggly blonde curls, he really could do with a trim, but I don't think I have the heart to buzz cut him, it would look odd like it did with ds1. I think I will trim him myself, he would no way sit for a hairdresser.

For example, a six year old boy, with a very very short cut with clippers? What would you think of this?

Nits! or highly sporty. Maybe both! All my boys had number 4's until they hit secondary school and chould choose for themselves.

I do judge on tramlines, patterns and pierced ears on boys of an infant primary school age though. And that ferret rat thing some are now wearing.

Sixfeet just curious, but how did you give them both numbers 2 haircuts? Surely you noticed your error after the first one?

Did you just want to make them look the same?

Damn, it's back to nits again.

I just don't want him starting school with parents thinking he's had a such a bad case of them it's had to be shorn off.

He's never even had them, not that it matters either way since loads of kids get them.

First impressions and all that?

I'm being silly aren't I?

I mean my friend is being silly of course?

Experience tells me that little boys (age 5-10) with trendy haircuts (mohicans, buzz-cuts, lightning zig-zags, dyed hair, hair gel) - or earrings - are trouble. They are the ones fighting in the playground, swearing, throwing things in class... Not sure why, unless the parents are so focused on little Ryan's appearance that they don't bother with his behaviour. So yes, I would judge.

Amber I agree that Maypole is mainly referring to white mothers of mixed race children but my friend is a black mum and her mixed race daughter's hair can only be described as "nappy". Talking to her, she seems to believe that her daughter's hair is more caucasian than afro (due to her father being white) and treats it as such, it's a shame.

Also, I see a far few nappy headed mixed race children where I live and I honestly want to ask their mums if I can help them.

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I hope people don't judge you on your child's haircut. Despite my best efforts of hiding anything that could be remotely sharpe dd2 has a habit of cutting her own hair, failing that she sticks things in it so we have to cut it

Dd1 has a fringe, then she grows it out and it looks messy for a while, then it gets longer and we get some layers cut in around the front to blend it, then she decides she wants a fringe, we cut a fringe in, then she grows it out.....

Longer hair - creative, arty types; into music and drama. (my son)

Shorter hair - no opinion

Short clipped hair - sporty, badly behaved, spit a lot. (DH's nephews that we never see because they are badly behaved, spit (honestly!) and swear)

StopRaining - yep, that is my general experience too, although I am aware that I have been very wrong in these assumptions!!!

Longer hair can just as easily mean: doesn't have the energy to wrestle screaming child and pin them into chair to get hair cut, again, resulting in bloodshed.

Trust me on that one.

Very short hair can also mean: child has mad professor thick hair that sticks out at alarming angles as soon as it grows past 3 cms.

This I can also attest to.

My boys have dreads. I get judged. I dont care. Its the best way to care for their beautiful hair.
My youngest has the MOST scrumptious afro you have ever seen. I could comb it for hours and hours.

My 4 year old had glorious longish wavy hair but he hacked at it with nursery scissors so I had to cut it last night (sob)

I'm a white mum with mixed race girls.
I get quite paranoid at what other mums (especially black mums) think about my DDs hair.
I do comb it, oil it (Lusters pink hair lotion), and only wash it once per week (Dark and Lovely shampoo and conditioner) but their hair can look quite messy and the oil ends up looking really greasy sometimes.
Do you have any tips maypole ? My town has no afro hair salons.

Why on earth would anyone judge you for your child having dreads? How awful? They can feel free to judge me if they want. Cut both my kids hair and on second thoughts I should probably stick to the day job!

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MrsDeVere You get judged for your kids having dreads??!!! I think dreads on children are gorgeous! What do you think their judgement is?!

MrsDeVere I love love love dreads on kids!
There was three boys at my school when little with them and they looked great.

One used to wear a Bob Marley hat and the other a headband. So cool, back in the 80's

Well I got my DS hair cut this evening at the barbers. He's 21 months and we went with a short back and sides using the clippers for the first time.

It is quite short but he has plenty still on top.

Personally I think short hair on boys is easier to manage, quicker to dry after a bath & really smart.

I wouldn't judge anyone else. Your child's hair is your choice. I can see how others may judge very short hair though.

People MNers think they are gross and dirty.

I think they are lovely and yum.

Interstingly my boys with dreads have never had nits. My poor DD had them almost all through primary. It used to take me 2 hours to comb her hair through.

We used to call her Billie Big Hair

Too short is number one all over.

Dreads are nice.

BourbonSprouts try these products

I first use a detangling spray by pretty and silky
www.yourhairandbeauty.com/index.php/kids-care/pcj-pretty-n-silky/pcj-pretty-n-silky-detangling-spray-12oz.html

I then use a hair scalp conditioner by beautiful beginnings
www.loveafrocosmetics.com/beautiful-beginnings-hair--scalp-conditioning-soothercode-bfb012-159-p.asp

You Need to use a wide tooth comb never use a brush
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Try these products pink protection can be very greasy, BourbonSprouts I not know if you know how to Cain row but it lasts all week you remove it on the Friday then redo it on Sunday night before bed it's also a lovely tradition to pass down you can get links off you tube

Are they sleeping with their hair in a pony tale with a scarf every night

when
Swimming all ways use a swimming hat

One simple hair style is parting the hair into four then plait to the end and fasten with a bobble

bourbon mixed hair is different from afro hair and products for afro hair can be too heavy. Thats why they can make the hair greasy.

Unfortunately all my 5 have totally different hair so just when I get the hang of one type out pops another and I have to start all over again.

My DD's was lovely and wavy then she got to about 5 and the texture changed and we never really got the hang of it. I had a friend who had her overnight and had a secret plan to sort out her hair because she thought I was being all dim and white about it (in the nicest possible way). She returned her to me sheepishly and admitted what she had tried to do and that she was utterly defeated

She really had the most beautiful hair. It was utterly mad but gorgeous. She had so much of it that even after 18mths of chemo she never lost it all.