Drinking whilst TTC

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I was wondering what peoples stance is
I'm not atm,
Is it acceptable to drink in small amounts/moderation whilst ttc or completely teetotal.
I dont agree with ladette style binges whilst ttc but is a little bit okay, Is it a case of 'dont behave like you're pregnant until you know you are?? Or before?

ObiWan (I'm scared to try grapes before I buy them now)

i did on both times, once 2 blue lines appeared i stopped all together.

If people don't KNOW you're TTC you won't be judged, if they do know and they're nice people, they still won't judge.

Many mums (me included) weren't actually actively TTC and found out we were pregnant, counted back and realised we'd had a proper binge a few weeks before when we were probably pregnant at the time. I wouldn't judge anyone for that. Though there's an obvious sense of guilt involved.

TTC can be a loooong emotional process, and in my opinion, if you're not pregnant, you can give yourself a break occassionally, whether that means you have a drink or just stop trying for a while.

Its between you and your conscience. If you want to enjoy a drink, but are actively TTC and therefore very conscious of what's happening in your body, and would feel awful if you DID have a drink, why not take a small break in TTC?

Having never been in your situation my guilt has been in hindsight, and its very real, but if you're not pregnant you shouldn't feel bad about having a few more than one drink.

As with most things, everything in moderation!

I was under the impression that it helped. It certainly seems to work for 15yr olds, especially if they hang around in the park after dark too.

Why on earth would anyone judge someone who isn't even pg yet for having a drink? That absolutely baffles me. That's like judging someone for being over the limit in the morning then finding out they can't even drive yet.

FWIW I cut down dramatically in my first year ttc (because I thought it would improve my chances of pg, not because of anyone else's opinions) but after a year of unsuccessful trying I went back to normal (fairly heavy social drinking).

(obviously I stopped once I was pg!)

Why on earth would anyone judge someone who isn't even pg yet for having a drink? That absolutely baffles me. That's like judging someone for being over the limit in the morning then finding out they can't even drive yet.

Full clap! Agreed.

OP, do you live somewhere with a lot of fuckwitted misogynistic bullies around? Because there are people stupid and unpleasant enough to believe that women of childbearing age should avoid alcohol in case they damage potential foetuses, because after all women are only incubators.
In terms of TTC and general wellbeing, do what makes you feel comfortable. Moderate drinking during pregnancy is not generally harmful.
And do bear in mind that even if you are completely obedient, compliant and self-denying throughout the TTC period and the pregnancy, even if you do your best to follow entirely contradictory advice about diet, habits, stress, etc, there is still no guarantee of a live healthy baby at the end of it. So do what suits you and your life.

just to clarify, I will be TTC soon which is why im asking

My twins were conceived in a total haze of alcohol and they are incredibly normal and well adjusted, at uni and very happy. I did stop completely when I found out I was preggers but before that I was in the throws of Xmas, in fact I think Father Christmas might be their Dad, I really can't remember!

I think it depends.

If you are worried about your fertility and want to do everything you can to boost it probably wise to remain teetotal (and eat v healthily too) although unlikely occasional wine would make a difference.

Other than that as long as not drinking irresponsibly don't see why not, and again occasional wine with a meal when pregnant fine too.

I would say it is fine to drink while TTC, yes.
But as a non-teetotal pregnant person, I think I'm biased.

And yes, science-wise it is because the baby (well embryo) is fed from the yolk for the first 6 weeks, not directly from you :)

Hell no. I would have had a very dull 2011 if I had, with lots of social events (weddings etc) feeling resentful towards merry friends and work networking evenings that would have seemed interminable. Conceiving can take years, after all. It's not a good idea to put aspects of your life on hold while you try as this makes it all the more stressful.

I don't binge and try not to have more than 2 glasses on any occasion but I have drunk moderately throughout. I love wine and would feel even more down and resentful about how long it is taken without the occasional glass of wine.

I'm always surprised at people who tell each other and discuss the fact they are ttc...I can't imagine telling anyone.

I think long term alcohol isn't great for fertility, but unless you are downing bottles of vodka every night you should be ok. I had a few glasses of wine at the weekend when ttc and then stopped when I found out I was pregnant. I then had the odd small glass in the latter half of pregnancy.

I think if you are having problems conceiving turbot might be a good idea to stop or reduce your intake. If not I don't think that you are doing anything wrong. Its not as though you are causing harm to a developing embryo/ fetus.

Oh my god! Predictive spelling - a turbot!!! That should say " it might"!

My pfb was conceived around the time his father and I got married, and I had three hen nights, an afternoon reception and an evening reception, and we spent about four days out of our trees, first with stress and then with relief and consumed the equivalent of the European wine lake
This was in 1990 though and nobody much seemed to care what pregnant women did or didn't do... (he is fine btw)
By the time I had no4 son (no5 child) in 2006, almost everything the midwives/HV told me as Gospel during my first pregnancy was the exact opposite. Obviously fetal alcohol syndrome is real and can be disastrous, and drinking is not exactly a healthy pastime anyway, but I don't think one or two drinks, once or twice during a pregnancy, will do anyone any harm.
Swigging from the bottle of Lambrini with a cigar in your other hand and doing the Lambada on the nightclub table every night otoh probably would...

Like this you mean? WARNING! pic not terribly work safe as the evil selfish irresponsible etc etc woman is NEKKID as well as drinking and smoking.

Of course it ok to drink when you are do not know not pregnant. I have not read th thread but can of worms. Personally I have no issue with moderate drinking in pregnancy.

DS was conceived on the evening of the mother of all binges - horrid day at work, went straight to the pub, lock in, several large g&ts at home, plus many, many cigarettes and then a month of moderate drinking and smoking after that before I did the test (immediately before which I had 2 beers and chainsmoked during their consumption, knowing they would be my last ever ciggies). BFP and stopped point blank with the booze until I was 6 months pg, then had a glass of wine or two a week until he was born, as I really didn't care about being judged.

No side effects for DS, though it didn't stop DP and I feeling terribly guilty and questioning the midwives about whether a life being created by two utterly bladdered humans was a terrible thing to have done. We were TTC in a very informal way at the time (basically stopped using protection on the off chance) and got pg during my 2nd cycle off the pill.

As a PP said, bottoms up (and don't tell anyone you're TTC, that way madness lies)!

Ninky a few weeks ago my waitress told me that she was both TTC and OVing. I was delighted for her, obviously, but was a slight overshare ...

You have come to the right place if you don't want to be judged

I did drink when TTC this baby, which took 9 months. I don't know anyone who stopped, TBH.

However, when I found out I was pg, I was 7 weeks - over halfway through the first trimester. When I flicked through my diary and remembered many merry nights out of cockails and red wine, I have to admit I felt a bit guilty. I think I would try to cut right down next time.