ok.. am i being mean to NOT let dd2 go to the pantomime with the school today, not sure now school seem to think i am

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dd2 is 4 and I'd say about 3/4 of the school are going. Her 9 year old sister is going and most of year 6 as well as all the infant classes.

At the time I didnt have the money for them both to go and dd2 didnt seem fussed anyway, she hasnt mentioned it all today and was looking forward to the dvd afternoon that the school have planned for the ones staying behind. I dont honestly think she would get that much out of it anyway,

Her class teacher said to me yesterday, why isnt she going, she'll be left out and there wont be many kids left in the school anyway o I should keep her off, another teacher said no bring her in, theres quite a few not going and they have planned things for those not going.

So now I have JUST got a phone call from the school asking again why she wasnt going when her sister was, there was a ticket spare and did I want it. When I still said no I'd rather she stayed in the school (because the wind is quite bad here and I want her local as shes only 4. dd1 is ok cos shes older and more able to look after herself iyswim) it was meant with a deadly silence and then oh ok, well she'll be missing out.

I did think yeah and the school will be missing out on a tenner thats why the school rang

Perhaps i am mean I don't know. sorry its rambly and full of bad spelling and grammar, very tired.

yesterday her class teacher

well dd2 none the wiser and happy.

dd1 is still not home coach is an hour late and no one seems to know where they are. her dad has just text me to say hes worried as I am now

Oh dear, poor you, I expect the coach driver is just taking it easy and driviing slow and ateady if it is bad weather and they will be back soon.

Is she home yet?

Speed limits are lower today OP and a lot of people left work early so rush hour is much earlier than normal IYSWIM. Try not to worry, I'm sure they'll be home soon.

Also, it is still early in the panto season and they do run over time

no idea if yabu or yanbu about the panto
but so with you about the wind, it is the worst type of weather I hate it and can only relax when everyone is home.

yes she got home ok, her dad picked her up an hour after she was due home, no idea why they were so late, will ask her tomorrow shes sleeping at her dads tonight

Thanks to all that replied to this thread

YANBU I went along with my DTs when they were just turned 4. One of them (which I predicted in advance and why I went in the first place) and lots of other children were crying at the 'baddies'. Many enjoyed it too but there was a small group who found it scary and needed alot of reassurance. There also wasn't that much supervision with toileting etc, a child could have wondered off etc so a 4 year old is very young in that situation in a dark theatre with lots of people and not many helpers. My scared DS missed it the next year too but the year after he went and loved it. Some kids are abit young at 4 for trips/panto.