to think that people judge you based on your childs haircut

[DamnBamboo]

Well do they?

Do you judge children's parents based on what they do to their kids hair?

Assuming that it's the parents choice rather than the child's when they're very young (

Our DS had a no. 2 when he was about 6. He's almost 17 now and attends one of the most selective day schools in the country. We were sick of nits .

Be thankful that you have some control over children younger than 8 and what sort of hair they have. I am sick of ds nicking my mousse, my hairbrush, my hairspray - but his hair has to be very perfect before he leaves the house. . Thee and me would pay a fortune for his natural blonde locks.

My 3yo's is usually clean (if you look past the glue and food) and occasionally brushed. She likes it the way it is and if she's happy I'm happy!

I wouldn't judge your 'friend' op. I would judge if the child had patterns shaved into the hair above the ear as seems to be popular with some people around here for some mind boggling reason!

yup! all clipper or shaved or whatever it's called hair dos! I think most hair CUTS look cute on littlies, but my cut off is it has to be long enough to be trimmed with a scissors

Depends if they're wearing a football kit.

I only judge parents who have those patterns shaved into little boys' hair, or dyed hair on young children, wouldn't judge anything else. Loads of people judged me because my son's hair was very long when he was little - it was almost shoulder length and flicky and beautiful. They assumed that I was babying him but I just thought it looked cool and different to the usual short back and sides. I don't like very long hair on older boys but surfer dude hair is lovely.

Ok, so general consensus here is not bothered.

Although with little boys with short hair, the possibility of prolonged nit-infestation might crop up.

So my 'friends' boy is starting a new school tomorrow, just one settling in day before he goes there after Christmas since they are moving house into a new area nex week. Friend is considering not sending him because hair is so short and the nit-thing may be an issue and she doesn't want him to be unfairly judged on this.

What should friend do?

Pretty much like that, yes. But I guess I shouldn't say anything judgy about it because I'm oppressing people's human rights.

i used to work in an inner city school and did a face when one of the black kids called one of the other black kids 'nappy head'.

i let ds2's hair grow for as long as i could stand then it just started looking a mess so the clippers came out. i'd love them to have long floppy hair but it just doesn't work.
i do judge the 3yr old in ds's class with gel in his spiked up hair.

Im afraid I did judge the parents of a boy in dd2's class. He had a mohawk with totally shaved sides with the actual mohawk dyed bright and I really mean bright blue. It was around 3 inches high as well. He was 7 at the time.

If that makes me a twat for judging then Im a twat

Seriously, what's nappy hair/head supposed to mean?

EWW at the earing on that poor chap gold
why oh why would someone dress their lovely little chap up like that sort

Maybe if your friend just sees how here DS is feeling in general - whether he is over-excited by the move or whatever and just play it by ear. If its just one day and she's really stressing then she might be better telling the school he's poorly just for that day. If he's not sporting a long fringe or a pony-tail / shaven combo then she's probably not going to get black-listed or whatever it is she fears!

Gold that is a terrible haircut.

He doesn't look too happy about it either

i would only judge you if he also had those zigzags cut into it or tramlines etc, or if he has a matching earring, and labelled tracksuit.

I'm judging the orange wallpaper boarder on that photo from Gold right now.

re the first day boy: about 50% of little boys round here have the short short hair, so he wouldn't stand out, but I might assume his parents probably wouldn't wanna hang out with me there seems to be a bit of a divide between clipper sorts and hair cut sorts, don't think its BECAUSE of the hair though

Why do you think they wouldn't want to hang out with you grumple?
What is different about you and them? What kind of divide?

thebigkahuna maypole is refering to mixed race children with white mums who dont know how to look after their hair, its one of the common stereotypes and TBH I havent seen any examples to back it in years and I live in London where there are lots of mixed race families.

Dry/nappy basically means unkempt, uncombed unoiled afro hair.

Your 'friend' should let her boy have his settling in session at school.

He is there to meet other children, and they won't judge him for his hair. And if any parents openly judge him or your friend badly, then your freind will know who to not bother with. There will be plenty of time to make up for any bad first impressions, but I don't think a little boy will be able to make a bad impression just because he has short hair. And I'm sure your friend will give a lovely impression of herself, so no need to worry there

Border even

I chat to everyone, but the ones interested in chatting back all have hair CUT kids. The clippered ones tend to have younger parents who seem to stick together (despite my maybescaryoverenthusiatic efforts to mix with everyone)

Loads of kids round here have very short hair. Ds has fairly longish hair just now because he hates getting it cut and I have bigger worries tbh. He is also very blonde but is most definitely NOT angelic or girly!

I wouldn't judge someone unless they had dyed a childs hair I don't think.

I don't judge dyed hair on kids, especially not in festival season... again unless its clippered

The first thing about Afro hair is you cannot wash it every day it will dry out and brake

I first use a detangling spray by pretty and silky
www.yourhairandbeauty.com/index.php/kids-care/pcj-pretty-n-silky/pcj-pretty-n-silky-detangling-spray-12oz.html

I then use a hair scalp conditioner by beautiful beginnings
www.loveafrocosmetics.com/beautiful-beginnings-hair--scalp-conditioning-soothercode-bfb012-159-p.asp

You Need to use a wide tooth comb never use a brush
www.google.co.uk/search?q=wide+tooth+comb&oe=UTF-8&hl=en&client=safari&um=1&ie=UTF-8&tbm=isch&source=og&sa=N&tab=wi&ei=uxrhTsD6JceV8gOcusTBCg&biw=1024&bih=690&sei=wBrhTt-PA4bT8QOQicHzBA

You can get all these products from any afro hair shop

Actually, I just remembered (in the 80's) my mum putting a home perm on my beautiful, blonde 7 yr old hair because she thought it was 'too thick and heavy'. WTF? I'm judging that.